im going to have my first experience as a dom this wknd...

[Miss_Puss]

im pretty aware of most basics but a few ideas to help me along would be great.

we are both going shopping this saturday at a local sex shop, so any tips for accesories or outfits would be great too.

 

[MissTaken]

Awww gosh!

My first piece of advise is to blindfold him or her. At least then, if you are clumsy or not confident with what you are doing, you won't break the mood.

Ya know, a subbie being whupped up on might have difficulty getting into their headspace if you hit yourself in the back of the head with the tails of a flogger.

Shhhhhh I did that once and thank God he was blindfolded!

 

[A Desert Rose]

Awww gosh!

My first piece of advise is to blindfold him or her. At least then, if you are clumsy or not confident with what you are doing, you won't break the mood.

Ya know, a subbie being whupped up on might have difficulty getting into their headspace if you hit yourself in the back of the head with the tails of a flogger.

Shhhhhh I did that once and thank God he was blindfolded!

OHHHH to have been a mouse in the corner that night!!!

LMAO

 

[Betticus]

Awww gosh!

My first piece of advise is to blindfold him or her. At least then, if you are clumsy or not confident with what you are doing, you won't break the mood.

Ya know, a subbie being whupped up on might have difficulty getting into their headspace if you hit yourself in the back of the head with the tails of a flogger.

Shhhhhh I did that once and thank God he was blindfolded!

That is the cutest thing ever!

 

[Sir_Winston54]

im pretty aware of most basics but a few ideas to help me along would be great.

we are both going shopping this saturday at a local sex shop, so any tips for accesories or outfits would be great too.

Miss_P, it would help us to provide ideas if we knew

1) what kind of activities you envision for this weekend,
2) what kind of "toys" you have in your bag (so to speak),
3) what/how much experience you have in using them, and
4) how much your sub/bottom has in having them used upon him/her.

Also, are you and your sub more into physical activities (spanking, flogging, caning, electro-play, fireplay, etc.), or mental-emotional play?

Answers to these questions might give us enough information to give you some meaningful feedback.

 

[SweetDommes]

Ya know, a subbie being whupped up on might have difficulty getting into their headspace if you hit yourself in the back of the head with the tails of a flogger.

Shhhhhh I did that once and thank God he was blindfolded!

I actually mananged to somehow hit myself right below the kidneys (which I suppose is only fair, cuz I hit him right in the kidneys )

As for my suggestions - I agree with Winston's list of questions that might help us ... but even with not having your answers, there are some things that can be suggested.

1 - The blindfold is pretty much a must ...
2 - Have your sub draw a bath with scented oils, light candles in the bathroom, and then bathe you by candle-light (assuming, of course, that the bathroom has the space for this ... ours, sadly, does not).
3 - If you are into fetishwear, then go for it - but keep in mind that it's expensive *sigh*
4 - for the mental aspect, buy the biggest, scariest buttplug/dildo the toystore has ... and make sure that your sub sees you getting it out and set up before you put the blindfold on ... but have a smaller one out of sight to use (unless your sub is used to large ... )

um ... out of ideas for the moment ...