If you are a BBW mom who is sick of being rejected by egotistcal males......

[Suzi]

Please step forward! Don't be shy!

Yes this is a controversial issue---and yes, it HAS happened to me.
Has it happened to you? Tell people about it---let your voice be heard!!!

Thanks

Suzi

 

[Cirrus]

I feel for you even though I'm not a BBW or a mom. I'm the opposite side of the coin...too damn skinny. I've been rejected by the aforementioned egotistical males for that very reason as well. I don't look "healthy", I must be bulimic, anorexic or both, I must pick at my food and have an extensive hated foods list, I must be an embarrasment at restaurants, I must take hours shopping and doing my hair, I must be high maintainance....when in reality I am none of those. Luckily, I've found a man who thinks I'm beautiful and has helped me see the beauty in myself. You will, too. There's a lot of assholes out there but there are a few good ones left too.

 

[Laurel]

Think of it this way: would you want to BE with an egotistical person? In a way, being "rejected" is a blessing in disguise. If he's so lame as to not see you as the beautiful, wonderful woman that you all are, then he's not deserving of your time.

When I was younger, I believed that the conventionally best looking women "got" the best guys. I've learned that this is not true. Being conventionally attractive may get the attention of more men, but that doesn't guarantee quality. I know very attractive women who have terrible luck in love. I know very plain women who are in amazing relationships with wonderful men who love them soo much.

 

[Suzi]

Aaaaaawww!

Believe it or not hon, I USED to be skinny---till I was 22. When I got married to a control freak, and then down the line after my divorce, I got involved with men who could not have cared less about me. I did eat alot, to swallow my pain. Then I had my babies...the tummy is the hardest thing to get rid of!

Some people think I am high maintenance, cuz I need affection, sex, cuddling, conversation. I guess some people are just not willing to invest all that much in someone they are just gonna use and dump anyway!

I know there is someone out there who will accept me for who and what I am. It is just taking SO long...LOL! With two little ones, I almost never go out (groceries, counselling...) I do not get into parties or the bar scene.

Like yourself, I am an all-around nice lady, intelligent and caring.
And VERY sensitive! (to being hurt that is!)

Suzi

 

[dreamer]

Well stated Laurel (as usual)

Cirrus, that makes me think. I know I prefer women that aren't on the skinny side, but I hope I haven't been guilty of the kind of statements you mentioned...duely noted and I'll definately be more aware in the future.

Hang in the Suzi, there are guys out here that aren't turned off by either.

 

[Suzi]

Dreamer....

Thanks sweetie! That means alot to me!

 

[Laurel]

Case in point...my sister is really really pretty. All the egotistical assholes you're talking about? They flock to her. Frankly, I think I'd rather be ignored by them than have to deal with their bullshit.

 

[KillerMuffin]

What you do is get yourself a nice metal baseball bat and when some jerk is looking down at you with some pretentious overweening sneer on his face you take aim and swi--

No. No, no. Don't listen to me.

There's some actual sagacity around here somewhere.

 

[Starfish]

Do listen. It actually sounds like a plan Muffin.

 

[Private Vasquez]

golf clubs work good, too.

 

[Starfish]

Solid cast iron skillets, no?

 

[Laurel]

Girls, girls! Bad girls! Bad! Don't go to jail for some fucktard.

 

[Suzi]

ROTFLMAO!!!

*laughs till the tears run down her cheeks*...oh gods you guys slay me!

 

[dreamer]

Re: Dreamer....

Thanks sweetie! That means alot to me!

Suzi, you're very welcome. The trick I've discovered for women is to 'not let the bastards get you down.' So many women are the walking wounded and when a good guy DOES come along they either can't believe it or really trust it. (hmmm am I personalizing again?? perhaps..sorry)

Never believe those close minded idiots. Intellect, compassion, and honesty are immeasurable assets. The physical, situational (kids) are going to be unattractive to some yes, but to others it'll be what they find most attractive.

Remember we all have days that we hate ourselves (I'm on day 720 myself)...just don't let it stick...you just may miss the good things when they do come.

 

[Starfish]

Girls, girls! Bad girls! Bad! Don't go to jail for some fucktard.

Like duh!




It's all in principle.

I hear that PC monitors can do some serious ego damage.

 

[Suzi]

Dreamer...?

Are you implying that YOU are one of those good guys?

 

[KillerMuffin]

Girls, girls! Bad girls! Bad! Don't go to jail for some fucktard.

See? Saga-fuckin'-city.

Always shows up.


This is like a Powerpuff girls show. I feel like saying "Yes Professor." I'm Buttercup gawdfuckindammit.

 

[Private Vasquez]

I like a nice pewter candle holder. You only go to jail if you get caught.

Don't hate yourself!! There's no need for it, and it's not good for you!

 

[Nora]

The last time a guy gave me ego for not being a picture of svelte beauty, I threatened to sit on him 'till he squeeled like the pig he was.

An inelegant solution, but it worked at the time.

 

[Suzi]

Well...

The sad part was, I asked him flat out if that was the problem...he could not even tell me the truth! I could tell he was lying!

 

[Starfish]

Don't hate yourself!! There's no need for it, and it's not good for you!

Yes, hate them. Hate them with the heel of your high heeled shoes, right to the head.

Nora, that is pretty good. Next time try an inanimate, DNAless object.

Wear gloves.

 

[Sillyman]

Is it anyone I know Suzi?

 

[Private Vasquez]

Yeah...THEM!

Hate them with folded chair to the grill.

 

[Suzi]

Sillyman...

No..darlin' it was someone I actually MET!

 

[Starfish]

Or a finely sharpend meat cleaver.

What? It's only for a little hair cut. Well, all of the hairs will be cut, yes.