I'm curious

[Ms_Lilith]

Has there ever been anyone on this board whose attention you've wanted to catch?

Did you ever catch it?

How did you do so?

And, if you're okay with telling.. who was it?

(this comes from a sub who's been interested in a certain Dom here).

subs, how did you go about it?

Dom/mes, how did You? (Do You just pm that person, and tell them, or is it an unspoken thing?)

I'm seriously curious.

 

[Quint]

I've never been good at that odd stage immediately following "flirting," r/l or otherwise. And here, flirting means that I post as I post. I'm usually lurid enough to attract SOME sort of attention, and open enough that if my kinks don't directly match up with the Dom/me in question, they'll know about it before they read 5 posts of mine. More personal involvement than that makes me all squidgy--and yes, that's the technical term.

Does D/s really interfere? Perhaps in my general attitude, which is of "initiation, bah." But I wouldn't consider myself out of line for flirting with a Dom/me. This is simply an activity where I tend to be the passive one, at least until some sort of reciprocation is displayed.

(But it's Zipman, anyway. )

 

[psiberzerker]

Ooh goody, goody, the slow spiraling in of two lost souls. As a sub, I would respectfully suggest a pm, but make it good. If you where a Dom/me, it would just be a matter of seduction, but a submissive has to keep her role in mind. A lot of Tops don't like being approached by subs, or even spoken too by them except in reply.
If this where IRL, it would be so much easier. The tried, and true method I always liked was watching your intended catch from across the room, throw in the occasional sigh, and look away whenever S/he looks over so they know you're staring. If nothihng else, S/he will come over to berate you for your behaviour, and that's usually the beginning of a brutalfull relationship.
Ah well, hope it works out for you, and your intended beau.

 

[zipman]

Ooh goody, goody, the slow spiraling in of two lost souls. As a sub, I would respectfully suggest a pm, but make it good. If you where a Dom/me, it would just be a matter of seduction, but a submissive has to keep her role in mind. A lot of Tops don't like being approached by subs, or even spoken too by them except in reply.
If this where IRL, it would be so much easier. The tried, and true method I always liked was watching your intended catch from across the room, throw in the occasional sigh, and look away whenever S/he looks over so they know you're staring. If nothihng else, S/he will come over to berate you for your behaviour, and that's usually the beginning of a brutalfull relationship.
Ah well, hope it works out for you, and your intended beau.

I would disagree with this. On this forum, the usual on-line BDSM role playing bullshit doesn't exist. We can interact freely with each other and I don't know of any Tops or Dom/mes here who would mind.

I would suggest a nice pm. If you are worried about how they may take it, then start it with, "I hope you don't mind, but I just wanted to tell you that..."


Quint - What can I say. I'm absolutely flattered! Since you felt free to admit that, I am going to share something as well. I was never really into humiliation but after reading your posts and how well you articulated your love of it, I have not only tried more of it, but enjoy it immensely. I find the way your mind works to be a huge turn on. Thanks!

 

[FungiUg]

Hmmm... I think I'm too much of a newbie here to have focussed on anyone.

There are certainly people here I have grown to respect, feel for, flirt with, enjoy bantering with, and enoy discussing life, liberty, and the pursuit of sluts. (You're certainly included in that list.)

Were there someone I was desperately keen on, I'm not sure how I would go about advancing that... or for that matter, how I would receive such an advance.

I do know in my case I can't handle long distance relationships, so I'm certainly not seeking anything other than the occasional friendships.

So... can't offer you anything helpful other than maybe it's best just to be honest with your intended, and sort it out in discussion from there.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

You PM them, something like "Hi, I think you are pretty groovy, just thought you should know"...depending on how they respond determines your next move.

Good luck, vixenshe!

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

I just sent them a PM. LOL. I'm really not about a bunch of bullshit game-playing. So, I'm a sub. Well, OK. I still sent them a PM. Polite, not fawning, straight up and to the point, and left the ball in their court, so to speak.

At the risk of sounding patronizing (I'm not trying to be)...just be YOU

~anelize

 

[Shadowsdream]

I am not interested in LDR or online relationships for Myself. I own a 24/7 male submissive and even though I will take another and a female submissive these will come to Me through the real time trainings that I do.
So perhaps I am not qualified to answer from a personal perspective..BUT...My style would be to be open and friendly, receptive to approach. If there was a magic it would be noticable to both. I never approach submissives for relationships.
I think polite PMs are well received by Dominants in most cases and if they are not perhaps the submissive is lucky to get away!
BUT...I think wether Dom/me or submissive, you should be aware, through having paid attention to the posts of the other if your location and needs match either now or possibly in the future.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

The direct approach should work...after all, everyone here already knows you, what's the worst that could happen?

 

[A Desert Rose]

I was/am attracted to a couple of Doms. To be specific, Lancecastor and Zipman. They both know of my regard for them and have been more than kind in their behavior to me. What I find most flattering is that, I think, they regard me as a friend. I certainly regard them both as such. I have learned a great deal from them, as I have from two very special Dommes; Shadows and Eb.

I have never been shy about PMing them, or anyone else, when I think they have made a wonderful post or when I feel a need to share something of importance to me. Never have I been ignored or snubbed by them. (I have, however been snubbed by one particular Dom when I pm'd him for advice. And I never made that mistake again.)

 

[FungiUg]

Sad to hear that someone would snub a polite PM!

I've found most of the people here approachable and friendly -- which is so cool, and I appreciate that openness. So I'd still recommend in that spirit, just approach the lucky person and be polite and up-front.

At least that way, you'll know...

 

[zipman]

I was/am attracted to a couple of Doms. To be specific, Lancecastor and Zipman. They both know of my regard for them and have been more than kind in their behavior to me. What I find most flattering is that, I think, they regard me as a friend. I certainly regard them both as such. I have learned a great deal from them, as I have from two very special Dommes; Shadows and Eb.

I have never been shy about PMing them, or anyone else, when I think they have made a wonderful post or when I feel a need to share something of importance to me. Never have I been ignored or snubbed by them. (I have, however been snubbed by one particular Dom when I pm'd him for advice. And I never made that mistake again.)

Hey Rose,

Thanks for your sweet comments. Rose did indeed pm me first, and I don't think I even thanked her for it. Over the months, Rose and I have become friends, as I have with several other subs here.

I never mind getting a pm, and you never know, one pm can lead to a great friendship or even relationship.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Hey Rose,


I never mind getting a pm, and you never know, one pm can lead to a great friendship or even relationship.

Good point, having friends never hurt anyone, and I personally always love a PM.