If You Want To Meet Someone...

[Queersetti]

A number of people have posted in this forum in hopes of meeting someone who can help them fulfill their fantasies or unmet desires.

I know that it can be hard to meet people, especially if you are just taking your first steps, are very concerned about discovery, or (like me) you live in a smaller city, town, or rural area.

There are many people who have met partners on Lit. Some have had brief encounters, some have forged lasting friendships, some have fallen in love and built a life together.

The way to meet people here, however, is not to come in unknown and start posting what amount to little more than want ads.

Take some time. Get to know people, and let them get to know you. Post to threads about more than just your sexual desires, talk about movies or politics or music or pets.

Have fun and make friends. Then, the chances that someone will be interested in getting to know you, and perhaps meet you, will be much increased.

If it's what you really want, it's worth making that effort for, isn't it?

 

[Bandit58]

I can vouch for that.....I joined Lit just over a year ago, still emotionally bruised and battered from a bad marriage. It took time but I found a couple of threads I felt at home in, made some friends, got to know people.....next month I'm flying to Australia to meet one of those friends who has become a lot more, and who knows what can happen from there......

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

AMEN, i met the most beautiful woman i've ever know here

 

[wishbone96]

AMEN, i met the most beautiful woman i've ever know here


Avery, this is a gay thread so unless you are a girl-it would make more sense to post on the general or how to board. Please correct me if I am wrong-Regards.

 

[Queersetti]

AMEN, i met the most beautiful woman i've ever know here


Avery, this is a gay thread so unless you are a girl-it would make more sense to post on the general or how to board. Please correct me if I am wrong-Regards.

Avery is female, and even if she were not, we are very open to welcoming anyone who wants to join the conversation here, regardless of their orientation.

 

[tacoPaco]

There seems to be a recurring response from certain people who seem devoid of being patient and open to all types of thoughts in several of the recent threads.
Lit is a very open community and acceptive to all opinions. I'd like to think we are not closed minded! I hope that this closed mindedness I am seeing will cease.
I'm not trying to be offensive, but let's be tolerant of other people's thoughts and feelings.

 

[perks]

I remember back almost two years ago, when tulip and I <a girl from NYC> started planning Lit togethers. We started with an open mic erotic poetry night, and then they just grew and grew. Several other huge lit togethers have sprung up since then, and I've been asked for advice on meeting people from online.

There is no difference between meeting someone from this site or another site on the computer. There are all the same dangers. There are the same dangers in 3D life too, sometimes because so many words are passed back and forth we think we know people. And we do on a certain level. However, it's an incomplete knowledge. Yes feelings are real, but you don't have all the information.

I suggest meeting someone in a group first. If not a group, then in an area where there are people around. Either way, you need to have a buddy who is not with you, that knows where you are, and what you are doing. You need to plan a time to call them during the "date" or meeting to let them know what is going on. This is very important.

I'm all about meeting people from lit, I've met over 60, in three different cities.

Do it, but do it smart.

 

[LarzMachine]

I've met exactly one person IRL from Lit, and she was a traitorous dope (one of her mantras was that she'd like to kill the President and First Lady). I guess I'm the exception to the "you can meet a lot of nice people on Lit" rule.

Yeah, I gave her phone number to Homeland Security. Kinda' curious how that'll turn out.