Intelligence?

[Dhalgren150]

That stuff has been bottled D, it's called "Beaches". I ordered some once from a calalogue, ran my own "experiments" and it worked....very well. That falling for someone who intelluctually stimulates me... that's me too. Brains first, flesh second...mmmm.

you have been away to long.

I miss your words.

and I want some of that bottle.... I need some to try as an experiment.

sex always starts in the mind.

but ends in the flesh.

 

[lady*laura]

If you are already in an good relationship what effect do you think something like "beaches" would have on said partner?

 

[mrtnmoon]

I think there is more to the English language than "ain't" "fuck" and "sonofabitch".

I use those words a lot.... I'm neanderthal man?

 

[lonelyinsnowlan]

humm, I also love that smell left after some good long hot sex.

It's the only time that sweat smells good.

 

[lydia63]

yep i agree.

sex starts in the mind.

then moves to the bedroom, then to the flesh.

make love to the mind the rest will follow.

What an intriguing progression!
I once heard this question posed to married couples: Which action from your significant other is more likely to arrouse you - a touch, a look ... or a word?
What do you think, everybody?

 

[SimpleGifts]

What an intriguing progression!
I once heard this question posed to married couples: Which action from your significant other is more likely to arrouse you - a touch, a look ... or a word?
What do you think, everybody?

Interesting question...obviously, context counts...if we are apart, it would have to be a word (over the phone, e-mail, etc.)...but if we're in bed together, I'd say that I'm most likely to be aroused by a look, then a word, and least likely by a touch. I'm tactile, but not THAT tactile. But I find that a very direct look reveals more than many, many words could.

SG

 

[lydia63]

a look, a touch, or a word?

For myself, I'd have to say a word, but only if it's the right word, like telling me exactly what he wants and how it makes him feel.
My man has the most annoying habit of talking baby talk in bed! I think it helps him deal with feelings of awkwardness. I've asked him not to - it makes me feel like a pedaphile sometimes.

 

[Dhalgren150]

subtle ladies I see.

words and looks.

 

[Raidho]

What an intriguing progression!
I once heard this question posed to married couples: Which action from your significant other is more likely to arrouse you - a touch, a look ... or a word?
What do you think, everybody?

All depends, I think.

A touch ... in an irregular place, at the right time, can drive me insane.

That "come hither" look can do the same.

And there are always words of power

I cannot say any one more than the other. It's all a matter of delivery.

 

[lydia63]

a look, a touch, or a word? Revisited

Coming from a stranger, someone new, I think a look is most intriguing. Touching or even speaking can feel intrusive at first. A look is more subtle, more mysterious. It can mean anything from, "I'm attracted to you, but not ready to act on it," to, "I wonder how fast I could rip your clothes off with my teeth!" It sets your mind to wondering into very interesting places...

A touch can feel like a tease if you're not ready to follow up on it. Use sparingly, is my advice.

Of course, on-line, words are about all we have. But they are sometimes all we need!

 

[Kcar]

Ok then- I declare this a lovey dovey free zone!

Hahahaha!

 

[Kcar]

I don't know if this helps.... but I think all of us take temporary detours from our right path. For me, it has only become scary when the detour has become the main path

Well said!

I look for guidance within, but also in the greatness of the universe, Lady laura. Good luck!

 

[lydia63]

Main path vs. detour

Regarding detours, etc.: If I may wax philosophic for a moment, how do we know that what we think of as a detour may actually be the path we were meant to take?
Hmmm....

 

[SimpleGifts]

For myself, I'd have to say a word, but only if it's the right word, like telling me exactly what he wants and how it makes him feel.
My man has the most annoying habit of talking baby talk in bed! I think it helps him deal with feelings of awkwardness. I've asked him not to - it makes me feel like a pedaphile sometimes.

Yeah, I can see how that would be, umm...unsettling.

When it comes to words, I've always favored being direct, too. If my partner just looks me in the eye and tells me where she wants it, I'm pretty much ready on the double to oblige...

Women I've been with, for whatever reason, also appreciate it if I don't mince words. I mean, I enjoy banter and flirting as much as anyone, but the women I'm attracted to seem to enjoy being told things like, "I'm going to make sure you remember me every time you try to sit down for the next week..."

SG

 

[SimpleGifts]

Regarding detours, etc.: If I may wax philosophic for a moment, how do we know that what we think of as a detour may actually be the path we were meant to take?
Hmmm....

That seems almost dangerously profound...

I don't think that we are generally able to know or understand what course of action was "meant to be" in our lives until much, much later. I've recently had the experience where something that I thought ended with the worst possible outcome actually probably was for the best for all parties concerned...even though at the time it seemed like it could be a huge mistake.

As a friend quoted to me recently: "Coincidences are God's way of staying invisible."

SG

 

[Kcar]

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dont mind me.....carry on..

Hahaha!!

I like popcorn...with lotsa butter. My poor keyboard.

 

[lydia63]

... I enjoy banter and flirting as much as anyone, but the women I'm attracted to seem to enjoy being told things like, "I'm going to make sure you remember me every time you try to sit down for the next week..."

SG

I remember a rare, roucus romp under the covers that left me with a sharp pain in my lower back for days. I had to make up a lie for when people at work asked me, "How'd you hurt your back?" They couldn't figure out why I smiled when I answered or every time the pain flared up.

 

[lady*laura]

Regarding detours, etc.: If I may wax philosophic for a moment, how do we know that what we think of as a detour may actually be the path we were meant to take?
Hmmm....

Then I guess we just keep on going.

 

[SimpleGifts]

I remember a rare, roucus romp under the covers that left me with a sharp pain in my lower back for days. I had to make up a lie for when people at work asked me, "How'd you hurt your back?" They couldn't figure out why I smiled when I answered or every time the pain flared up.

I tell you, there's been nothing like the time my lover e-mailed me the next day to say that her legs were so sore that she was having trouble going up and down the stairs at her office...and she told me she was definitely NOT complaining!

SG

 

[Dhalgren150]

Regarding detours, etc.: If I may wax philosophic for a moment, how do we know that what we think of as a detour may actually be the path we were meant to take?
Hmmm....

this is called free will.

and there is not just 1 path we might call "The Path".


all things are as a spiral... not as the arrow.

 

[SimpleGifts]

all things are as a spiral... not as the arrow.

"Time flies like arrows; fruit flies like bananas."

-Groucho Marx


SG

 

[Dhalgren150]

"Time flies like arrows; fruit flies like bananas."

-Groucho Marx


SG

Brilliant man he was.. way ahead of his time.

 

[lady*laura]

Why lables?

There is somehting I have never been able to understand. Why do we have to place lables on everything? I realize that we need to identify certain things in our lives because it would be pretty awkward to describe most items as that thingy that does that one thing and then stops. Why must we lable people? He's black-she's white-he's gay-she's straight...the moment you slap a lable on someone it colors how you perceive them right away.

 

[Dhalgren150]

There is somehting I have never been able to understand. Why do we have to place lables on everything? I realize that we need to identify certain things in our lives because it would be pretty awkward to describe most items as that thingy that does that one thing and then stops. Why must we lable people? He's black-she's white-he's gay-she's straight...the moment you slap a lable on someone it colors how you perceive them right away.

is it not the artist that controls the colors he uses.

all things come from free will.

only the Government needs labels.

 

[fetishboy4fun]

There is somehting I have never been able to understand. Why do we have to place lables on everything? I realize that we need to identify certain things in our lives because it would be pretty awkward to describe most items as that thingy that does that one thing and then stops. Why must we lable people? He's black-she's white-he's gay-she's straight...the moment you slap a lable on someone it colors how you perceive them right away.

Well not to get all metaphysical on you, but by lableing something, it creates a link in your mind between something abstract and something concrete. This link allows for a ease of exerting your own energies over, and on some level makes it more comfrotableto deal with