Intimacy/Sex Dislikes

[Snowman5933]

So often we think about all the things we like and enjoy, but do we ever really stop and think about our dislikes. I heard a very interesting discussion on this topic tonight on a talk radio show. They were talking about sexual dislikes and I thought it might make an interesting topic for discussion. Maybe there is something you just hate, or maybe its a partial dislike. My SO can't stand having her nipples played with unless she's on the verge of orgasm. One of the host said that she could not stand having anything done to her ears. I don't like not being able to see, be it a blindfold or just being asked to keep my eyes closed...I just don't like it.

So, what do you dislike?

 

[M's girl]

I'm quite sure there was this thread a while ago that handled turn offs. At this moment my biggest turn off is men (people in general too of course) who don't understand the simple concept of the word "no".

Also, I have my likes and dislikes but the way my body reacts is subject to hormonelevels that change during the month, making me more (or less) sensitive to touch and stimulation. I hate it when men (after I explained this to them over and over and over again) choose to write this off as a "woman changing her mind all the time" instead of learning to understand how our bodies work and learning to read our subtle hints to show men that right now is not 'that time'...

 

[lushlucid]

Ahhh men will never understand dear.
I don't think i could handle my boy having his eyes open the whole time.

I don't particularly like having my boobs played with during sex because they arent that senstive however if it turns him on im all for it

 

[KokopelliRises]

Personal dislikes:

1. When my clit is rubbed too hard. I don't know how many times I've had to tell someone to slow down or be softer.

2. When people think that I will get hurt easily and treat me accordingly. I don't, I'm not made of glass, sometimes I like things a little rough and I ask for it. I know what my boundaries are and I will say something if it is getting too painful.

3. Well, I can't actually think of a number three.

 

[truckerswife83]

My personal dislikes

1. Kisses that are too wet and sloppy.
2. Clit being rubbed too hard, it's a total turn off to have to say softer down there over and over.
3. Other things but just depends on the mood I'm in. What works one time may get SO slapped next time LOL.

 

[somberReality]

1. Bad kissers (gah, makes me wonder what else they are bad at!)
2. Men who talk too much (as in constantly, won't hush, even DURING sex....don't ask, it was bad)
3. No number 3 i can think of.....lol

 

[sutherngent985]

Oh yea...bad kissing is the tops with me. I have had women who just opened their mouths as wide as they could...felt like they were trying to swallow my face. Sloppy is ok, altho it depends on the woman and the moment. Oh and remember...kissing is a 2 way street. That means I like YOUR tongue in MY mouth too.

 

[Chicklet]

I want to add another 'bad kissing' comment. BLECH BAD KISSES!

and men who squeeze breasts like bike horns. HONK HONK.

 

[FurryFury]

1.)Talkie men

Shut up and fuck!

2.) Marathon men

I have other things to do, so sorry, I have a life outside the bedroom

3.) Shy men

When I say let's fuck on the roof of X building or on the train or stop the car right now and do it in that vacant lot, lets go damn it! I don't want to hear it's dangerous or how we could get arrested, (like that stopped YOU, when you were doing something YOU wanted to do!) just let's get to it!

Sometimes you just want your vibe. It doesn't argue and it's always hard.

 

[human_male]

and men who squeeze breasts like bike horns. HONK HONK.

Darn it.

 

[human_male]

It just seems wrong to complain really, but...

A really rough blowjob. Hissing through your teath kind of thing. And it was the only one I've ever had, too.

And yes bad kissing. My first girlfriend couldn't kiss me without sticking her tongue right in. You'd just go in for a gently little smooch, and SLURP, there it was. Every damn time. Great at first but after a while I just wanted to tell her to knock it off.

I wouldn't say no now though, I must say.

 

[sunandshadow]

1.)Talkie men

Shut up and fuck!

Heh, opposite for me, I'm totally not interested in the silent treatment, I want to hear a symphony of little compliments and his fantasies and begging is always good too...

I second that that ears thing - it's fine if the guy want to suck on my earlobe but I hate having the insides of my ears be touched especially not by anything wet like a tongue. And I don't want to be kissed on the mouth or have my nipples touched unless we've already decided/established that we're going to have sex, totally not acceptable as random teasing or an attempt to get me in the mood.

 

[PertPerth]

hehehe some posts are rather amusing.

My list :
Rough facial hair on my pussy - it's like sand paper! I'm ultra sensitive, so it takes me a day or two to recover.
Guys who go straight for the "kill" with no play before hand.
When guys leave their socks on. It's so unsexy.
Shy men. I don't want cocky/agressive, just a little bit of confidence - even if it's fake!!

 

[kimbernee]

I'm with you on the ears. I love giving but I hate receiving. Urk.

 

[sunandshadow]

Ew socks, fortunately I've never had a guy do that but I hate socks in general, you only have to wear them for like half an hour before they're damp and nasty. I suppose it would be ok if the guy put on clean socks first, but if it's cold enough for socks it's probably too cold for my poor nipples.

 

[naamplao]

I hate the "director" lover. You must have experienced him/her.

The one who is like a Hollywood director who places your hand here...lips there. Don't touch this but touch here...a little harder...no no softer...not there...almost there....yes....at least it is better than before....oh, oh, you almost did it right...try again.

This kind of pillow talk get me hard....everytime

 

[rida]

when they don't tell you what they like but than complain that you don't do what they like

when they get out of you and out of the bed as soon as they are done

when the first pic they send you is their dick

when they cannot hold a conversation

when they are bad kisser

 

[elib257]

when they get out of you and out of the bed as soon as they are done

Yes! My most recent partner did this and got straight into the shower! Suffice to say he didn't last long... Is it too much to ask for just a cuddle?!?

 

[sutherngent985]

Yes! My most recent partner did this and got straight into the shower! Suffice to say he didn't last long... Is it too much to ask for just a cuddle?!?

I just dont get guys that do this. Ok, your sweaty and sticky but sheesh people...you just had sex. She needs some cuddle time, and truth be told, so do I. So take as long as she needs, then take a shower if you feel you have to. Just remember, jumping up and showering like that sends a message to her as well...

 

[lushlucid]

I just dont get guys that do this. Ok, your sweaty and sticky but sheesh people...you just had sex. She needs some cuddle time, and truth be told, so do I. So take as long as she needs, then take a shower if you feel you have to. Just remember, jumping up and showering like that sends a message to her as well...

i'm actually usually the one to hop off and out of bed, sometimes he does if he's overly heated, i dont take offence to it, having a shower tho, that would be slightly more offensive. Sometimes cuddles after are nice sometimes they just aren't, i think that's a huge myth that all women want post sex snuggles and all men just wanna go to sleep.

 

[rida]

i'm actually usually the one to hop off and out of bed, sometimes he does if he's overly heated, i dont take offence to it, having a shower tho, that would be slightly more offensive. Sometimes cuddles after are nice sometimes they just aren't, i think that's a huge myth that all women want post sex snuggles and all men just wanna go to sleep.

I used to be the one guilty of running to the shower .... but it was a lifetime ago or so it feels ....

now I like to enjoy the stickyness and wetness ... but if it is too hot I do not want to snuggle ... holding hands or other light contact is enough...

but how about the "out of you right away" part?
am I the only one that likes the cock to stay in untill it gets too soft and ploppes out on its own?
If it gets pulled out right away it feels like a part of me is been taken away (and not in a physical sense)

 

[KokopelliRises]

My list :
Rough facial hair on my pussy - it's like sand paper! I'm ultra sensitive, so it takes me a day or two to recover.
Guys who go straight for the "kill" with no play before hand.

I am so with you on these. Most of the time they're just minorly irritating and I will make my preferences about these known rather quickly and vocally.

 

[sutherngent985]

I used to be the one guilty of running to the shower .... but it was a lifetime ago or so it feels ....

now I like to enjoy the stickyness and wetness ... but if it is too hot I do not want to snuggle ... holding hands or other light contact is enough...

but how about the "out of you right away" part?
am I the only one that likes the cock to stay in untill it gets too soft and ploppes out on its own?
If it gets pulled out right away it feels like a part of me is been taken away (and not in a physical sense)

Yea I know how it is when its hot...cuddling can be too much but some kind of physical contact is nice when its wanted.

The staying in till its soft is nice, esp when doing doggie or her on top. Like she she lies on top of me after we are done and enjoying the afterglow or Im behind her leaning over her, then feeling my cock slowly soften and finally ease out...it does feel like we have lost a connection.

 

[pongomax]

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