infidilty

[Mike73]

hello

there is a post in here about faking an orgazim and that reminded me about another thing and thats is infidilty or cheating

have you evre cheated on your partner do you feel bad about it does it arouse do you regret it

for me i never did but i heared and saw people who did i been married for 12 years now

do you get aroused if you saw your man or woman with another partner

thanks

 

[asenath]

Are you 11?

 

[Mike73]

oh please stop this not because someone asked something you see fit or you dont like you start accusing him of being minor

i saw other friends encountered this too

 

[SexyChele]

Excuse me, but I must ask this: is English a second language to you? I'm asking because, if it is, then your use of the language makes sense and may help others take your posts more seriously.

 

[asenath]

oh please stop this not because someone asked something you see fit or you dont like you start accusing him of being minor

i saw other friends encountered this too

I'm not sure what you mean exactly, but I asked him because my 11 year old has better writing skills.

I will apologise if English is his second language.

 

[Mike73]

as a mtter of fact yes its a second language to me

and that reminds me i did face this probelm many times i mean the other blaming me or expecting me to talk and write english perfectly

i cant understand why people in english talking countries expect forigners to talk english so good as they do

 

[asenath]

You're full of shit.

Which country are you from?

 

[Mike73]

sorry but i dont feel like answering stupid person like you who cant even admit her or his fault

i didnt even insult you but look at your self thats shows how shallow mind you have and it refelcts your manners as well

or are you one of those arrogant racistit people in those countries who think they are perfect and dont accept single word from others if you are i dont care either

 

[asenath]

You don't want to answer because you're full of shit.

I know a lot of people who speak English as a second language and most of them have better (English) writing skills than native speakers.

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by asenath
You don't want to answer because you're full of shit.

I know a lot of people who speak English as a second language and most of them have better (English) writing skills than native speakers.

You're certainly entitled to your opinion but it's been my experience that there are all sorts of people who have English as a second language that are not as good at it as those of us who have it as our first or only language. I've even known people who could speak it very well but were poor at writing...and vice versa...depending at what they were exposed to most.

asenath...they call this the WORLD wide web for a reason...it's always been by opinion not to criticize someone else's English unless I can speak (or write) their language as well as they speak (or write) mine...

Mike ...forgive me as I smile...your writing reminds me of a Turkish friend of mine

To answer your questions...no I have never cheated on a lover...been tempted more than once to 'help' someone else cheat though but I've resisted...and can't say I'd be aroused seeing my lover with someone else.

 

[asenath]

The way he responded was suspicious. He overdid it.. like a kid latching on to an excuse.

And how hard is it to say which country he's from?

 

[English Lady]

Hello Mike73


I have never cheated on my husband and i don't think i ever could. having any kind of sexual relationship with another person would only happen if my husband said it was ok. we've not ruled this out as we're both highly sexual and both would like to participate in a threesome.

It really does arouse me to think of my husband with another woman...very much so!

 

[Mike73]

thanks very much for your opinion wicked woman

i guess instead of trying to criticize someone else try to stay in the main subject and answer as the others did

but no everywhere there has to be some idoits

and thank you English Lady too

i apologize for anyone for the bad talks that happened in this thread but all of people cam judge as you read i didnt try to inslut this person nor did i attack her in anyway before she insluted me

all i did was answering the question when SexyChele asked if english was my second language or not and if you noticed this person said that she will apologize if english was my second language but instead you all can read and see how did she react and responded to it, can she give any excuse for what she said

"you are full of shit " that was her answer instead of apologizing

about my country i am from portugal

yes onething else

i still dont understand why some people in english speaking countries get so offend if some one talked english bad what..? do they expect everyone to be like them

i mean what is the big deal in talking english badly

is english something sacred and we dont know.?

why all this anger

and how can as wickedwoman said in what right they think they have to judge others where they cant or dont know another language and even if they did how good can tehy speak it

 

[Lust Engine]

The way he responded was suspicious. He overdid it.. like a kid latching on to an excuse.

And how hard is it to say which country he's from?

I am inclined to agree..to a degree here. While we should all have tolerance for people who don't speak or write English, it also behooves the non-English speaking/writing person to TRY, try and try again if they can't elaborate on the point they're trying to get across.

I don't think Asenath's request for what country the writer is from is rude by any stretch.

And Mike73, realize your English skills aren't that good and people are bound to question your intent, meanings and inquiries. Don't take it personally if someone doesn't have the patience to deal with you. You were the one that stepped into this English dominated site so you do have to accept some of the consequences.

 

[midwestyankee]

Mike73, you found a place that is populated in part by people who make assumptions about others based on the quality of the writing in their posts. It's unfortunate but it does happen occasionally.

Cheating on one's spouse can take several forms besides engaging in acts of physical sex. Many would say that participating in cybersex is cheating and the same would be true of what is often called phone sex. This issue has been the subject of many threads here in Literotica and the consensus seems to be that cheating is determined by the understanding that exists between partners.

Would it be arousing to watch a partner engage in sex with another person? I challenge anyone to tell me it would not be arousing. Now, their arousal might be masked by extreme anger or mixed with other strong emotions. But I expect that it would be nearly impossible to watch one's life partner engage in sex without it being very stimulating.

Just my humble two pennies worth of opinion.

 

[SexyChele]

Thank you for clarifying, Mike73. As those before me have already stated, this is a site run from the US and many times a lot of us (myself included!) simply forget that erotic literature is something people from all countries can enjoy.

Oh, and welcome to the board!

To answer your original question, I cheated once or twice on a partner when I was very young. I wasn't married, and the partner in question was probably also cheating. However, I didn't like how I felt and promised myself then I wouldn't do it again. I am faithful to my partner. He satisfies me physically, mentally, and emotionally so there is no reason or desire to seek some one else out.

Now, the idea of a threesome? I do have to admit that I get very turned on when I fantacize about sharing him with another woman or when I think of having sex with another woman while he watches! Gets me off every time! I've never shared that with him, though. Well, at least not yet! While I think it might turn him on as well - more the way I would describe my fantasy and what would be happening - he really isn't all that into sharing of any kind. So.... Yet, I don't know if this particular fantasy would work in real life (we've only been dating for 11 1/2 months).

 

[Mike73]

thanks for all the answers

and yes about what Lust Engine said you are totally wrong i didnt get angry becuase she askd what country i am from

but what because what she said before that

she said you are full of shit

i mean an insult without any reason

if she was a nice person she could have expalined what should i do nicly liek you all you did but do you think its polite or fun to inslut others

anways please let us just stick to the orignal thread and dont dissucse this anymore

 

[Falkieri]

I doubt I could cheat on the woman I was with. To me there is a difference between sex for pleasure and sex for love, but, the thing that would hold me back is that I would be doing something that would hurt the person I was with. Not to mention that it would hurt me as well. I'm very open when I'm with someone, and having to shut her out of a part of me would make me feel bad as well.

If I were in a relationship in which we had other partners, it would arouse me to watch her with another man, or to have her see me with another woman. However, we would have to have a relationship in which it was clear that this was just sex, and that our love was only for each other.

 

[peachykeen]

Mike I recommend that you try using the 'search' function, in the lower right hand corner. Just type in 'adultery' or 'cheating' and I am sure you will find hours and hours of reading material to keep you busy reading.

 

[Bobmi357]

i still dont understand why some people in english speaking countries get so offend if some one talked english bad what..? do they expect everyone to be like them

Mike,
First of all, welcome to Literotica.

What you need to understand is that Literotica is an adult resource, a free adult resource. And as such, it is illegal for children to use this website.

While I do not approve of the way some people treated your original posting, I also wondered if you could be underage as well from the sentence structure and because your question was really inappropriate for this particular board. As the "How To" board, 90% of the questions here are of the nature of "How do I do this...." or "What does this mean....", your question would have been better addressed on the general or even playground boards.

I would suggest in the future that when you start a new thread, just start it with a "Hi! I'm Mike, from Portugal" and people will understand they are dealing with someone who's native language isn't english.

As to your question, nope, never cheated, never want to, have no desire to see anyone else but me with my wife.

 

[horny_boi]

On the topic, I wouldn't cheat on my current partner ( she is my soul mate i would not do anything to hurt her ever ). But previously I have thought about it not because i did not love my partner at the time but because i just love sex and to flirt
Any other partner i believe i would be extremely turned on watching them with another person but if it was my current partner i think i wouldn't be ! not a single bit! (not to mention how angry i would be where'd my machete go.../looks around for it )

Off topic.
I agree with mike!! English is not my first language either and I have been offended several times at these boards by people's quite often insulting comments relating to our english and grammer. Considering these forums are very great that they don't discriminate if someone is fat or thin or old or young(unless underage) or pretty or ugly, etc ! it is quite a shame that the community can not extend that atmosphere to people's english that is not as great as their own ( keep in mind author's who post here have experience in writing english not everyone is as good at english even if it is their first language)
I stand by mike on this side of things, and i think that the person who insulted him and also said she would apologise if english was his second language, she should apologise to him twice, for being rude. and because she said she would because english is his second language

 

[fsumusic1981]

Cheating... I am guilty. I have received oral sex from another woman while I've been in a relationship.

About Americans who act rudely toward non-native speakers...

I personally think this is a very unfortunate character trait that too many Americans exhibit on and off the internet. I personally think it is worse when it happens in real life.

I work as a salesman, and when people apply for credit cards, I ask them if they would like their printed communication in English or Spanish. A good many of them seem to take personal insult to my asking them that question. They act as if the Spanish language has no place in America. The most common line they I hear is: "If THEY come over here, THEY need to learn to speak the language."

Well, there is no national language here in America. There's a group out there that supports that kind of thing. I think it's called "English First." There are other gruops that oppose a national language, like the ACLU. I personally think the ACLU is on the right track, especially when they say the dislike of the spanish language is based on racism. I mean, think about it... how many people do you know that get mad when a french person stumbles through a conversation in America? Not many...

Personally, I have no problem with people speaking Spanish in America. Multiculturalism benefits everybody with an open mind. By 2040, 25% of America's population will be of Latin-American descent. Hoepfully Americans will be willing to learn the Spanish language to converse with our fellow citizens who have not yet picked up English, or are not as fluent in English as one is in Spanish. I have 5 months off before I start law school, and I personally think that my relearning spanish (I took 3 years in high school) will be something I'd benefit by doing. I see it as an asset.

Anyways, that was waaaay offtopic and I probably shouldn't be doing a political rant on this board. But maybe someone will read it and it will make them think. Anyhooooo...

-Peace

 

[Falkieri]

I hate to keep things off-topic, but, I can't just let go your rant. You really should re-read what you said. Its bad enouhg that you basically assert that anyone who believes English should be the official language is racist, but, then you make the statement that those who speak English should learn Spanish to be able to speak to their fellow Americans. I think that attitude, more than anything, is what makes many of the people who are anti-spanish so angry. It has nothing to do with racism, which these days tends to be a throw-away line to invalidate another sides argument when logic won't do the trick, it has to do with this idea that it is somehow the burden of English speakers in this country to accomodate those who speak Spanish, while those who speak Spanish should not be pressured to speak English.

I'm not even saying that English should be the official language, and I certainly have no difficulty with people speaking Spanish, or businesses providing information in other languages, that's business. You seem to be saying that its the duty of English speakers to learn Spanish, and to not want to do so is being racist. I can't let that go unchallenged.

Sorry for taking things off topic again.....

 

[asenath]

I don't have any problem at all with people who can't speak English perfectly. Thick accents are hot.

What was idiotic was that he jumped in and started ranting. It seemed more like the reaction of someone who found an out.. not the reaction of someone who really did speak English as a second language.

 

[asiasiren]

Lets see, did I cheat on a partner?

Of course I did. But not by much. He was in the next room passed out. the relationship wasn't really that strong to begin with though. My hubby I have never cheated on. That is if cheating is doing something without someones knowing about it.
As for being aroused seeing your partner engaging in sex with someone else, I would have to agree with midwestyankee on this. Even if a spouce was to come home unexpectantly and catch their SO in the act, they always seem to watch for a bit before screaming bloody murder. Why are they watching? I think because it excites them first before the realization sets in that "Hey, your banging my partner there". A a realization of the trust going down the drain that finally catches up with you.

OK, now, about the other direction this thread has taken. Don't you hate it when your not sure which direction your supposed to take?
English is my 4th language. First was Indonesian, then Malay, I do pretty good in Singapore and then English. Of course, I had great teachers. i learned at the US Embassy in Hong Kong. What was so interesting is how the british that I knew would always tell me I didn't speak English, I spoke American. Well, that got me really confused. Once I arrived in America i was assured that I spoke English. I have worked at it over the years with help from my husband and a few private teachers. I can say that if you want to speak a different language, learn it from someone who knows your language. It is easier to understand the problems you may be facing in learning a new language.
English is not an easy language to learn. It is considered one of the more diffecult as a matter of fact. It is much more complex then most languages and the spelling is really screwed up. What i have always found interesting is that they teach you to read with phonics but, don't try to spell with them. dah
In my travels all over the world what strikes me as reality is that those who have never ventured away from home or have and did not bother to learn anything from it are those that normally preach how they are superior in some way or another. I find those that have experienced life the way others do much more interesting.
I have ranted enough. Have awonderful day today.