I'm a 20yr Virgin and She's not

[whoyoulookingat]

Hi i'm 20 and still a virgin, i've not had much luck with girls until recently and now i've got a girlfriend! She's quite attractive and has been with quite a few people before. The thing is i want to sleep with her and i knows she wants to sleep with me as she's told me - but in a way i'm scared, almost intimidated. She doesn't know i'm a virgin and i'm not sure its best if she does know as she's friends with my friends etc (i know people are going to say there's nothing wrong with being a virgin - but i know what my peers are like, and in a way its embarrassing).

But where do i start? Should i tell her or just go for it? Has anyone got any advice? Foreplay - how long? different positions etc? i don't really have a clue? how long should it last?

Please help... I can't keep putting it off for ever!

Thanks

 

[cymbidia]

Calm down, darlin'. That's first. And congrats on landing that gf.

Talk to her honestly about who and what you are. Ask her to keep your secret about being a virgin. If you're thinking that she's the one who you'll always call "first" with respect to your sexuality, she ought to be special enough to you, and you to her, to keep such a secret, hmm?

Tell her you're sorta intimidated about the fact that you're a virgin and she's not. BE SURE she knows it's not because you think less of her but because you're concerned that sex between you might not be as good as she's used to. Tell her you want it to be really good for you both but that for now at least, she'll have to take the lead. Tell her you're a quick study and you'll catch up pretty fast. Tell her you're creative and willing to try new things. Ask her about her fantasies.

Talk is sexy. Talk is hot. After you've talked, the sex will be better cuz you'll know what she wants and she'll know what you want.

Tell her WHY you want to be with her, why you want her to be your first. Be sincere. Be honest. Be open and ready to do new things.

Be ready to laugh at stuff, even right in the middle of lovemaking. There's almost nothing sexier than a partner who can laugh at funny noises or uncomfy positions, then get that hot and intense energy going again.

Foreplay is necessary to be sure you BOTH are ready for more. Do it as long as it feels good to you both, as long as she needs it, as long as she wants, as long as you want to do it... there's no rules, sadly. The whole thing is done for each other. Talk to her during the action. Ask her what feels good, what she wants more of, if she's ready for your cock in her pussy or if she wants some more of this, as you lick down her body or suck on her nipple. If you aren't ecperienced in reading other people's minds, it's ALWAYS going be necessary to communicate about this kinda thing, and yes, even while you're doing it.

If she's satisfied and you're satisfied then you've both done a good job. Don't stress it; it's just you and her. Whatever works for you guys is the right way to do it.

It's gonna be fine.
Remember: open, honest, fun.

A whole new world awaits you.

 

[GulfCoastAquarian]

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[whoyoulookingat]

Thanks alot for your advice - you've made me feel a whole lot more confident!

Wish me luck

 

[lilfrk]

Good Luck!