Internet Union: To Meet or Not to Meet?

[lesbiaphrodite]

If you met someone via the net and you've been communicating with them for months, talking to them via telephone, having hot phone sex, sharing every aspect of your life with them, would you meet if they wanted to?

If you've done this, how did it go? Was it what you had hoped? Was the sex good? Did you fall in love?

 

[Doctorofdesire]

Depends. Assuming you know them pretty well if youre having phone sex and sharing aspects of life.

Probably. Can't think of a reason not to.

Interested to hear stories of real life meets.

 

[mellowgyrl]

If you met someone via the net and you've been communicating with them for months, talking to them via telephone, having hot phone sex, sharing every aspect of your life with them, would you meet if they wanted to?

If you've done this, how did it go? Was it what you had hoped? Was the sex good? Did you fall in love?

Ever since I divorced my first husband back in 2000 every man that I've dated I've met online. Some good...some bad...some in between. I met my current husband online. It might not be for everybody though.

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

Yes. I can see the logic of that. I want to meet her very badly, but, I'm so scared of it on the real. She wants to get together in May. I want to badly. Guess there are some things you just won't know until you see each other physically and get a feel for one another. Overwhelming.

 

[Lalah]

In that example sure I would, but I would have arranged to see them on a webcam by then, to be sure they're my style.

 

[Doctorofdesire]

Yes. I can see the logic of that. I want to meet her very badly, but, I'm so scared of it on the real. She wants to get together in May. I want to badly. Guess there are some things you just won't know until you see each other physically and get a feel for one another. Overwhelming.

what are the reasons you wouldn't meet up?

 

[mellowgyrl]

Yes. I can see the logic of that. I want to meet her very badly, but, I'm so scared of it on the real. She wants to get together in May. I want to badly. Guess there are some things you just won't know until you see each other physically and get a feel for one another. Overwhelming.

What's the worst that could happen? Could you live with what you think is the worst thing that could happen? If you can..then you've pretty much solved your dilemma.

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

In that example sure I would, but I would have arranged to see them on a webcam by then, to be sure they're my style.

Oh, I've seen her in full on the cam. She's hot, hot, hot.

 

[Guest]

If you met someone via the net and you've been communicating with them for months, talking to them via telephone, having hot phone sex, sharing every aspect of your life with them, would you meet if they wanted to?

If you've done this, how did it go? Was it what you had hoped? Was the sex good? Did you fall in love?

done it a few times
four times was fab one was not so fab

i fell in love before we met irl

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

what are the reasons you wouldn't meet up?

Oh, the usual ones, I suppose: scared, nervous....blah blah.

 

[Filly Gal]

If you met someone via the net and you've been communicating with them for months, talking to them via telephone, having hot phone sex, sharing every aspect of your life with them, would you meet if they wanted to?

If you've done this, how did it go? Was it what you had hoped? Was the sex good? Did you fall in love?

Fantasy vs reality is always a question Monica. Remember wanting is not the same thing as having even though our ego wants it is our mind that says we must have what we want!! So, what would be different about meeting this person, then what?? Would all the aches and pains and empty places be taken care of, would you 2 go off to a tropical island and live out your days??
Are they single, you?? Lots to consider!!

 

[English Lady]

I met my husband online, we did nothing sexual online of on the phone but we were very compatible in real life

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

I feel reassured, EL. Thank you for your kind words.

Food for thought, FillyGal. Merci beaucoup!

 

[matriarch]

If you met someone via the net and you've been communicating with them for months, talking to them via telephone, having hot phone sex, sharing every aspect of your life with them, would you meet if they wanted to?

If you've done this, how did it go? Was it what you had hoped? Was the sex good? Did you fall in love?

We knew each other as friends here on Lit. We met still as friends to attend Lucky and Vella's commitment ceremony, and immediately - not to say unexpectedly - clicked. We continued our 'clicking' on the phone, Im-ing, e-mail over a couple of months during which time we both admitted we had fallen deeply in love. We finally met up in the same place, for a week's holiday together. It was magic from the first moment of meeting again at the airport. I asked her to marry me after the first night together. She said yes. I gave up my job and went to live with her in the States a few months later because we just couldn't bear to be apart. She in turn, gave up her job, sold her home and moved to the UK and 1 year and 3 months to the day after we first met in person we were 'married' at a legal partnership ceremony. 1 year and 7 months on we are still blissfully happy and if possible, even deeper in love.

I have nothing but good things to say about internet meetings.

I have met many of our colleagues here from Lit, at at least 7 different meet ups here in the UK, and in the States, and don't regret one minute of it.

If you get the chance, go for it.

Mat(riarch) - happily, blissfully married to Min(sue)

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

We knew each other as friends here on Lit. We met still as friends to attend Lucky and Vella's commitment ceremony, and immediately - not to say unexpectedly - clicked. We continued our 'clicking' on the phone, Im-ing, e-mail over a couple of months during which time we both admitted we had fallen deeply in love. We finally met up in the same place, for a week's holiday together. It was magic from the first moment of meeting again at the airport. I asked her to marry me after the first night together. She said yes. I gave up my job and went to live with her in the States a few months later because we just couldn't bear to be apart. She in turn, gave up her job, sold her home and moved to the UK and 1 year and 3 months to the day after we first met in person we were 'married' at a legal partnership ceremony. 1 year and 7 months on we are still blissfully happy and if possible, even deeper in love.

I have nothing but good things to say about internet meetings.

I have met many of our colleagues here from Lit, at at least 7 different meet ups here in the UK, and in the States, and don't regret one minute of it.

If you get the chance, go for it.

Mat(riarch) - happily, blissfully married to Min(sue)

THAT is such a lovely story. You give me great hope and inspire me to take the risk in meeting this beautiful, gentle, loving woman.

 

[JagFarlane]

If you met someone via the net and you've been communicating with them for months, talking to them via telephone, having hot phone sex, sharing every aspect of your life with them, would you meet if they wanted to?

If you've done this, how did it go? Was it what you had hoped? Was the sex good? Did you fall in love?

Mmmm well...in all honesty my last serious girlfriend was from the internet. It went quite well, more than I'd hoped and yes the sex was fantastic.

However...I've met honestly, quite a few people from the internet. Not always sexually...just friends. And no matter what, it can still be hit or miss. Sometimes there is a good connection and sometimes, things just aren't what they seem. Is it worthwhile to take the risk? If you trust them and really wish to meet...why not? But a lot of it is about trust

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

This question has been asked a dozen times in the "How Too.." Forum.

Generally, the answer is NO unless you want to meet some toothless fat fuck with a wife in Kalamazoo and ten kids, all with different mothers.

That said, my personal answer is yes, assuming the relationship has been continuous for a goodly period of time and the initial meeting is done in a public place where you can escape Mr. Toothless if that's what turns up.

 

[elfin_odalisque]

I go with Jenny.

First meetings should be in public places with fall-back phonecalls and never, ever think that a girl/guy on the net is safe. The odds are with you but you could be DEAD wrong.

Take care

Elle

 

[sweetness6280]

I have met several people from online, with varied results. I don't regret meeting any of them, even the one who turned out to be married. I met my second husband online.

Sometimes the chemistry we felt online transferred to real life, and sometimes it didn't, but I am still in touch with each of them, and each one brought something special into my life.

Personally, it is not any different than meeting someone in a bar or (insert place here). You don't know if someone is telling you the truth about who he/she is, and it is through the dating process you learn him/her. Actually, I have found online to be a wonderful way to share more intimate thoughts and beliefs. A person will often share his/her deepest thoughts, dreams, and emotions with you online, because there is a safety in distance.

Of course, since the mind is the most powerful sex organ, it can create the illusion of compatibility and chemistry. As long as you go into the meet with no expectations beyond meeting a wonderful new friend, you should have a wonderful experience.

ETA: Safe calls are always a good idea. My general rule was to get personal information up front (name, address, phone numbers, even driver's license numbers, etc.) and give that info to someone (or two) that I trusted. I would give the same to the person I was meeting and suggest that he/she also set up a series of safe calls.

The calls should be made both ways. You call and check in at preset times with a couple of friends, and the friends call you at preset times.

While I never had a bad situation, I know of people who did. Your friend should be touched that you care for her safety as well.

 

[Boxlicker101]

I agree with the consensus here. I realize that the situation is different for a man than it is for a woman, but I would still meet her in a public place. You have little to lose and much to gain. You might be disappointed or disillusioned, but that is something efverybody risks every day. You also might form a wonderful relationship, something you will both cherish for the rest of your lives. Most likely, it'll be somewhere in the middle, but I would still go with it.

 

[slyc_willie]

If you met someone via the net and you've been communicating with them for months, talking to them via telephone, having hot phone sex, sharing every aspect of your life with them, would you meet if they wanted to?

If you've done this, how did it go? Was it what you had hoped? Was the sex good? Did you fall in love?

I've met three women online who I subsequently met in person. One was married, and we enjoyed a few weekends here and there, but no longer have a relationship. We're still good friends, however. The second woman and I planned on having a relationship. Everything started off fine, but there were personality differences that eventually arose, and the relationship fell apart.

The third is going great.

 

[English Lady]

I feel reassured, EL. Thank you for your kind words.

You're welcome.

Mmmm well...in all honesty my last serious girlfriend was from the internet. It went quite well, more than I'd hoped and yes the sex was fantastic.

However...I've met honestly, quite a few people from the internet. Not always sexually...just friends. And no matter what, it can still be hit or miss. Sometimes there is a good connection and sometimes, things just aren't what they seem. Is it worthwhile to take the risk? If you trust them and really wish to meet...why not? But a lot of it is about trust

This is true, although so far, I've had nothing but good luck with meeting online people offline.

And it is always worth emphasising the first meeting should be in public for safety and comfort.

 

[NoJo]

We knew each other as friends here on Lit. We met still as friends to attend Lucky and Vella's commitment ceremony, and immediately - not to say unexpectedly - clicked. We continued our 'clicking' on the phone, Im-ing, e-mail over a couple of months during which time we both admitted we had fallen deeply in love. We finally met up in the same place, for a week's holiday together. It was magic from the first moment of meeting again at the airport. I asked her to marry me after the first night together. She said yes. I gave up my job and went to live with her in the States a few months later because we just couldn't bear to be apart. She in turn, gave up her job, sold her home and moved to the UK and 1 year and 3 months to the day after we first met in person we were 'married' at a legal partnership ceremony. 1 year and 7 months on we are still blissfully happy and if possible, even deeper in love.

I have nothing but good things to say about internet meetings.

I have met many of our colleagues here from Lit, at at least 7 different meet ups here in the UK, and in the States, and don't regret one minute of it.

If you get the chance, go for it.

Mat(riarch) - happily, blissfully married to Min(sue)

I miss her.
<-- Changing into my goose costume

 

[Liar]

If you've done this, how did it go? Was it what you had hoped? Was the sex good? Did you fall in love?

Did it once.

There was no sex. Because we'd agreed to that as a rule - even though we'd been all over each other from a distance for months, we said that we should treat it like a first date. And no fucking on the first three dates, period.

And luckily so, because we found out that face to face, the anticipated wow-factor never really happened. We're good friends now. We like each other, we have matching senses of sick humor and enjoy each other's company. There just was no lust, I guess, beyond intellectual stimulation.

 

[JagFarlane]

You're welcome.




This is true, although so far, I've had nothing but good luck with meeting online people offline.

And it is always worth emphasising the first meeting should be in public for safety and comfort.

This is a good point. I generally meet outside, in somewhat busy areas where people are around