I'm not a Dom.

[FungiUg]

Um...along that same vein of logic, you should already know that I'm almost always doing something naughty; and so, always need spankings.

So, where's my spanking?

I only spank my girl if she's been good. If we were to apply that same logic here...

 

[Essene]

I only spank my girl if she's been good. If we were to apply that same logic here...

Well, it's not like my dry spell could get any drier.

My sexuality is a beeeeauuuutiiiiful oasis in a barren desert...

Oooh speaking desert...I wonder if I should cut up an apple with peanut butter for dessert.

*rifles through fridge*

 

[ownedsubgal]

While I tend to go with the label "dominant", I've been told many times I am a top, not a dominant. I don't mind topping (especially strawberry, or caramel!) so I don't tend to argue the point, but a lot of that has been due to the limitation of the relationship I was in, rather than my own desires. Tended to limit me to just play sessions.

These days... my partner is submissive, but isn't actually my submissive. If she were to identify with a label, I suspect it would be "switch". I find it hard to use labels to nail down what's happening in the relationship. She isn't my submissive, but she is submissive to me, and we're planning on doing some D/s scenes at some point.

So I guess I go with labels being convenient to at least get into the right ball-park, but from there, you need a GPS.

imo (which many will disagree with) it comes down to what you do vs. who you are. if someone's dominance centers around engaging in certain activities, if it can be compartmentalized and does not effect your overall way of interacting and thinking in either your romantic relationship or the world at large, then i wouldn't call such a person "a" Dominant...they may be a top, or a sadist, or kinky, etc. at the same time i don't view "dominant" as a title to be earned or status thing...it's just a descriptor, gives me an idea of where someone is coming from.