Inexperienced Dom

[Pyromaniaq]

Hi,
I am a 32 yo 6ft M Dom with an avg build, belonging to a third world country.
I struggle in establishing a transparent relationship with a sub where I can be my unfiltered self. I figure it's mostly because the girls have yet to 'open' up in this part of the world.
I do start gently to test waters, to see the limits of my partners - what they are okay with and what not, but I find them all hesitating or awkward after a certain point.
Maybe I'm doing something wrong, help!!

 

[domjoe]

Having a dom side doesn't mean you can be your unfiltered self! If there's another person in your life, you have to compromise. Seems to me that you're doing the right thing with your approach, but just haven't found a match for your tastes. If I may ask, what is it that you're into that makes them become hesitant?

 

[DuvessaNight]

I’d like to hear why you yourself think the women clam up or it becomes awkward. What is the common denominator? An act, a certain choice of words maybe? What do you think it is?

 

[IrisAlthea]

I do start gently to test waters, to see the limits of my partners - what they are okay with and what not, but I find them all hesitating or awkward after a certain point.

Well, I don’t know where you are from, but you mention:

a third world country.

Depending on the culture where you are, this :

the girls have yet to 'open' up in this part of the world.

could defnitely be part of it.

No matter how gently you think you go, there is still the ”informed” part of ”informed consent” to consider.
How much sex education have they had and what did they learn? What ideas about sex and how a girl/woman should behave were they brought up with? How much experience with sex in general and with relationships do they have? Do they know about the concept of kink/BDSM and that this is what you are after? Are you sure they feel safe/comfortable with saying both yes and no to sex/kink?