I'm pissed

[freakygirl]

but my real question is.. do i have a right to be?

Husband gets off work at 10 pm..home usually by 10:30pm... he called here at 10:10 and said he was going to be a "few" minutes late. I naturally asked "why?" he said "I had to bring one of the "girls" to the hospital, because she fell down". I said "girl?" He said "yes, one of the CO's from another unit fell down and hurt her knee, we just got to the hospital and they took her into the room. It shouldn't be much longer". I said "Well I guess I'll see you in the morning, because I'll be in bed before you ever leave the hospital" He got mad and said "There was no one else to take her" I said "bye" and hung up. (actually there was a little more to the story, but it didn't really have anything to do with this conversation.. so i left it out)

Ok.. here is some more of the story, the hospital is 22 miles away from the prison.. he used his vehicle on his time to take her to the hospital.. then he has to use his vehicle again to take her back out to the prison to get her vehicle. Then he has to drive past the hospital on his way home from the prison. Basicly the hospital is between the prison and our home. The prison has a self contained emergancy medical staff/basic hospital.. and an ambulance.. and telephones.. couldn't they call someone to come get her, use their ambulance to transport her.. give her the medical attention she needs right there on location??

so back to my original question..do i have the right to be pissed?

 

[InMiami]

wanna chat about it? this is too slow. do you have msn?

 

[freakygirl]

yes... my msn is clerky31@hotmail.com

 

[seXieleXie]

FG, not to be mean, but i think you're over reacting. he's just being nice. just because the person he is helping is a woman doesn't mean he is doing something illicit. have a little faith!

 

[Bindii]

Well if you suspect that your husband is having an affair, then yes you have a right to be pissed...but if not then be thankful that you have a caring, compassionate husband. Someone who is willing to to take the time and trouble to help another person. Don't forget that he is dealing with a government department here, they can't organise anything botherless the use of one of their ambulances!!!

 

[InMiami]

mine is mm_617@hotmail.com you are already on my list but can't see you

 

[freakygirl]

FG, not to be mean, but i think you're over reacting. he's just being nice. just because the person he is helping is a woman doesn't mean he is doing something illicit. have a little faith!

see.. I'm trying to be that way.. i trust him.. to a point.. there is something in our past.. that happened at the prison.. concerning a female employee.. i'm scared the same thing might happen. Although "it" was found to be a two way street..both at fault.. and no one was "punished" for it.. "it" happened.. and because of that.. my trust in him is tarnished..(no sleeping together, only flirting, he says "in an innocent way".. his quote "kind of like you on lit". Well HE can come to Lit at any time and see what I do.. me on the other hand.. cannot go to the prison and see what he does)

I've seen this girl.. and I've seen how he gets around her. all blood flow stops to the head on his shoulders.. she is not only cute.. she's damn hot.. even i think so..

I guess i'm insecure..

thanks sexielexie I appreciate it

 

[lavender]

 

[Bigdog]

Do you have a right to be pissed? Yes.

Should you be? Probably not.

Setting the "history" aside right now, you have to realise this "girl" is part of his work family. Correction facility workers are a bit tighter with their coworkers due to the nature of the job. The person you help today may be the one who has your back when things go bad tomorrow. Yes, the "pretty girl" bangs up a knee and has more help than she knows what to do with. Happens in the regular workplace too. It still smacks of being a straight up guy, I would give him the benefit of the doubt.

Hell, if I didn't work with all guys my wife would be in the parking lot every day with surveilance equipment and a kitchen knife.

 

[SilverVeil]

Well.... at least he had the decency to call right ?

There are 2 ways this could go I am thinking.

You be very happy you have a nice man as a husband and compliment him on that and say you will leave a light on if you go to bed before he gets home. And he goes and tells the girl what a wonderful wife he has waiting for him when he is done helping her.

Or .....

He is upset and it shows when he gets back to where ever she is waiting in the E/R and tells her about it. She of course will feel terrible about causing so much trouble and gives him all kinds of sympathy.

I like the 1st scene better myself.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Trying to catch up on some threads now.

Just wanted to say that I hope things went well for you last night, freakygirl. It seems one of the "downfalls" of being involved with a truly nice guy is they sometimes get caught up with situations that result in a lot of time away from the family.

Hope things are well with you.