Info on D/s
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Sir_Winston54
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Start by reading The Library. Thread titles will (mostly) be helpful in telling you if they're D/s related or not. After you get through "Z," read the live threads here (Forum) and in the Café. Then ask questions - preferably specific questions, e.g., "What is the easiest way to learn to flog in the Florentine fashion?" rather than a generic "Tell me everything you know about everything."
This might seem a little sarcastic, even somewhat demeaning - hell, it is - but the OP (original post) somewhat demands it.
JMohegan
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So we've got two votes for 'fuck off to the library until you're better informed' (phrased politely, of course!
), and one vote for naked pics.
Out of curiosity, I just clicked on that link to the library, Winston. (I was curious to see how many weeks of reading your sadistic self just recommended.) Scrolling down, what I found was a series of Inactive Photobucket Account messages on the left, and a series of external links (some operable, others not) on the right. Not exactly helpful, to say the least.
To the OP - the truth (as I see it) is that you could read every thread on this board, and still be confused as hell as to what D/s is, or how anyone goes about practicing it. Everyone sees it differently, explains it differently, lives it differently. Hell, we can't even agree on the definitions of basic words. But the general idea is that D/s involves interactions in which one person (the s) follows, defers to, or obeys the D (i.e., the one in charge.)
), and one vote for naked pics.Out of curiosity, I just clicked on that link to the library, Winston. (I was curious to see how many weeks of reading your sadistic self just recommended.) Scrolling down, what I found was a series of Inactive Photobucket Account messages on the left, and a series of external links (some operable, others not) on the right. Not exactly helpful, to say the least.
To the OP - the truth (as I see it) is that you could read every thread on this board, and still be confused as hell as to what D/s is, or how anyone goes about practicing it. Everyone sees it differently, explains it differently, lives it differently. Hell, we can't even agree on the definitions of basic words. But the general idea is that D/s involves interactions in which one person (the s) follows, defers to, or obeys the D (i.e., the one in charge.)
Ladythunder
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The original library found here;
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=289059
contains links that continue to work, though old and still contain a wealth of information.
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=289059
contains links that continue to work, though old and still contain a wealth of information.
~Haze~
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CutieMouse
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The dead image boxes still link to listings of each thread relating to the various topics at hand; The Library is (indeed) a bit sad and sorry [confusing] since we no longer have a BDSM Librarian.
The request for "information on D/s" is a bit vague, which does make things a bit difficult to answer. For example, I tend to reply from a service submissive/masochist/too dammed serious for my own good/thinks too much perspective, which totally ignores a significant population of submissive archetypes/non-masochists re: D/s. I also never plan to wear a collar, call a lover "Sir", yadayadayada... yet I identify as submissive, and all my relationships are based on a significant power based dynamic.
My best advice to the OP would be to figure out what draws you to be submissive [in a relationship]. Do you like giving up control? Is it about giving up control sexually/in the bedroom, or in a more general sense? Are you curious about fetishes? Do you look at relationships from a "traditional/1950s" perspective, or is it more about a little rope bondage and spanking? Where does your perspective (re: D/s) come from? Erotica? Porn? Life?
My advice would be skewed and fine tuned based on the answers above... in other words - it's kinda personal, everyone makes mistakes and muddles their way through as best they can, and follow your heart.
The request for "information on D/s" is a bit vague, which does make things a bit difficult to answer. For example, I tend to reply from a service submissive/masochist/too dammed serious for my own good/thinks too much perspective, which totally ignores a significant population of submissive archetypes/non-masochists re: D/s.
I also never plan to wear a collar, call a lover "Sir", yadayadayada... yet I identify as submissive, and all my relationships are based on a significant power based dynamic. My best advice to the OP would be to figure out what draws you to be submissive [in a relationship]. Do you like giving up control? Is it about giving up control sexually/in the bedroom, or in a more general sense? Are you curious about fetishes? Do you look at relationships from a "traditional/1950s" perspective, or is it more about a little rope bondage and spanking? Where does your perspective (re: D/s) come from? Erotica? Porn? Life?
My advice would be skewed and fine tuned based on the answers above... in other words - it's kinda personal, everyone makes mistakes and muddles their way through as best they can, and follow your heart.
Netzach
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As CM alluded to, what exactly does that mean to you? Figure out that part and the likelihood of finding people with compatible vision increases.
There are a ton of different flavors and nuances out there. What do you envision when you think about it? How much control do you think you want to relinquish, control over what things, what aspects of your life, and think about the kind of person you envision doing that with - man, woman, same sex as you, opposite? A lot of painplay, mainly bondage, within a romantic relationship or a strict service one? sexually loaded without being sexually explicit? D/s takes myriad forms from something *very* close to an egalitarian partnership to something more like an animal and the person who bought it at the pet shop.
There are a ton of different flavors and nuances out there. What do you envision when you think about it? How much control do you think you want to relinquish, control over what things, what aspects of your life, and think about the kind of person you envision doing that with - man, woman, same sex as you, opposite? A lot of painplay, mainly bondage, within a romantic relationship or a strict service one? sexually loaded without being sexually explicit? D/s takes myriad forms from something *very* close to an egalitarian partnership to something more like an animal and the person who bought it at the pet shop.
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