"I'm coming!"

[Whispersecret]

Just out of curiosity, do you announce it when you come? I never do, but I'm not that verbal in bed. Oh, I make noise, but I don't talk much.

I'm asking, because I see characters announcing their orgasms in story after story.

Of course, it probably doesn't matter because real life often has nothing to do with erotic stories, now does it!

LOL.

Oh, well, answer if you will.

 

[TheEarl]

Apparently in Japan, it's customary to say "I'm going" just before orgasming, which can cause confusion with foreign partners: "No, not yet!" Strange but true. I think someone else on Lit told me that, so I apologise in advance for the plagarism.

I've never announced the fact myself, but I've known people who do. Have actually heard a NEO IRL before, which was quite strange.

Of course, it probably doesn't matter because real life often has nothing to do with erotic stories, now does it!

How many times have you read a story where the dialogue includes "Ow you're pulling my hair?" or "Don't worry, it happens to most men at some time" ?

The Earl

 

[its Leslie]

Hmmm I don't say I am in fact "coming cumming" or whatever manner of phrase, while my cock is in the process of doing it.

Then again (can't speak for others), but for the 15+ seconds while I am busy pumping sperm out my cock, I am not really capable of speech in any useful manner .

My orgasms usually sound like several Uhhhhhhs and several ahhhhhhs.

I like to talk during sex (when allowed, because my wife says it distracts her hehe). But during my moment of truth I don't have the ability to speak in the first place (it's generally fairly obvious I am cumming though ).

My wife never announces it either. But like me, you can really tell she is cumming when she does.

I would have to say writing it, is only necessary, because as literature, how the heck else is the reader to know.

Sort of like all the porn out there, where the guy is fucking on a stupid angle just so you can see where his cock is going, or the fascination with guys shooting cum on the girls face (which I think is a concession to the fact you can't see anything happen if he pumps it into the woman).

I for one don't mind the writer spelling out a scene that is not visible after all.
But I have no desire to paint my wife's face with cum shots (it feels better being pumped INTO her.

 

[wildsweetone]

I would have to say writing it, is only necessary, because as literature, how the heck else is the reader to know.

As his throbbing cock slid deep into her wet body, squelching juices was all he heard. He thrust hard and fast, his sweat landing in heavy drops on her tanned back. His cock was gripped and dragged deeper within her, her muscles contracting against him as warm juices oozed from her body. He held her hips in a vice grip, fingers digging into her skin while he slammed into her. His body jerked and he spurted hot thick cum. Their creamy juices mingled as they collapsed together on the floor, spent and panting.


any good?

 

[JUDO]

"Now arriving on track 5..."

Point well made, WSO.

WS, I would say it depends on the circumstance and the character's desires whether or not they say it.

I'm sure you can picture the needy princess who tells the world when she's coming, if for no other reason than for her husband to hear it in the next room?

Then there's the football jock who's recording his conquests to show his teammates after practice and he wants them to know that the girls cum first.

Then there's the aural fetish of just hearing the nasty phrase emit from the virginal school teacher as she cums for the first time.

In my personal experience, it depends on who I'm with. Some like to know. Some I like to tell. Although, I think it's always best to show.


- Judo

 

[ronde]

I like Leslie's explanation because I'm the same. In writing about the magic moment, I would agree in part with Judo. There are some types of stories where announcing an orgasm is appropriate. I prefer to use description because of the genre in which I usually write. To have one partner say "I'm cumming" in a romantic setting would seem a little coarse to me.

 

[Guest]

LOL at WS's title for the thread..

A friend of mine (no, really, it was a friend) snapped at our rhetoric teacher "I'm coming!" when he told her the second time to bring her exam paper to him at his desk. He replied, "I don't care what you're doing. Bring me your exam, now."

Have never announced my orgasm... have told someone, "So close, don't stop!"... but, like Leslie and ronde, speech is beyond me at the critical moment.

For erotica, I think that the key is always the character. It would fit for a dominant person to declare they are coming and where they are choosing to come. I think that some nice humor can be drawn by having the "comer" never stop talking.

In general, though, I have to suspend disbelief for a character to express coherent language during orgasm. Which, if the story is a good ride so far, I can give them.

The one thing that I can't abide, though, is:
"I'm ccccccuuuuuummmminnnnnggggggg!!!!!!"

 

[TaffyJ]

For one reason only

It's so rare for me and hubby to pop at the same time. That's happened maybe 4 times in 8 years. So, if it seems like it might happen, I'll let him know I'm close so he can wait up for me a moment.

As was well illustrated above, the reader can be made to catch the hint without being verbally pounded over the head with it.

 

[TheEarl]

New av Taffy J? Is that really you in your picture?

The Earl

 

[TaffyJ]

Close, but not quite

Earl...

I had an actual pic of myself up for about 2 hours today, but I couldn't get it sized to my satisfaction, so I went hunting online for a pre-packaged deal.

This pic is the closest I could find to what I actually look like. Of course I'm not quite as pretty as she is, but they don't have many avs available of normal looking people. They're all models and tv/movie stars. I probably looked almost exactly like her 10 years ago, but my how time flies...

Anyway, very sweet of you to notice!

 

[TheEarl]

I always go for a funny av. As you might have guessed (or being an American, you may never have heard of Red Dwarf) that that isn't me in mine.

Good choice of av though. Sorry to hijack your thread for a complete tangent Whisper.

The Earl

 

[deliciously_naughty]

I actually do announcing that I'm cumming.

 

[Matt Twattingle]

Cumming announcements

For me it's a relavation of the most intimate moment.

I'm cumming means. I am going to cum right now! Prepare yourself darling . Tell me where, help me though it. say something nice or something nasty. Better yet if you are holding back cum with me if you can.

For most women that I have been with the act of making a man cum brings them to orgasm or closer to orgasm ( or even a fake orgasm), whatever floats their boat.

When I am close it's about the only thing I can communicate!
I like to announce it and I like the woman I am with to do the same.

 

[TrinaT]

Like most of the replys I've seen, my husband can tell when I'm cumming without the actual words "I'm cumming". When our boys are out of the house, things tend to get very vocal. Not always is it words normally heard in the English language, but some sort of communication.

My body response more than my actual speaking voice although there have been time when my speech becomes very demanding right at the point of orgasm, which sets both of us off together. I guess we've been very fortunate to be able to orgasm together frequently. But never heard either of us say "I'm cumming".

Trina T.

 

[The Man etc]

I would just say that having characters talk during sex usually (not always) adds to the eroticism. So if the description is being punctuated by characters talking dirty or encouraging their partners then it seems a natural step to have them announce they are about to orgasm. In fact it would almost seem odd if they didn't.

That's in a story though - in real life most people don't need to talk to get themselves hotter (in my experience anyway). In common with porn films, stories often have to externalise the internal in order to heighten the eroticism.

The Earl - Chris Barrie is it? I thought you looked familiar!

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Going Vocal

I think there's nothing sexier than being vocal during sex. Words of excitement, words of encouragement, pleas, obscenities, status reports. non-verbal stuff is all great. I just don't know how people can make love without talking. Aren't you supposed to be communicating? How can you resist telling your partner how fantastically good she feels?

So I tell her when I'm getting close, closer, and when it happens. She tells me too, but I don't think she can tell as far in advance when she's going to climax; it's more of a surprise. And she doesn't say "I'm coming." Usually it's "Here it is!" followed by a scream. (She orgasms only from oral.)

But I'm still wondering whether I come or I cum.

---dr.M.

 

[Couture]

I'm an announcer. I don't just announce the "I'm cumming part either."

I like to track my orgasm's progress from "Here it comes. Here it comes," all the way to "I'm cummmminnnng."

Sometimes my mouth is otherwise occupied and all that comes out is "mmph-m-mph. mmph-m-mph" and "ugghhhhh-ah-ohhhhhh!".

 

[wildsweetone]

Sometimes my mouth is otherwise occupied and all that comes out is "mmph-m-mph. mmph-m-mph" and "ugghhhhh-ah-ohhhhhh!".

whew Couture thanks for the hot flush... but, didn't your mother teach you not to talk with your mouth full?

*giggling*

you know, i've always wondered how to spell that sound. thank you

 

[dr_mabeuse]

No talking in the movies

You don't hear much vocalizing in porno films, which I've alwasy found disappointing. If they're really vocal you might get "Yes! yes! yes! yes!..." or even a "fuck me!" but not that often. I think it's because talking is dialog and, being porno artists, they're forbidden by law from acting.

Really, I've heardthat what the directors are really afraid of is an actress or actor Invoking the Deity in a moment of passion (i.e. saying "Oh God!"), which could get them into trouble with certain religious groups in some way. So rather than risk that, they usually tell their stars to shut up.

Former star Terrie Weigel was famous for screaming, snorting, growling and moaning to shake the walls. She was downright scary. Sex with bigfoot must sound like that.

---dr.M.

 

[Quasimodem]

Chick Flick Porno

"Uugh! Uugh! I'm cumming! I'm cumming!"

"Hey, wait a minute! How about concentrating on some of my needs, for a change?"

 

[SlickTony]

Really, I've heardthat what the directors are really afraid of is an actress or actor Invoking the Deity in a moment of passion (i.e. saying "Oh God!"), which could get them into trouble with certain religious groups in some way.

I think it's totally natural to holler "Oh God" in the throes of an orgasm. Who knows--maybe God set it up that way so he'd be sure to hear from all of us sometime. As for the religious groups, if they're watching the films, where do they get off complaining anyway?

 

[neuken]

The announcer

I can always tell when Mary is about to come. She tenses up and starts to groan in an unmistakable way. It turns me on so much when she comes that I can't hold it anymore and come at the same time.

The only time I announce that I am about to come is when I couldn't hold it anymore and she is not ready to come yet. I guess I do that out of hope that she is close (although I know better). When I announce that I am coming, she relaxes and lets me bang her as hard as I want and savors the pleasure of giving me so much pleasure.

It is great to make love to a partner you know well.

 

[gauchecritic]

The member now arriving

Incest stories appear to be the place where it is obligatory for announcements so that each character understands fully that they are cumming in or for their mum/daughter/father/son etc etc.

Wildly tacky but I used it just the same, to excess.

Gauche

 

[SlickTony]

You'd think they'd know each other well enough to know they were coming, being family & all.

 

[Diane Marie]

Being, I can’t chat, for reasons that aren’t really important, you all are stuck with me for a while, at least until I can start chatting.

My answer would have to be a resounding NO. I’m very vocal at certain times during love making. Depending on the person, along with my mood, I can be very verbal early on, lover’s chatter. When things heat up, in other words as I approach an orgasm, I tend to be very vocal but not very verbal. Although, I’ll admit to saying ‘Oh god’ over and over again. I’ve often wondered why.

I can only recollect one past lover who did that, verbalized his orgasm, perhaps there have been others, I’ve tended to do the really stupid things in my life, like one night stands, I’m not admitting to anything else, when I’ve been drunk. That man was not what you’d call a great lover, I often wondered if he said that to temper my disappointment or prepare me for it. I’m sure he felt inadequate as a lover, which he needn’t have, he gave me orgasms most of the time, that is more important then how long a man can last during intercourse, isn’t it? More importantly we had a loving relationship, although I was never truly in love with him.

My female character’s tend to be much more verbal then I am. At times I’ll make her vocal to make a point, such as allowing her to verbalize how much better sex is with her lover then her husband. Nasty, I do tend to get some hate mail, but it serves to make my point. At other’s it’s because I know men like that, what I write here is mostly for the men. Not to please them but if my heroin is verbal, along with being rather slutty, it seems to hold their interest. Aren’t men really our audience at literotica?

That said, my character’s are not going to say "I’m cuming." By the way Matt, we do know, at least I do, when your about to cum, you don’t need to announce it. Also I could not disagree more The Man etc., I think a description of the event, an orgasm, better serves a story. It also serves to show just how intense a given orgasm is, at least for us women, I’m not sure it’s the same for you men. I can have a flutter or I can have wave after wave of ecstasy.

Speaking of verbal, even though I don’t consider myself that, I’m much more verbal then most of the men I’ve been with. About the same as the women I’ve been with, although my experience is limited with women, I fell in love with my forth. As far as vocal, men don’t compare.

Hey Matt, I vote for the faking it!!!! But thanks for proving my point. Sex ed 101 Matt, if we try to force it, it’s not going to happen. To bad that isn’t so for men, I’d have asked a good number of them to try to force it. Maybe I’d be real verbal, "Force it Darlin. I love it when you force it, Sweetie. Ohhhhhhh gggggooooooooodddd Yessssss, force it, force it, force it. I’m cuuuuuuummmmmmmmming Lover, force it just a little llllllongerrrrrr awwwwwwwwww ohhhhhhhhh myyyyyyyyyyyyy goddddddddddddddd yessssssssssssssss forrrrrrrrrrccccccceeeeee itttttttttttttt." I hate smiley faces so I’ll just smile.