IRL Freeuse?

[BillTheKatt90]

A recurring fantasy of mine is that my wife and I move from where we are (I initiate, she rarely says "no") is the concept of freeuse.

Any of you folks have an express "freeuse" policy in your household, where you can just walk over to your partner anywhere, anytime, and under any circumstances you get the urge and go to town? If so, is there a common etiquette or set of rules free users typically follow (as antithetical as that sounds)?

 

[AnnieLit]

What difference with the current situation are you looking for? To me I initiate, she rarely says "no" sounds like she never says "no" without a good reason. Since outside of fiction you don't want to take that option away from her (if she has an appointment somewhere and is already running late, do you really want her to stay and wait for you to finish? Or you would prefer her to start leaving for all of her appointments half an hour earlier to avoid this situation altogether?). So besides the thrill of being able to tell a friend that you have a "free use" of your wife, what practical changes are you looking for?

 

[BillTheKatt90]

I think the difference is one of significantly more spontaneity, since I don't talk to my friends about kinks (they think we are very vanilla).

However, I appreciate your insight, as I would prefer not to create aversions as you describe. Thank you for your input!

 

[AnnieLit]

Well, again, since you are the one who usually (always?) initiates, what's stopping you from doing it more often? I am not sure what spontaneity exactly means to you (I doubt that right now you have a fixed schedule), but if you follow the basic rule of not involving others in your kinks, you should be fine.

This is more or less how it was for us before kids with the main difference that it had nothing to do with D/s and from time to time I was the one initiating (and getting him annoyed for a second because this is a natural reaction of anybody who is busy, until they realize why exactly they are being bothered.)

 

[lanceGibs]

Relationships are not made in a day and spooled in moments.
While i live away from the hustle bustle of city life in a modern Western country i understand what commitments the two of you speak about.
I am sure that in the "Real freeuse" situation the relationship should be such that both of you would appreciate the moment,the urgency and the need to jump to bed or wherever the free use is about to happen.

My view.