If you have an issue with me or someone

[naded]

Folks,


If you have an issue with me or with anyone on Lit. please have the decency to voice your opinion or concern to or that person. You only create problems for others if you talk to your friends or theirs behind their back or on these boards.

I know people get hurt on Lit. it is unfortunate and usually not intended. But unfortunately, it happens as it does in real life. So if you have a complaint about me, please come to me about it. If you think I am wrong, I'll listen to your side, if I see your side and feel your right, hell, I'll tell you so.

But if you feel it is ok to call me a liar, you damn sure better have the balls to tell me. And you damn sure better have proof. I like anyone have the right to defend themselves. Don't be a coward, be honest, blunt and upfront about whatever your problem is.

I myself do not talk bad about people behind their back, and I only ask you do the same. If I have an issue with you, I will tell YOU. Please do the same to me.


Thank you.


J.

 

[SexyAmber]

Well said..Well fucking said

 

[PleasureMe]

naded,
I don't know you hon, but you hit the nail on the head with your post!!!! BRAVO!!!!!

 

[naded]

Why thank you PleasureMe, that is nice of you to say. I want to personally invite you over to the Literotica Bad Boyz Club. We have a ton of fun and we stick together.

Please, stop by.

 

[AME]

This is a great idea naded!!!

Hope I never have to use it though!!

 

[Native Alien]

Naded,

that one should be made a sticky post on each and every board here...it sure would prevent alot of misunderstandings...well done. I applaud you for putting so well what i have oft thought.

no to mention the space that it would save that is wasted on fighting threads....

 

[Jewelz]

People always whisper their probs about me instead of coming to me. Lovely. More power to them. You're thoughts are well written though. Wouldn't it be nice if people actually were honest enough to do that?

Sometimes I am too skeered to go to the person I have a prob with ...so I talk to my best girlfriends about it just to gain perspective and eventually will talk to the person I have probs with.

Lately, I just let shit slide. Too much drama..not much gets under my skin any more cuz I tend to ignore the hype.

edited to add: but i admit i am a nosy person... gossip is not a good thing but i get caught up in it. bad jewelz. bad

 

[SexyAmber]

Naded sorry I didn't respond more fully....

I do agree whole heartedly...I am sick and tired of people bitching to me about everyone else. Or telling me things people have said about me. It's childish and petty and I can't stand the drama.

I am sorry people get hurt too, but I can control that feelings change or that things don't work out. I do know every individual has the right to choose who they want to be with and choose to do what makes them happy. I do not judge people here, never have but have learned today about some people who are complete back stabbers as you have said.

It's sad that I have enough drama in my real life and when I come here a place where it is supposed to be safe to be open that this 4th grade shit happens.

People may not like me...in all honesty I don't really care. But if you are going to stab me do in the heart and not the back at least then I can respect you. Don't flatter me or give me blowjobs of support and kindess then nail me. I have neither the time nor inclination to deal with bullshit.

I don't care who is fucking who, who is cybering who, as long as both parties are happy who cares. I don't care about what happened in people's past or who they have fucked or been involved with. I am the last person to point the finger at that.

I am me, I don't change for my family or people in my real life I certainly won't change here...I have always been upfront with anyone I have had a problem with. Although right now it is almost not worth to me anymore because once trust is betrayed it's gone.

You are 100% on with your words and I agree with Native, it should be on every thread.

Love you big brother
A

 

[naded]

Native, Pleasure, Amber, Jewelz, AME and anyone I missed, thank you very much for responding. I did not seek out responses to this but I am grateful for your words expressed here.

 

[SexyAmber]

Just a side bar ...to all my friends here you know you can always come to me for a shoulder, to cry or for advice...and thank you for always being there for me

 

[PleasureMe]

Why thank you PleasureMe, that is nice of you to say. I want to personally invite you over to the Literotica Bad Boyz Club. We have a ton of fun and we stick together.

Please, stop by.

Thank you for the invite, I will definitely stop by
If you don't mind, I think I may just copy and paste your post at the beginning of the next thread I start!

 

[naded]

Sure, I would be honored to have you do that

 

[Arden]

Naded sorry I didn't respond more fully....

I do agree whole heartedly...I am sick and tired of people bitching to me about everyone else. Or telling me things people have said about me. It's childish and petty and I can't stand the drama.

I am sorry people get hurt too, but I can control that feelings change or that things don't work out. I do know every individual has the right to choose who they want to be with and choose to do what makes them happy. I do not judge people here, never have but have learned today about some people who are complete back stabbers as you have said.

It's sad that I have enough drama in my real life and when I come here a place where it is supposed to be safe to be open that this 4th grade shit happens.

People may not like me...in all honesty I don't really care. But if you are going to stab me do in the heart and not the back at least then I can respect you. Don't flatter me or give me blowjobs of support and kindess then nail me. I have neither the time nor inclination to deal with bullshit.

I don't care who is fucking who, who is cybering who, as long as both parties are happy who cares. I don't care about what happened in people's past or who they have fucked or been involved with. I am the last person to point the finger at that.

I am me, I don't change for my family or people in my real life I certainly won't change here...I have always been upfront with anyone I have had a problem with. Although right now it is almost not worth to me anymore because once trust is betrayed it's gone.

You are 100% on with your words and I agree with Native, it should be on every thread.

Love you big brother
A

Hi Naded,

We haven't met either, but in light of all of the fighting crap filling these boards lately, I admire you for standing up and helping to show these folks that there is a mature way to accomplish things.
Kudos to you... I truly hope people take this to heart.



Amber... Well said, and I'm glad you said it just like it is, without beating around the bush!... a risk that paid off well.



Arden

 

[navarre]

Way to go Bro.
That applies to all of us.

 

[SexyAmber]

Hi Naded,

We haven't met either, but in light of all of the fighting crap filling these boards lately, I admire you for standing up and helping to show these folks that there is a mature way to accomplish things.
Kudos to you... I truly hope people take this to heart.



Amber... Well said, and I'm glad you said it just like it is, without beating around the bush!... a risk that paid off well.



Arden

Thank you Arden coming from you that is a huge compliment as I have always respected your threads and posts

 

[naded]

Arden, thank you for your kind words. I can only hope some will heed this advice. But alas not all will. For those who do want a place to avoid the drama, come over to the Literotica Bad Boyz Club, we have rules against drama and we stand by each other.

That and we have a ton of fun. You are personally invited to join us.

 

[someplace]

Naded,

You take the high road again and show others the way. I'm so proud of you.

 

[naded]

Why thank you hon, and how come you have not been in the LBBC in such a long time.

 

[Batch]

Folks,


If you have an issue with me or with anyone on Lit. please have the decency to voice your opinion or concern to or that person. You only create problems for others if you talk to your friends or theirs behind their back or on these boards.

I know people get hurt on Lit. it is unfortunate and usually not intended. But unfortunately, it happens as it does in real life. So if you have a complaint about me, please come to me about it. If you think I am wrong, I'll listen to your side, if I see your side and feel your right, hell, I'll tell you so.

But if you feel it is ok to call me a liar, you damn sure better have the balls to tell me. And you damn sure better have proof. I like anyone have the right to defend themselves. Don't be a coward, be honest, blunt and upfront about whatever your problem is.

I myself do not talk bad about people behind their back, and I only ask you do the same. If I have an issue with you, I will tell YOU. Please do the same to me.


Thank you.


J.

In the brief time that I have known you, I do not believe I have had much of a problem with you. You are a rascal and a devilishly clever man. All of our communications have been honest. I respect you for the kindness and the gentle manner that you have always shown me.
Now if you are still displeased about the green jello I put in the pool...I am ever so sorry ......

 

[naded]

Heh heh, well, every pool needs a little green jello now and then

 

[MissTaken]

Good post

I used to come to the Playground to escape the occasional hostility on the GB and BDSM forums.

It seems some of that has seeped into the Playground.

I have posted frequently that personal problems between litsters need to remain private and honest!

So good and timely post, naded!

 

[naded]

Thank you MissTaken

 

[Batch]

Re: Good post

I used to come to the Playground to escape the occasional hostility on the GB and BDSM forums.

It seems some of that has seeped into the Playground.

I have posted frequently that personal problems between litsters need to remain private and honest!

So good and timely post, naded!

Personal problems should remain just that.


After all we are supposed to be adults.

 

[mbb308]

Re: Re: Good post

Personal problems should remain just that.


After all we are supposed to be adults.

The operative word would be "supposed".

I still contend that some of us aren't always emotionally capable of being here, as some recent sturm und drang indicates. That in no way infringes their right to be here, however.

In no way do I exclude myself from that list - I'm too pragmatic for that.

It would be desired that the topic of this thread always be our goal. If we fail, as long as we are working in that direction, friction should be minimal.

Good points, all.

 

[MsTerious]

Hey, now I'm new in town and I like the way you think, Naded! Kudos for speaking your mind and speaking it so well!