Internet Love

[cloudy]

Just to echo what SSS has said, I believe that all relationships are possible through the 'net, not just love. It enables you to find and establish relationships with people that you never would have met otherwise.

I've met my very best friend in the world here - not just my friend, my true sister (Abs). Everyone that I've actually "met" in RL from here has been exactly as they've presented themselves (Mat, Min, Imp, Vella & Lucky). I couldn't wish for a better group of friends, and I look forward to going to Chicago (keep your fingers crossed) to meet yet more - especially Sweetsubsarahh.

 

[Guest]

Just to echo what SSS has said, I believe that all relationships are possible through the 'net, not just love. It enables you to find and establish relationships with people that you never would have met otherwise.

I've met my very best friend in the world here - not just my friend, my true sister (Abs). Everyone that I've actually "met" in RL from here has been exactly as they've presented themselves (Mat, Min, Imp, Vella & Lucky). I couldn't wish for a better group of friends, and I look forward to going to Chicago (keep your fingers crossed) to meet yet more - especially Sweetsubsarahh.

Same goes for you, gorgeous.

I can't wait.

(And thank you.)

 

[Noor]

So far I have yet to meet someone in person that I have known from online that turned out badly.

As for love, they need to smell right. I suppose if they sent you a tshirt they had slept in then wrapped in aluminum foil you could check that out without meeting as well.

 

[slyc_willie]

Interesting point, Noor . . .

Never quite thought about that. I'll have to ask my friend about it.

As for my situation, I have a feeling she's not a stinker . . .

 

[slyc_willie]

Just to echo what SSS has said, I believe that all relationships are possible through the 'net, not just love. It enables you to find and establish relationships with people that you never would have met otherwise.

I've met my very best friend in the world here - not just my friend, my true sister (Abs). Everyone that I've actually "met" in RL from here has been exactly as they've presented themselves (Mat, Min, Imp, Vella & Lucky). I couldn't wish for a better group of friends, and I look forward to going to Chicago (keep your fingers crossed) to meet yet more - especially Sweetsubsarahh.

See you there, Cloudy.

Again, I hope.

 

[slyc_willie]

Right up my alley. I met my husband on the internet in Feb 2005. He moved here in August 2005. We married December 13, 2006.

He is the most devoted, loving, honest man I've ever known and we are a perfect match. We truly got to know each other BECAUSE we met on the internet. We felt that the net was the one place we could be ourselves, with no hesitation.

We also exchanged pictures, email, IM, phone calls, engaged in cybersex, etc. My family and friends thought I'd lost my mind, had been 'brainwashed by a silver tounged devil'. (They didn't find out about him until mid July 2005). Because I keep my private thoughts and feelings to myself, they didn't know that I had 'investigated' him, with his permission.

While I had the butterflies in my stomach and a feeling of deep love in my heart, I also didn't trust the fact that I'd met him on the net. I'd heard horror stories and felt the need to proceed with caution. 1. I didn't want to get hurt, either physically or emotionally. 2. I couldn't be sure that what I felt was real and not emotion created from sheer lonliness. 3. He is 27 years my senior.

While my daughter was at summer camp, he flew me to California. I spent 42 glorious hours with him beginning August 4, 2005. I was an excited, but nervous, wreck in flight. I was scared to death that the attraction I felt would dissolve upon physically meeting him. I was scared that I wouldn't recognize him. I was also scared that he would turn out to be a homocidal maniac. (Can we say paranoid?)

My flight was delayed in Los Angeles. My connecting flight was canceled and I was rerouted to Santa Maria, an hour and a half beyond schedule. The airport was TINY. There were 10 people on the flight. When we landed, there was no one at the airport. While I waited for my bag to be unloaded from the puddle jumper, I walked outside to wait for him and smoke a cigarette. The whole parking lot, I would estimate, held 50 cars. While I didn't see him pull into the lot, I did see him walking accross to the front of the building.

My heart beat double time. He carried a huge bouquet of flowers and appeared much older that I remembered. I watched him walk into the building, not saying a word, and waited for him to come out the door next to where I was standing. (There would have been no way for him to miss me, as small as the airport was.)

I will never forget that first meeting, the first kiss, the first embrace. All the emotions I'd felt while talking to him, both online and on the phone, came rushing to the surface.

When he came through the door, he handed me the flowers and seemed to hesitate, so I stepped forward and hugged him. Then I kissed him. Magic. It's the only word I can think of to describe the feeling. His age melted away. He was no longer a 'stranger'. This man was my soul mate.

When we broke the kiss, an eternity later, he dropped to his knees, in front of all of my fellow passengers, the flight crew and the people picking up the passengers. He proposed, again, on the spot. I, of course, said yes.

We collected my bag and went to his van, where he opened the door for me and handed me an Arby's bag. (Because of the flight delay and the fact that they no longer serve meals in flight, I hadn't eaten. Bless him.) We drove to the motel where he'd reserved a room for the weekend and the whole time he stared at me, occasionally glancing at the road. Thank God for minimal traffic. We dropped my bag off at the room and then spent the next 3 or 4 hours making the rounds to introduce me to his friends.

Everyone had something positive to say. They all told me how lucky HE was, and how wonderful I had to be to be making him so happy after so long. I believe I'm a pretty good judge of character and they all seemed sincere.

When we got back to the room, he had me wait in the van for about 5 minutes before he came and opened my door. He'd gone inside for a moment. When he opened the door to the room for me, I saw, to my delight, that he'd covered the bed in rose petals. I've never in my life had someone do something like that for me.

We showered together. I trimmed his beard. Little things to just touch one another. When we did finally make love, it was phenomenal. (By the way, rose petals create on hell of a stain on white sheets. )

He moved here 2 weeks later. I had to wait until my divorce was final to marry him, and there were some other factors that caused a delay, but marry him I did. I'm thankful that I listened to my heart and I'd left my mind open to the possibility of finding true love on the net.

He completes me. He is my breath, my heart and my life. I would not choose to spend one day without him in my life. Thank God for the net. Without it, I'd never have found him.

To answer your question. No, you shouldn't worry about him. Support him, and be there to pick up the pieces if things go wrong. Be happy for him.

I relayed your tale to Adrian (my friend in question) today while at work and he gave me a sly smile that told me he and his girlfriend are in the same vein. Since the first time they have chatted, they have both felt a connection.

You have all opened my eyes to this, which makes me more than a little anxious concerning my own situation. I've become much more comfortable with the idea of Internet romance over the past week or so. But I am not about to jump the gun and think beyond anything more than friendship at this point.

As has been pointed out, this is just another way of meeting people, no more rewarding, no less. But perhaps, in many cases (or at least for the successful ones), it is the more honest.

 

[Darkniciad]

I met my babydoll online, and we're coming up on 8 years together now. So chalk me up on the side of "it can happen"

 

[Noor]

Never quite thought about that. I'll have to ask my friend about it.

As for my situation, I have a feeling she's not a stinker . . .

Smelling right is a lot more than not being a stinker

 

[Dr_Strabismus]

So far I have yet to meet someone in person that I have known from online that turned out badly.

As for love, they need to smell right. I suppose if they sent you a tshirt they had slept in then wrapped in aluminum foil you could check that out without meeting as well.

You could also reuse the aluminium foil for sandwiches etc so it would be useful too

 

[rachlou]

Minxy ~ I was positively tearful following the tale of your internet love story... and it takes alot to make a true cynic like me cry!!