Intoducing my girlfriend softly into bondage

[mirikoya]

I have planned a romantic evening for my girlfriend and myself. My plan is to give her an erotic massage, at a certain moment I want to ask her if she remembers that she once convinced to me that she thought that the idea of being bound on the bed at my mercy looked very exciting to her. (6 months ago I confessed my (self)bondage adventures and after that we discussed the subject bondage. She also thought it could be exciting but didn?t have the nerve at that moment to try it out. She wasn?t ready for it she said.).

So if she answers positive and wants to try out bondage. I thinking of blindfolding her with a scarf and tie her hand to the headboard of the bed with rope or maybe leather wrist cuffs. I like the wrist cuffs because if she will start to panic I can unclip them very fast. I want to start very slowly with her and introduce her tenderly into the erotic world of BDSM. I hope that she likes it, so she will also understand why I like bondage so much.
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When blindfolded and bound with her hands to the headboard I?m going to continue the erotic massage on her front. When the massage and caressing almost ends I?m going to drive up the fire in her sex and at the end hope to have sex with her when she still is bound.
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Do you have some suggestions? do?s and don?ts? should I also try to tie her ankles or would that be too much for the first time? Any idea or suggestion is welcome.

 

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[VelvetDarkness]

Hi Mirikoya

I think that you definitely have the right approach with this. Being able to release someone quickly is very important for first time bondage. I would also recommend the wrist cuffs as knotted ropes or scarves can tighten during play as they are pulled on and if you're not careful you could damage delicate tendons and blood vessels in the wrist (you also don't want friction marks on her wrists for people to see the next day)

If you do go ahead with this let us know how things go.

 

[twysted73]

If I suggested anything....

It would be to set up the scene beforehand and hide the silk scarves under the sheets but within close reach so there's no hang time for her to get cold feet while you attach them. Then, as she lay there warm and tingling after this massage (avoid the obvious places when you do massage. Completely avoid direct contect but come as close as possible) lean in to her ear and whisper warmly into her ear..."Love/hon/*enter name here*, do you trust me?"

I find that sometimes too much talk kills an otherwise delightfully spontaneous moment. Since this is her first time out of the gate, don't go all four points (limbs) but leave her dominant hand free. This might help.
Tie a knot easy to pop (slip knot is easy).
And yes, DO let us know how things go.

 

[myinnerslut]

for a "soft intro" dont tie the blindfold around her head, just drape the fabric over her eyes. having a blindfold tied around me will always trigger fight or flight mode for me, for at least a second.... just having my eyes covered doesnt do that