I'm pretty sure I'm being dumped...

[Betticus]

You would be. But sorry, this is a night for GIRLS ONLY. We're gonna be sexist and make nasty comments about men. Last I checked, you have ALL the wrong equipment.

Besides, you're not an Oregonian. Oregonians ROCK.

That's it, I'm not gonna bring the cookies!

 

[snowy ciara]

I'll bring em! Many hugs chicklet. I'm not big on the wisdom either, and sadly, I can't even offer to go thawap him for you either right now!

 

[graceanne]

And just when WAS the last time YOU looked at his equipment?

And, if you don't mind, I have one last question. I'm not trying to be a pest, but just how do you people up there in that state full of trees pronounce the word Oregonians...or even Oregonian? And, should that maybe be Oregonites?

Remember his av? What was it, about a year ago? I'm pretty sure he has the wrong equipment. No one with one of those gets to come, get drunk, and bitch about men.

And it's pronounced like it's spelled. I know how you pronounce it 'organ' cause I've lived in Missouri, and all Missourians I've met mispronounce Oregon.

 

[shy slave]

Wanna go out, get drunk, and bitch about men?

I may be happy right now, but I am always ready to bitch about men.

If chicklets up to it, then I am in.

And to start the ball rolling:

Whats the difference between a clitoris and a beer?
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.A man can always find the beer!





Chicklet, I hope everyone on the thread has helped.

Men can be bastards and he will get his comeuppance once day. Its the way of the world

 

[DVS]

I may be happy right now, but I am always ready to bitch about men.

If chicklets up to it, then I am in.

And to start the ball rolling:

Whats the difference between a clitoris and a beer?
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.A man can always find the beer!

Is it time to start on the dumb blonde jokes, yet?

 

[FurryFury]

I may be happy right now, but I am always ready to bitch about men.

If chicklets up to it, then I am in.

And to start the ball rolling:

Whats the difference between a clitoris and a beer?
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.A man can always find the beer!





Chicklet, I hope everyone on the thread has helped.

Men can be bastards and he will get his comeuppance once day. Its the way of the world

*snickers*

You be bad girl!

Fury

 

[mlady_france]

Chicklet hun, I'm sorry to hear you're having a rough time.

*loves, snuggles, and hugs*

 

[Chicklet]

Thanks everyone for all the nice things. You made me smile, which is really great.

Graceanne, your plan sounds perfect. Too bad it's Saturday night already >< I'm sure I'd be just as willing to go get drunk next weekend... drop me a PM and we could set an exciting men-bashing date.

DVS, you're too sweet. And if anyone says "orygone" I'll wince. Orygun, please. AngelicAssassin, your "click me" also made me smile.

Betticus, I haven't had the pleasure of seeing your equipment, so I think I definitely deserve cookies.

 

[JupitersGirl]

People pass into your life and pass out of your life, and there's a cycle to it. If you feel like a submissive person, then that person is like your sun. You're like a flower who opens up when they're around and your petals spread out.

They're set in their course and unchanging, that's fine.

You have petals and you spread out, but you have something else, you have roots.

When you're withdrawn, which is normal, and you have to do, just root yourself. This is just as necessary as being outflung.

People judge this phase as being bad or worse, but it's absolutely necessary to growth.

You can call it whatever you want, but if you don't use this phase to relax and root yourself, ground yourself, and grow, when the sun rises again, you'll be too exhausted to bloom.

Suns come and suns go according to their schedule.

Your power lies in your roots.

This sent shivers up my spine. Roots, indeed!

 

[Red Sonja]

Men... can't live with em... can't shoot 'em. Darn DNA testing anyway.

Seriously though... dating is hard. I remember going through some pretty rough times. All I can say is, the right guy for you is out there... in the words of Steve Martin in L.A. Story--- there's someone for everyone... even if it takes a pick axe, a compass and night goggles to find them.

As far as the party goes, Dh is opening a winery and I just spent all day there bottling wine... whaddaya want? A nice cab, shiraz... blueberry. You name it and you virtually got it!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Sorry to sound cliche like, but sounds like 'he's just not that into you', and that is OK because no-one is right for everyone, nor is anyone right for everyone. Ass to being dumped, unless you were in a rrelationship, it isn't really dumping IMHO, just choosing not to go in that romantic direction. I knoww how hard it can be to acept, and if you have been depressed it is not going to help, but if he wasn't honest aandd upfront with you and waited until you felt beetter, first you would feel betrayed and made a fool of, and secondly you would most likely go back into depression as a reaction...you can't use your depression to manipulate others into doing as you want, especially when it involves emotions and relationships.

I am sorry you are going through this, and have been there myself....one of the things I learned from it is that if you lay yourself out like a doormat, give them everything you think they may want and need in an effort to win their affections, often they feel they don't need it, don't want the implied responsibility or obligation, don't feel a challenge or value in what is offered, and don't respect what it is you are offering, namely yourself. I have also been in thee pposition of having men ffeel I should love them, and believe me, if you don't feel the same it is not only hard to deal with sensitively (mostly because most do not back off if you are gentle about it), but it becomes depressing and an unbearable burden to endure the whole process until the infatuated one moves on...it actually becomes very controlling in most instances.

Look at why you feel the way you do, whether the things you do for him come from a genuine desire to make him happy or a place where you see it more as getting you what you want regardless of his desires. It sounds harsh but is something you need to do if you want to move beyond this and find a relationship which is healthy and honest where your needs are met as well as those of the one you love. Good luck with it.

Catalina