Interesting ............

[sloan]

thing has come to light. Im a newby, and have just found BD, felt right at home here, after a 3 1/2 year celibacy, am finding my way again,and have been trying my wings in the Cafe( always nice to have a sandwich before I eat). I have come to be VERY interested in a certain young lady , who was following our play, and her impression ,as an observer, was that she didnt know whether I was straight male, or lesbian. I took that as a compliment.
Now, this is interesting, as I really try to please a woman to the fullest extent, get in their heads and love them as THEYneed to be loved. and feel that lesbians REALLY know a womans body, andI have always been envious of that. Any comments?

 

[s'lara]

Not sure what comments you're looking for sloan.

Are you asking whether there is gender confusion where you are concerned?

lara

 

[sloan]

Gender confusion........

Sorry if I was not specific. Im not having gender conusion or any questions regarding my own sexuality. My remarks were solely as a report on an observation, which I found interesting, not threatening. Just a report that , in on-line play, I was gender neutral in the eyes of an observer, no more, no less. And request for comments- good, bad or indifferent. Im here to learn- Thank, Sloan

 

[catalina_francisco]

I know the old belief, especially amongst men is that a woman must know a woman's body better than a male, but I don't totally agree. It in part comes from the fetish of straight men wanting to watch two women together, and hoping in doing so they will pick up some super lover hints to make them irresistable to women. Sorry, but the reality is that gender does not necessarily make a good lover, it is whether as a lover you want to put in the effort or not. It is also not a good generalist statement as everyone is unique so what pleases one woman or man is not going to please all women or men, and in some instances might be an instant turn off....so in all it is back to perceptions, watching, asking, and feeling your way so to speak to the heart of your lover's passion. So does that make you a male?

Catalina

 

[sloan]

Catalina.........

Beautiful name. Thank you for the excellent post. That is the input thatI am looking for, input which increases my knowledge and capacity to love......... and yes, I think that the need to know everything possible about how to please my Lover is MORE pertinent in BD than Vanilla, as Im finding that tha most potent sexual organ is a thoughtful, kind and inquiring mind. Its certainly the most rewarding , for me, and, I hope , my Lover.........Otherwise, I might as well masturbate, tho that by itself is frustrating after my long period of celibacy, from which I have recently been released. Therein lies my need to know. Thank you for your measured and truthful response. I am here to learn and grow- Sloan

 

[sloan]

Catalina..........

Im sorry, I did not answer your question. ....YES, Catalina, it makes me a Lover and therefor a better Man. Yes, and I m sure ALL of us, of both gender, especially since we are here on a quest for knowledge, wish to dispel old , useless and rejectable misconceptions and go forward. I clearing them away the old, with your kind help, and replacing it with your useful info. Yes, I think that is a measure of a man.

 

[sloan]

I was thinking(not always safe!)......

that , in respect to S'laras post, that only those that are certain and comfortable with their sexuality are able to honestly dissect it, for personal growth.
FEAR(False Evidence Appearing Real) would be a shaky foundation from which to grow.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Re: Interesting

... and feel that lesbians REALLY know a womans body

Why would a lesbian REALLY know a woman's body any better than a heterosexual male?

i'm quite sure a few lousy lesbian lovers exist in the world.

If the assumption is "they've got the equipment, they must know how to make it feel better," you'd be surprised how many women/men don't know their own bodies. Hell, i consider myself jaded, and still have been surprised by a woman's technique on occasion. Imagine the "oh shit that feels good," expression crossing my face and you'll understand what i mean.

 

[s'lara]

Re: I was thinking(not always safe!)......

that , in respect to S'laras post, that only those that are certain and comfortable with their sexuality are able to honestly dissect it, for personal growth.
FEAR(False Evidence Appearing Real) would be a shaky foundation from which to grow.

From your initial post, it was unclear what help you were looking for in regard to your recent activities.

You seemed pleased with the third party in your trist viewing you as sexually ambiguous. i don't know if that makes your skills as a lover better because you appear to have no definitive masculine/feminine qualities while cybering. i just think it means you exhibited no overt charateristics that would place you in either the male or female category.

lara

 

[sloan]

Thank you all..

I appreciate your posts. Sloan

 

[Netzach]

I found in my first and most intense and fun F/F encounter that your own familiarity with your own body creates more assumptions than anything else.

She's a g spot girl, immediately begins hammering me with the strapon and assuming I'll get off.

I'm a button baby, and I'm msytified why she looks pained when I rub her the way I rub me.


There is NO subsitute for direct verbal communication, lots of fun with your own body and knowing what you like.