Inexperienced but interested

[hotoldrguy]

If you had no experience with kinks or fetishes, you had no partner but you wanted to try give some new things a try:

What would you look for in a partner to help you with your exploration?

 

[cubbyfire04]

If you had no experience with kinks or fetishes, you had no partner but you wanted to try give some new things a try:

What would you look for in a partner to help you with your exploration?

Honesty, humor, and someone who isn't judgemental towards anyone, especially in public. If they judge that cashier who was socially awkward, or that server who accidentally got your order wrong, or that other person because of their political views... They're going to judge someone whose sexuality doesn't vibe with their own.

 

[blazingsaddles69]

Hello from the Northwest

Mental and physical fitness and an open mind

 

[klippert]

If you had no experience with kinks or fetishes, you had no partner but you wanted to try give some new things a try:

What would you look for in a partner to help you with your exploration?

honesty right up front. !!!

 

[WillowySparkles]

If you had no experience with kinks or fetishes, you had no partner but you wanted to try give some new things a try:

What would you look for in a partner to help you with your exploration?

honesty right up front. !!!

This foremost! You have to be straight with your potential partner.

an open mind

This too. If you express your interest in a kink or fetish to someone, they may reply saying yes, but then add something else to go with it, something you may either not be familiar with, or even find distasteful. As much as you want your partner to try these new things with you, you have to hear them out as well. Good listening skills and an empathic heart would be desirable.

someone who isn't judgemental

This is desired in both persons. If total intimacy is expected, but one or the other is fearful of being judged by the other, then I think it's doomed to failure.

 

[hotoldrguy]

This foremost! You have to be straight with your potential partner.



This too. If you express your interest in a kink or fetish to someone, they may reply saying yes, but then add something else to go with it, something you may either not be familiar with, or even find distasteful. As much as you want your partner to try these new things with you, you have to hear them out as well. Good listening skills and an empathic heart would be desirable.



This is desired in both persons. If total intimacy is expected, but one or the other is fearful of being judged by the other, then I think it's doomed to failure.

These all sound right. The next question is how do you find someone like this? You can always go on forums on LIT and talk about it and see if someone seems open. But then there is the issue that you are probably 100 miles or more away from each other.

So if you are meeting people in the flesh, how would you break the ice for a discussion?

 

[phil1955]

These all sound right. The next question is how do you find someone like this? You can always go on forums on LIT and talk about it and see if someone seems open. But then there is the issue that you are probably 100 miles or more away from each other.

So if you are meeting people in the flesh, how would you break the ice for a discussion?

I would think one of the online sites like Fetlife or Tinder where you can openly discuss your wants and desires to see if you are compatible. You might need to be prepared to travel some if you do meet someone interested.