Intimidating

[unme430]

People tell me I'm intimidating. Certainly not intentionally, but it has been independently corroborated. I'm wondering if it might be part of the reason I've had such trouble with dating.

Physically, I'm a very thin, but very tall woman. Taller than most men. While there's nothing I can do about it, I'm sure my height alone is partially responsible.

The really intimidating factor is my intelligence. I'm a cross-disciplinary engineer with many exciting projects. I'm regularly told I'm the smartest person someone has met. While flattering, apparently the intimidation factor is too much for most people.

I've tried to account for intimidation. I'm definitely not conceited, and I either don't mention, or downplay my skills as much as possible. I take a strong interest in what other people enjoy, and praise them for it. Despite my efforts, people ranging from former dates, to employers, to acquaintances I've just met have all called me intimidating.

What can I do? This situation is very lonely.

Edit: I forgot to mention: I like girls.

Darling, there's nothing better than a smart woman in my book. If a guy is intimidated by your brains, then I'd hazard a guess you'd be bored by his lack of brains. Truthfully, I'd much rather spend the evening talking with an intelligent woman than one who's every sentence ended with "you know" or "OMG!". You keep rocking your brains, nothing better than a sexy smart woman.

 

[Dyslexicea]

Darling, there's nothing better than a smart woman in my book. If a guy is intimidated by your brains, then I'd hazard a guess you'd be bored by his lack of brains. Truthfully, I'd much rather spend the evening talking with an intelligent woman than one who's every sentence ended with "you know" or "OMG!". You keep rocking your brains, nothing better than a sexy smart woman.

Being you're new to lit, let me welcome you.

Just a hint for future posting, learn to read the OP's complete post before commenting, I even recommend reading most of the thread. This makes me wonder what part of "Edit: I forgot to mention: I like girls.", you don't understand? If you'd have read more than her first post she makes in even clearer in post #17 by writing "I'm a lesbian", which makes your post about guys completely useless. She isn't asking about a platonic relationship with a man, what she is asking about is a romantic relationship with another woman.

I myself like to have intelligent conversations with men, at least on the rare occasion I can find an intelligent man, but her having conversations with men, intelligent or not, has nothing to do with her original post!