Info for a newbie Domme

[SubbieHubbie]

Dear all... having had just one (2 if you count one instance of blindfolding and light tying) episode of sub/dom play with my wife, recently (last night in particular) we have begun to discuss develloping this into a more full ds relationship, including lifestyle (which was already partly there under the surface - whats on the tv, what she wants etc). However, my beloved wife has some squicks based around knowing we are both survivors of abuse. We tried a netsearch for information for the newbie domme/sub yesterday, and found just a little. Frankly most of what came up was extreme cock-torture type stuff - a turnoff for both of us, particularly her. I thought I would turn to the experts (you) and ask if you can suggest books and/or net resources for the _loving_ newbie domme/sub? Thank you for any feedback.

 

[lilredwolph]

check this site

http://msworthy_one_38.tripod.com/dscommunication/index.html

also there is a thread of links here (on this forum) you can look through, it has a link to just about anything you could think of

here's a reading list I got from a site that I can't seem to remember

Suggested Reading List

BEGINNERS:
Come Hither: A Common Sense Guide to Kinky Sex - Gloria Brame **
- An excellent “first book”. Includes a glossary of SM terms.
Learning the Ropes - Race Bannon **
Leather Handbook - First or Second Edition - Larry Townsend **
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns - Phillip Miller & Molly Devon **
The Bottoming Book: Or, How To Get Terrible Things Done To You by Wonderful People
- Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Lizst **
Leather and Latex Care - Kelly Thibault **
The Lesbian S/M Safety Manual - Pat Colifia
The Sexually Dominant Woman: Workbook for Nervous Beginners - Lady Green **
The Topping Book: Or, Getting Good At Being Bad - Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Lizst **
Ties That Bind - Guy Baldwin **
To Love, To Obey, To Serve: Diary of an Old Guard slave - Viola Johnson **
- The best book available on submission.
INTERMEDIATE:
Ask Larry - Larry Townsend **
Diesel Fuel Passionate Poetry - Pat Califia **
Different Loving - Gloria & Will Brame & Jon Jacobs **
Doing It For Daddy - Pat Califia
Leatherfolk - Edited by Mark Thompson **
Leather Sex - Joseph Bean **
On The Safe Edge - Trevor Jacques **
Taming the Household Beast - Mistress Autumn Rose **
The Loving Dominant - John Warren
The Master’s Manual - Jack Rinella **
The Mistress Manual: A Good Girl’s Guide to Female Domination - Lorelei

SKILLS:
A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting - Deborah Addington
Erotic Bondage Handbook - Jay Wiseman
Flogging - Joseph Bean **
How To Make Rope Restraints - Race Bannon
Kinky Crafts: 99 Do-It-Yourself S/M Toys - Edited by Lady Green
Knots Around the House - B. Neuman & T. Knight **
The Complete Spanker - Lady Green
Trust : Handbook of Fisting - Bert Herrman **