Innocence and Experience

[Brute_Force]

Which is more appealing....innocence or experience?

I love people who are innocent, in the sense that they are fresh, new, unpoliticized, daring, creative, adventurous.

I also love the experienced, in the sense that they are wise, thoughtful, sexy, insightful.

Not that the two are mutually exclusive, but I was just pondering the idea. I think when I was younger, I preferred novices. But, nowadays, I always prefer the experienced. I dunno. Just a thought.

Your thoughts?

 

[rgraham666]

I know that it's hard for me to look at young women as anything but eye candy these days. There are some that I'm good friends with, but that's rare. I generally find them too unformed, personality wise, to be of much interest.

Women nearer my own age I like much better. They have, for lack of a better word, flavour.

 

[trysail]

Which is more appealing....innocence or experience?

Damn! For a minute there, I thought this was going to be the William Blake thread (Songs Of Innocence, Songs Of Experience- of course).

 

[Recidiva]

I like both. Innocence can be renewable hope or determined ignorance. Experience can be ease with a subject or burned out cynicism.

I prefer the renewable hope and ease with a subject combination.

 

[trysail]

"It is better to travel hopefully than to arrive."

-C.P. Cavafy
"Ithaka"

 

[xssve]

They both have their charm - with innocence comes curiosity, which is refreshing, and with experience often comes cynicism, which isn't.

On the flip side, innocence might come with ignorance, self absorption, and a general gulf of mutual misunderstanding, wheras with experience comes a more philosophical and cooperative attitude, and, ya know, experience...

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Give me experience. Cynic is another word for realist.

Say what you want about them, cynics do not have high expectations. And theyre not surprised or stunned with your bullshit.

 

[JamesSD]

Innocence: You want to put that WHERE?
Experience: So you set up the ropes while I plug this in...

In all seriousness, when dealing with sexual partners an open mind matters more to me than experience level. Those with higher experience levels do tend to have more open minds, I suppose.

 

[Liar]

Hey, this is like asking to choose between coffee and beer.

It's not the choice that matters, but the timing and the quality of the beverage.

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

I've always had a thing for what I like to call "good bad girls." They're the ones who are outwardly very innocent. Sweet, smiling, gentle girls. But, inside, they have a bad girl who is just dying to get out and play.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

There's an old saying in my family that is usually applied to children, but carries over to adulthood too: "She's an old soul, that one," vs. "She's new soul . . ."

"New souls" view many things with a certain wide-eyed wonder and surprise that can be very appealing, but also can be maddening depending on how they process what they take in. "Old souls" don't have to be cynical, they can also be wise, pragmatic and dependable. The old/new soul does not characterize the intrinsic appeal or attractiveness of the personality, it's just a dispositional element.

I recently met a lady who has entered a new and challenging professional environment and is a total "new soul" about it. It's very endearing because it makes her open to guidance from experience hands and she learns fast.

 

[joeys-game]

Hey, this is like asking to choose between coffee and beer.

It's not the choice that matters, but the timing and the quality of the beverage.

well said, I like this answer

 

[WRJames]

I have not dealt with innocence for a very long time. In college, a girl I loved and I stripped away each other's innocence, very slowly, over a period of several months. At the time I was eager to come to the end of that journey, but now it seems a shame that we moved so quickly into experience. Nothing was ever sweeter than those kisses, those first hints of forbidden flesh, that first time sensing another's ecstacy.

But, there is something to be said for experience, also. Even after thousands of time, each act of sex is filled with its own peril, its own potential for pain and pleasure. So, it never gets dull, does it?

 

[elsol]

An experienced hottie wearing all white lingerie.

 

[S-Des]

An experienced hottie wearing all white lingerie.

<------ You mean something like this?

I used to prefer innocense. My fondest memories were of discovery with girls in my late teens/early twenties. It was more the closeness that I felt than anything sexual, but it was intense. Now it's no competition. Experienced is far better and makes my enjoyment of intamacy with my partner more than anything I could have imagined when I was younger. Then again, Kiten used to be a schoolteacher, so I guess I got the best of both worlds. My favorite story is one she told me about teaching a group of kids (I believe they were in the 4th or 5th grade). She turned to write something on the board and heard a student whisper (just a little louder than he meant to), "Wow, the teachers got a nice ass!"