Innocent Sexuality

[Ryosho]

I am looking for peoples ideas on how to enjoy their own and their partners sexuality in 'inncocent' ways.

My fiance and I are not at the point in our lives where we are that comfortable with each other sexually. We have made a commitment not to have sex, due to many reasons, until we are ready.

What I was looking for were some ideas on things we CAN do that basically doesn't risk her pregnancy. That's a little background on the question.

The Question:
"What can you do, sexually, that will not cause pregnancy, or cause her to lose her virginity?"

We are a very open-minded couple and would be interested in, at least, hearing any ideas out there.

 

[serras]

Mutual masturbation is always fun, maybe print off a few good stories from here and read to her as she has a little fun, or if your talented press her buttons as you read ^_-

Why not try sensually massaging (sic?) each other, and when you have her naked and lightly massaging her, end it off with a little bit of toungue play.

For a real nice feeling strip naked as she wears nothing but her panties and have her climb on top you you, and lightly touch and stroke all over her body as she slowly grinds into you getting both you and her off (Although do be careful when you come, it's possible for semen to soak through her panties and impregnate her, it's a minuscule chance but you seem to want a heads up so yeah)

Well that's offhand what I can think about, and be sure to pay us all back by telling us how things go....in great detail of course

 

[Beloved]

Mutual masturbation would be my best suggestion.

Not only is it quite pleasurable, but you get to witness firsthand exactly the way your partner enjoys being touched. A definate plus for when you finally do decide sex is right for the two of you. For some people though mutual masturbation is almost to intimate and intense an act. There are many couple who have been having sex with each other for years and still cannot bring themselves to masturbate in front of their partner, so that may not be an option.

When my SO and I were dating he used to give me wonderfully sensual massages. Many times my resolve was tested by those wonderful hands working their magic on my skin....mmmmm!

 

[Ryosho]

Sensual massage

Thanks for the ideas...we've played around with the massaging a little bit...but nothing too serious...

She says I give good massages, but do you have any advice on how to give great massages? Perhaps a few pointers on how to give 'sensual' massages? I get to see her again the weekend after this...I think I'll try the massaging...I might bring up the mutual masturbating thing...

Again thanks! Always looking for more ideas!

 

[NawtylilGirl]

Like suggested above, i agree - mutual masterbation.. and oral.

 

[Vixandra]

Massages, oral and the ever infamous anal are always options.
Though that could mean you aren't two aren't virgins anymore, depending on your definition of the word.

Tis good you're waiting til you're ready though.

 

[white_mage_goddess]

Me and my ex husband "played" for a year and half before having sex. Neither of us had been in a sexual relationship before.

We had a blast during that time together! We did all sorts of expermints in oral, masturbation, manual exploration, massage, using toys, tongue baths, bathing together while we masturbated each other,everything but penetration...and not only was it fun, but when we finally had sex we already knew just exactly how to push each other's buttons.

I always hear stories about the first time being painful, but mine felt WONDERFUL because we had really done our "homework" so to speak!

 

[JRaven]

Just start necking...

...either you will choose not to go further or she will let you know. Just be sure to have a condom ready, just in case.

 

[Ryosho]

Actually, us having full-out vaginal sex is out of the question. Even if both of us want it, we can't risk the obvious pregnancy thing. We don't trust condoms or anything really. The only contraceptive I would trust would be the pill or that six-month shot thing...

Anyway, our goal is not to remain virgins...it is strictly to prevent pregnancy. She has expressed a little disgust at the anal thing and, frankly, while it seems exciting in the heat of passion...when I think about it, it's kind of gross. My guess is I simply don't know enough about it...I assume I don't just shove it in and start?

I am really curious about what you menat, Whit-Mage-Goddess, about having done your homework. That's something that has concerned me about the first time. Why does it hurt? What hurts? Why didn't yours? (If I may ask the last one...)

It doesn't seem quite fair, 'cause I won't experience any pain. So I am worried about her and want to do my homework to ease her discomfort...

BTW, we are getting together this weekend...so If there are any last minute things or tips...it's coming up! I am so excited about seeing her again.

I'll be sure to give some details as to what happens here when I get back...thanks everybody for what I've gotten so far...

One other question...We've been role-playing online, and I've gotten off a couple of times a night. Would it be better if I saved for the weekend? We are going to be spending a couple hours a night playing around...does 'saving' help at all?

 

[neverhere]

defintiely mutual masturbation
just cuddle and fool around
the main thing is to be open with eachother and try new things
u never know u might find something u really like and both of you truly enjoy without the risk of getting her pregnant

 

[Ezzy]

You could always take a look at picture porn online together, that way when you find something that interests you or her you could try a little experiment, and then go back to surfing.

I know you hear about cybersex being hot, but sometimes it "really" is hot, and fun too if you have the creative spark to set up and engage in a mutual fantasy.

Baring for that, you could take a trip to the doctor (OBGYN), and have either her tubes tied or a vasectomy for you, or a IUD (inter uterine device, see here. or the 5 year JAG (don’t know what it stands for) injection.

Then when you are healed form the surgery you can go at it like rabbits without any worries about reproducing.

 

[white_mage_goddess]

I am really curious about what you menat, Whit-Mage-Goddess, about having done your homework. That's something that has concerned me about the first time. Why does it hurt? What hurts? Why didn't yours? (If I may ask the last one...)

What I meant was that usually the first time hurts because the woman has never been penetrated before. Therefore her pussy is still very very tight and usually still is blocked with a hymen. Because me and my ex had practiced so much, and had done so much penetration with fingers and toys, my pussy was already used to having something inside it, so of course it didn't hurt.

By doing your homework, I also mean learning about foreplay and how to push each other's buttons without the stress of knowing its all a build up to intercourse. You get to enjoy foreplay for its own sake.

Now did that make any sense?