Is ALT.COM worth the money?

[nurse_erotic05]

We were on adult friend finder before and the speed of the web site was almost unusable. Alt.com looks identical to adult friend finder as is the speed. I don't want to waste the money on it if it's going to be the same thing as AFF.

Are there any other sites with BDSM type personals that don't suck?

 

[rosco rathbone]

Alt.com is a sucker game.

 

[h_i_s]

And ... there IS an active discussion on this board (which was started quite recently) where many have posted opinions based on their own experiences regarding ALT.COM.

Perhaps you might benefit in reading the many opinions already posted at that thread: alt.com Discussion

 

[sincerely_helene]

Alt.com is a sucker game.

Them's fighten' words.

 

[nurse_erotic05]

And ... there IS an active discussion on this board (which was started quite recently) where many have posted opinions based on their own experiences regarding ALT.COM.

Perhaps you might benefit in reading the many opinions already posted at that thread: alt.com Discussion

Thanks I didn't realize there was already a thread on that

 

[nurse_erotic05]

 

[Summer_Jasmine]

Nurse - I think I remember seeing you on AFF... Not fantastic results from AFF and I opened an Alt.com account, but didn't want to pay anything for it, so I'm kind of ignoring it currently.

I'm not as newbie as I appear btw - - I had to change my user name because my soon to be ex found some of my old posts on here and is using them against me for custody and divorce stuff.

 

[ghosst_K&H]

Collar Me is ten times better than ALT, and free.

 

[DVS]

Collar Me is ten times better than ALT, and free.

Well, I wouldn't say collarme is ten times better than Alt, but being free is high on my list. Collarme is better than Alt, for sure. It doesn't have any special things like the love dog and fancy ways of sending winks or viewing videos, etc. But, with a little luck, it works.

God, did I say that? I guess I still have hope for myself!

 

[hazel43]

Hello DVS, it is nice to see you back on Lit

Are there any other sites with BDSM type personals that don't suck?

As a financially challenged individual, I could not consider spending money on ALT. However I found a free site called bdsmsexdates.com. Unfortunately, there were very few actual BDSM people there. It does have a chat room that can be enjoyably hot. The site has about the same spyware that I catch on Yahoo.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I think there is good and bad on all the sites...just takes some filtering and applying the inbuilt radar and common sense. We actually met through a small site in Europe though we were both listed on the bigger, more commercially known sites as well. If you are meant to meet it will happen I guess.

Catalina

 

[restraints69]

I would think you could get all the attention you could handle in this room alone. *S*

 

[DVS]

The two subs I met online both answered the same add I had on some personals thing. Now, with all of the problems I'm having, I wish I could remember where that was. That's about 1,000 times better than the luck I've had, recently.

I knew the girlfrind of the site owner. Well, I met her on another site we were both members of. Her name was Laura and he was Shawn. She was in her 30s and he in his 20s. All they were into was spanking...not Dom and sub. Purists, I guess. And the site reflected their tastes.

I don't remember anything really very kinky ever happening. The main site was like the place to meet and chat, and you could create your own private rooms and invite others for a private session, if you wanted. Maybe that's where all of the fun stuff was going on.

It had a smaller sister site that was for personals. On a lark, I posted an ad. I couldn't believe it when not one, but TWO women answered the ad. Both newbies and both quite attractive. Damn, I must have said something in that ad that works, but I'm at a loss as to what it was.

I'm not exactly sure of the site name, but it was something like spanking.com spankme.com or something like that. I'm SURE it wasn't one of those names exactly, but I do remember it had spank in it.

I've tried to find the site, but I think it might no longer exist. It was going quite well, a few years ago, but sometimes people get burned out on things. Strange...at the time, as popular as it was, you'd think it would always be there.

But, my point is, it might not be necessary to have much more than a place to post an ad. I didn't meet these ladies in that large chat room of the site. They just answered my ad, and it progressed from there.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

The Online Ad Rules According To Geoff

Rule Number 1 - Alt.com, AFF, Collarme.com, MingledHearts, and any other Online "adult" personals site, doesn't matter which one, is slap full to the gunwales with HNG's - Horney Net Geeks - looking for cyber fantasy wanking material.

Rule Number 2 - There are a few legitimate BDSM'ers using those sites.

Rule Number 3 - Don't EXPECT any of them to find you based on your personal ad, use the freaking chat rooms and groups to filter the bozos from the legit.

Rule Number 4 - Expect to kiss a LOT of , even if they are legitimate kinksters, before you find a decent match up.

Rule Number 5 - Get out from behind your computer, get involved in your local BDSM community (or one nearby) and network, Network, NETWORK.

Alt.com, even with a free profile, is no better or worse than Collarme. Bozos abound on both sites.

Good hunting,
- Geoff

 

[shy slave]

I have said this before but I will say it again lol.

I am a fan of alt.
EG is right it is full of idiots but so is Lit and every other place that talks about sex.

I met my ex on alt and I met Andante on alt. I met the first man I ever played with in a BDSM sense on alt.
I don't regret a penny of the money I spent to join and meet any of them (especially the last one who flew to London just to meet me )

I have joined collarme and frankly I don't even get interesting cyber geeks. Plus some of the profiles I read seem to be less reality that I am prepared to believe.

Personally I joined a pay site because I thought it would weed out many of the idiots, in that respect I think i was right.

However, as cat said; if you are meant to meet them somewhere..you will.

 

[FurryFury]

Nurse - I think I remember seeing you on AFF... Not fantastic results from AFF and I opened an Alt.com account, but didn't want to pay anything for it, so I'm kind of ignoring it currently.

I'm not as newbie as I appear btw - - I had to change my user name because my soon to be ex found some of my old posts on here and is using them against me for custody and divorce stuff.

That's horrible Summer_Jasmine!

*HUGS*

Fury

 

[NoLeafClover7]

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[shy slave]

Personally I don't much care for alt. I don't know a whole lot of better sites out there though so unless I hear something better than Alt, I'm stuck(CollarMe is alright, but not a lot of people). Not only does Alt charge out the ass just to join, but they are ridiculous about reading your e-mails you send through "to weed out spammers". As a standard member you can interact and send e-mails to other people depending on how often your profile is viewed, but I find the e-mail rules rather ridiculous, since you have to exchange a certain amount of in-site "e-mails" before you can give the person your AIM/Yahoo screenname or normal e-mail address. I think its just a ploy to get more money out of you than it is for security reasons, and Alt is hoping your profile goes back to not getting so much activity so that you have no hope of contacting someone without paying.

This may sound like I'm overblowing it, but I guarantee you that has something to do with it. They just want more money. I know they're trying to run a business but there comes a point where some measures they implement just get ridiculous! Of course I'm someone who is a privacy hawk and resents any intrusion into my privacy, so I'm probably getting a bit more irritated than some people might about that.

I see you POV but alt only expects you to exchange two onsite mails before exchange of info. Considering you can post two mails one after the other to another person, I can't see it is a big deal.

You can also write out your email addy, if you don't use the @ sign it appeas as conversation.

There are ways around things.

I do think it can be costly though.

I was on a vanilla dating site, then discovered BDSM and forgot I still had an acoount with the other site. It was several months of auto payments before I noticed

 

[ownedsubgal]

well i have to say first that i am very much against "personals" in general because i believe in living your life, letting things flow naturally, etc., at least when it comes to serious/committed relationships.

so know that what i'm about to say isn't coming from the perspective of one who has ever done the dating/personals/looking for that special someone thing. my Master and i have both individual and couples profiles on both alt and collarme. while my main objective in these places is to do nerdy stuff like chat or post on message boards with complete strangers, my Master's main objective is to meet other lifestylers for the purpose of socializing. for my purposes, collarme, and even lit here, is much better. for his purposes, alt is leaps and bounds better.

in our experiences, we just haven't had as difficult of a time finding real, genuine people on alt as we've had in other places. of course, every site will have more than it's fair share of 100% cyber or roleplayers, not to mention just general idiots, but collarme just seems to have an overwhelming abundance of these types. we have met (in person) a handful of people from collarme, and thus far, without exception every one of them has turned out to be either merely into elaborate roleplay (in which "master" and "slave" were the characters) or they have just been completely confused/inexperienced/ignorant about the lifestyle. these are not the sort of folks we're looking for.

we like serious people, who take this way of life seriously, and don't view it as some fun game to play or some temporary diversion from real life. and as of yet we haven't had any problems finding such people on alt. we've probably met more than a dozen folks from alt over the years, most of whom we still keep in touch/socialize with. for a couple of years we had a pay membership, but now we have the standard free one, and it hasn't changed anything at all as far as meeting the right kind of people. so there are ways around the money aspect if that's a problem.

 

[Shagly]

Rule Number 1 - Alt.com, AFF, Collarme.com, MingledHearts, and any other Online "adult" personals site, doesn't matter which one, is slap full to the gunwales with HNG's - Horney Net Geeks - looking for cyber fantasy wanking material.

Rule Number 2 - There are a few legitimate BDSM'ers using those sites.

Rule Number 3 - Don't EXPECT any of them to find you based on your personal ad, use the freaking chat rooms and groups to filter the bozos from the legit.

Rule Number 4 - Expect to kiss a LOT of , even if they are legitimate kinksters, before you find a decent match up.

Rule Number 5 - Get out from behind your computer, get involved in your local BDSM community (or one nearby) and network, Network, NETWORK.

Alt.com, even with a free profile, is no better or worse than Collarme. Bozos abound on both sites.

Good hunting,
- Geoff

Now those rules make perfect sense, networking is mandatory.

 

[Soumis]

I don't use alt.com, so my experience with them is a bit different, I only know the people who are willing to put themselves out there in public space. Their "Southern Room" holds a munch and play party at a local dungeon once a month. The people I have met through that are nice and their munches always include informative speaking by one of the members. It might be worthwhile to find out if there is a comperable group in your area to make alt.com worth the cost.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I don't use alt.com, so my experience with them is a bit different, I only know the people who are willing to put themselves out there in public space. Their "Southern Room" holds a munch and play party at a local dungeon once a month. The people I have met through that are nice and their munches always include informative speaking by one of the members. It might be worthwhile to find out if there is a comperable group in your area to make alt.com worth the cost.

The Carolinas Room has socials as well... *grins*

 

[Otherkorean]

As a formerly poor college student (now just poor ;_ I would just like to ask: Why don't you try out the sites that allow you limited use before payment to see how you like them? That way if you don't like the way they're set up you don't have to commit.

 

[callinectes]

We met via the personals ads on Collarme. I guess we were lucky as we both only had our ads up for a couple of weeks before we connected and then finally met. Neither of us post on the forums there. I can honestly say that I did bump into a few bozos at Collarme but the majority of the men I communicated with were very nice guys but our needs, interests, etc. didn't mesh well.

Munches simply were not an option for me. I can't fathom showing up to an event where I don't know a soul, I'm just not that outgoing. Secondly, right or wrong, I would feel like I was going to a meat market. Lastly, due to my job and other factors I just can't be that open.

 

[catalina_francisco]

One of the worst things with Alt is if you want to create a second paid profile (for reasons such as being a couple and wanting 2 profiles, appealing to different groups etc.,), they won't let you. They pick up on the fact you are using the same credit card and unless you get another credit card with a new number, they won't accept you paying for a second profile. Doesn't even matter if you are paying for someone else who doesn't have a credit card, or you might want to give them a membership as a gift...no can do is there policy. Personally I can't see their problem as long as they get paid.

Catalina