Inject Realism : Sex without orgasm

[Ejiji]

Hi all,

Whilst I sometimes feel a bit let down when I don't climax during sex, there are other times when I don't really care - simply being able to do something so intimate with my wife is enough.

Anyway, a quick poll.
Forgetting those times when you've abstained for half a year before getting naked with the hottest man/woman/whatever you can imagine, how would you normally view sex?

Ejiji

 

[wcanvil]

The way I achieve maximum sexual pleasure for myself is by making sure my wife gets what she needs first. I almost always orgasm in the process. Mine is more intense when I know she's into how I'm pleasuring her. On the very, very rare occasions I don't cum in a timely manner I still have a feeling of fulfillment from having pleasured her well.

 

[horsie_gurl]

I have actually only orgasmed with a partner maybe three times, two of which were my manual stimulation. However, a good 90% of the times I had sex with a trusted partner (I specify because I had a period where I slept around and hated every minute of it), I have been fully satisfied.

 

[wcanvil]

I have actually only orgasmed with a partner maybe three times, two of which were my manual stimulation. However, a good 90% of the times I had sex with a trusted partner (I specify because I had a period where I slept around and hated every minute of it), I have been fully satisfied.

What part of sex satisfies you if not achieving an orgasm?

 

[nayia]

i'd rather have emotional and physical intimacy during sex without an orgasm than be distracted by the huge pressure to have an orgasm. and i think it's easier for me to have an orgasm without the pressure to have one in the first place.

 

[ConfusedAgain]

I don't know if it's me or the poll but the options aren't that clear and I don't know which to pick.

I don't understand sex without orgasms. I don't feel pressured to have one it's just that there ends up so much build up going through me it needs to be released. If not then it means the sex sucked. I last had great sex with someone I hardly knew so couldn't have been in "love" with but the lust and chemistry were there so it worked.

 

[Ejiji]

Thanks for the replies! m(_ _)m

I had suspected that women would tend to go for love rather than orgasm option more often than men - poll hasn't had lots of responses but looks sort of like it might bear that out.

To those who think I could have explained the options better, I totally agree!

Didn't have a lot of time and perhaps made things more complicated than I need have. m(_ _)m General idea was that even though achieving orgasm is desirable for a lot (/ most ) people, sometimes that isn't possible. When you make love / have sex but cannot orgasm for whatever reason, would you still be satisfied? If you had a choice, would you rather have an orgasm with someone you didn't love, or no orgasm with someone you did?