I'm So Confused...

[CharlieBrown999]

I thought getting older would bring more clarity - but at 27 years old, I'm no closer to figuring out my sexuality than when I was 13. PLEASE HELP ME!!!

My most common sexual fantasies are about women, I have heaps of girl on girl porn and yet I find guys hot too! I've always had boyfriends, but I've never really enjoyed hetero-sex that much.

What the hell category do I fall into??? And how on earth do I make a relationship work with a man when I don't really enjoy sex? I've been with my partner for 5 years, and he is fantastic - I love him to the core of me. But I crave women physically.

Has anyone else ever felt similar to this???

 

[DirkPryde]

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[Mikijl Dragon]

There is no need to fall into any category. Do what makes you feel happy. If you feel you need to be "something" then you could say bi curious. Go out have some experiences with a cute guy, a cute girl, a cut guy and girl or even a cute guygirl and see what you enjoy the most.

You dont have to limit yourself. Enjoy it life is to short to be labeled.

 

[oo0_boo_0oo]

I couldnt agree more, its about you finding out who you are, rather than choosing one of society's labels.

 

[geishaGirl]

Response to CharlieBrown999 - What category

CharlieBrown999, I really empathise with you on this one. I am 25 years old and have only recently (in last 18 months or so) "realised" and even slightly "admitted" that I am bisexual. I was reading another post on another forum before and the person said something along the lines of there being shades within any kind of sexuality. I think this holds alot of truth.

My husband and I discussed our sexuality before we got married - he was telling me that he was bi and I didn't take it well at first. I felt very insecure about it all, didn't understand etc. After a while I "remembered" that my first kiss had been with a girl when I was about 12 whereas if I ever shared any sort of information about my sexual past I would always say that my first kiss was when I was 15 (which was with a guy) - I blocked the girl experience out. What I am trying to say here (as well as giving you an insight into my history) is that I am still confused after 18 months of talking EXTENSIVELY with my husband and the woman (who's a friend of ours) that I am interested in. She has been openly bi for some years now so she is good to chat to.

Sexuality is a confusing thing - how you deal with it depends on alot of factors, a big one being your upbringing. Take it one step at a time, although you're finding it frustrating and confusing, write your thoughts down in a diary or on Literotica or type them out on your computer. I have found that always helps my confusion - I'm doing a bit of typing at the moment as well.

Geez, sorry I have babbled on here - just trying to help. See if you can have an experience with a woman and that may help clarify things for you