I'm OK With It I Think.

[fgarvb1]

The question came up if a woman was my daughter by my first wife.

Long fucked up story from 1980.

Turns out her birth date makes it impossible by one month and a week.

It took me a while and a favor or two ( nice to have friends in high places)

to find that out.

Then I informed my wife of the situation, because she knew something was bothering me for the last week, and I told her that I would fill her in when I had something to tell.


So I did.

She freaked for a few seconds as I started the story from scratch, then calmed down as she understood I was telling her that I did NOT have a twenty seven year old daughter that I didn't know about.

Then she asked me if I was OK with that.

I guess I am.

Has anything like that ever happened to you?

 

[infinity706]

No, it hasn't. A 27 year old daughter would have been born before me. I have had some strange occurances, though.

 

[Eilan]

There's a woman in my hometown who was raised to believe that she was my grandfather's child; in fact, she was given his last name and named after one of his sisters. She even came to my grandpa's funeral, though none of us knew it at the time (she'd signed the register at the funeral home, with special emphasis on her last name). Neither she nor her mother initiated contact with my grandpa after he came home from WWII.

My grandpa did, like many of his buddies and acquaintances, have a sexual relationship with the woman's mother. However, the mother gave birth just over 11 months after my grandpa entered the Army in January of 1941, so unless she had a really long pregnancy, her daughter can't be related to us.

 

[bridgetvoyeur]

when i was 11 i found out that i had an older sister i never knew existed. kind of a shock, but the more the merrier where family's concerned.

 

[pplwatching]

It hasn't happened to me, but it sure makes the news a lot. I am happily in my first marriage, but if an ex girlfriend told me that I had a kid then I guess first I'd want to be really sure my ex wasn't lying. 5 weeks is a lot, but not impossible. My brother was 5 weeks late, as unbelievable as that seems, and my office mate has a premie. My second kiddo was induced at almost 3 weeks late. It happens. Who's name is on the birth certificate? I guess I'd want a paternity test to know for sure if someone was making that kind of claim and the date was on the margins. Next I'd want to know why it was suddenly out in the open a quarter of a century later. If she's not a gold digger then why make that kind of claim?

Then there's the question your wife asked. If the birth date implied that an ex was having an affair while we were still together (but not having sex), then I guess I'd be a bit miffed at the ex. Still, that water to passed under that particular bridge a long time ago.

 

[fgarvb1]

It hasn't happened to me, but it sure makes the news a lot. I am happily in my first marriage, but if an ex girlfriend told me that I had a kid then I guess first I'd want to be really sure my ex wasn't lying. 5 weeks is a lot, but not impossible. My brother was 5 weeks late, as unbelievable as that seems, and my office mate has a premie. My second kiddo was induced at almost 3 weeks late. It happens. Who's name is on the birth certificate? I guess I'd want a paternity test to know for sure if someone was making that kind of claim and the date was on the margins. Next I'd want to know why it was suddenly out in the open a quarter of a century later. If she's not a gold digger then why make that kind of claim?

Then there's the question your wife asked. If the birth date implied that an ex was having an affair while we were still together (but not having sex), then I guess I'd be a bit miffed at the ex. Still, that water to passed under that particular bridge a long time ago.

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Short version.

Ex-wife, who I was head over heels in love with, suddenly kicked my ass off into the twilight zone after almost four years of marriage.

People was still asking about her six months later and almost never accepted the first two times I told them that she left me for this dude who went to work where she did some three months earlier.

She got pregnant first thing. the last time we had sex was April 10 1980.
the daughter was born February 25 1981. his name was on the birth record.

Not that she would have informed me or anything. You can bet none of her kids know that I even existed.

She covered up her hatred of me very, very well until she told me she was leaving me for him.


A couple of years later I found out one of the reasons. ( I had NO clue at all at the time .)

Her younger sister informed her that the she had, caught me and my ex-wife's best friend fucking on our couch, when she dropped by our house and saw us through the back door mini blinds.

I know this because she confessed that she had done it. however she could give me no reason at all why she did.

(I'm guessing this is one reason she is a fucked up dope head to this day.)

I... don't know what to say about people like that.

There is nothing like getting fucked over for no good reason.

Not surprising I have some trust issues.

 

[pplwatching]

It sounds like you are blessed with a much better woman now. I hope that you take some comfort in that.

 

[fgarvb1]

It sounds like you are blessed with a much better woman now. I hope that you take some comfort in that.

I, believe it or not, managed to marry someone worse. (third wife)

Trust me folks a back ground check is in order!

Unless you LIKE split personalities... Susie homemaker/super slut/ crazy bitch from hell. And could change in the blink of an eye.

Made sleeping sound not an option.

My now wife of sixteen years has a few flaws..like doesn't give it up enough,

Somewhat selfish and self centered but she hasn't ran off yet or tried to kill me.

Well, she 's almost gave me a stroke a few times, but redheads tend to do that every so often.

 

[Windflower]

If I did NOT have a twenty seven year old daughter that I didn't know about, I'd be OK with that, yeah. I guess.



Why be weirded out upon confirming that you didn't conceive any babies that you didn't know about? Am I missing something here (the thread title and original starter post NOT anything which follows)? Is this OP and main point of this thread just plain weird for anyone else? Just wondering.

 

[fgarvb1]

If I did NOT have a twenty seven year old daughter that I didn't know about, I'd be OK with that, yeah. I guess.



Why be weirded out upon confirming that you didn't conceive any babies that you didn't know about? Am I missing something here (the thread title and original starter post NOT anything which follows)? Is this OP and main point of this thread just plain weird for anyone else? Just wondering.

OK, I'll give a little.

I have no children of my own that I know of...just worked out that way. Recently while dealing with some family Estate stuff, I realized I need to make out a will and other than my wife I have no direct heirs. than a deal came up with some friends of mine about her oldest son that I didn't know about which put me to thinking I trust like...zero times infinity!

Putting it simply, She hates me. For NO just cause, with plenty of unjust reasons I might add!

When I found out her daughter was born in late 1980 or early '81..they say I went a little pale. So, the investigation was on. I found out with out disturbing them people at all.

My first wife was the love of my life, that one person that you are head over heels in love, which is something to try to obtain again with another person.

Had a little accident the week before she left me for this other man. When I mentioned it she said she would get an abortion if she was pregnant.

Also with us three brothers being single a fair amount of our young lives..well
a plan really needs to be put in place just in case!

This is kind of personal and I don't usually post this kind of stuff around here.