If only I knew then what I know now.

[SuddenStop]

This is a thread for those times that something happened in your life and later down the road you found out something or gained more information that would have altered your past reaction if you could do it all over again.


Mine would be the time in college when my lesbian dorm mate made a move to show me what her lifestyle was like and it was interrupted as quick as it started but we never went back to it. (There is much more to the story but I don't want to lay it all out here.) Back then I was naive and biased due to my upbringing, if I knew then what I know now, I would have made sure to have pursued it further and not been such a prude.

Any times that others may have?

 

[Susurration]

If I hadn't been so naive when I was younger, I would have realised that a beautiful woman was trying to encourage me to share her bed with her, and I wouldn't have missed a fabulous opportunity. I just didn't read the signals correctly back then, and while I have learnt from it to a certain extent, it's still one of those moments I look back on, and think that I was a complete fool for missing out on something so blindingly obvious, especially given that we got on so well.

 

[border_humper]

This is a thread for those times that something happened in your life and later down the road you found out something or gained more information that would have altered your past reaction if you could do it all over again.


Mine would be the time in college when my lesbian dorm mate made a move to show me what her lifestyle was like and it was interrupted as quick as it started but we never went back to it. (There is much more to the story but I don't want to lay it all out here.) Back then I was naive and biased due to my upbringing, if I knew then what I know now, I would have made sure to have pursued it further and not been such a prude.

Any times that others may have?

There were many times in college when I wish I had had the courage to approach certain women and ask them out. (I realize that they were probably just as scared or longing for contact just as much as I was. )My college experience would have been much less bleak and boring had I been able to bring myself to do that.

(PS. Suddenstop, there was a piece on NPR recently that speaks of the 'fluidity of sexuality' that might of interest to you; it probably doesn't speak to your situation, but still it might be interesting.)

 

[RazingTrouble]

I wish I had known that when my best friends mom was walking through the house in just a t-shirt and panties when we were hanging out that she was trying to get more than just my attention. You have to be blunt ladies... like a brick to the head. lol

Oh well... too late now.

 

[cheekygirl75]

IIOKTWIKN I would
Have stayed at my first non-temp office job that had 100% paid for (good) health insurance!

 

[F3x0r]

IIOLTWIKN I'd have leaped before I looked a little more often

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

IIOLTWIKN I'd have invested in crypto.

 

[Ingenue844]

I’m everyone’s BFF
Then I find out years later that they had a huge crush on me but I never sent any signals making them think I would appreciate their advances.

IOIKTWIKN
I would’ve tried my best to send clear signals that I am open to their advances. That said, I still don’t know how to do that.

 

[muddler35]

IOIKTWIKN

I wouldn’t have wasted time trying to fix people.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

IIOLTWIKN I'd have worn that fucking bikini, because honey, 40 year old you will wish she was "too fat for that" the way 20 year old you was.

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

Worn a condom

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

IIKWIKN I woulda drove to see those twins

 

[talkeasy5813]

IIOKTWIKN, I would have dated different men

 

[cheekygirl75]

IIOKTWIKN, I would have dated different men

Same! And broken up with several much earlier. And not slept with at least one

 

[KatieDoes]

IIOLTWIKN I'd have worn that fucking bikini, because honey, 40 year old you will wish she was "too fat for that" the way 20 year old you was.

Wear it now. 60 year old you would tell you that.

 

[RickTango]

IIOKTWIKN, I would have been less reserved earlier in my life.

 

[KatieDoes]

IIOKTWIKN, I would have participated in this thread 12 years ago when it was last active.

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

IIOKTWIKN I wouldn't have moved to Texas... maybe

 

[cheekygirl75]

IIOKTWIKN I would have moved to NYC for a few years.

 

[fire_breeze]

IIOKTWIKN I would have made wiser decisions 14 years ago

 

[Azuldrgon]

....I would have had my knees checked out.

...Bought the house sooner

....hugged her more before she left us.

 

[AmberLGreen]

IIOKTWIKN I would have bought those anal beads sooner

 

[Ingenue844]

IOIKTWIKN
I would have only surrounded myself with people who accepted me. Not necessarily accepted my flaws but didn’t try to destroy me.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I would go back and make the relationship decision we almost made in 2008 that we ended up making in 2016. I’d love to have those years back.

 

[DarkRaven13]

IOIKTWIKN

I would have trusted my instincts and not agreed to what he asked of me.