I wanna be a Daddy (really !! )

[Badd Leroy]

Ok Ladies of Lit.. Dateing has been fruitless (if not interesting) and I'm not getting any younger!!!

This is a somewhat serious endevour. For some time now I've very much wanted to experience the joys of Fatherhood! I'll be 40 in June and spent far too much time raising other people's kids or just being alone.
My younger brother has 3 girls and I'd love to give my folks a grandson (if it happens).
LOL.. the more I type the sillier I feel, but what the fuck ?..
Serious replies are very welcome, as well as the goofy ones! We can have fun with this too
Can I have a show of hands ?

 

[WyldBreeze]

I wish you luck, hun......hope you find exactly what you're looking for. *hugs*

 

[INeedLove]

Ok Ladies of Lit.. Dateing has been fruitless (if not interesting) and I'm not getting any younger!!!

This is a somewhat serious endevour. For some time now I've very much wanted to experience the joys of Fatherhood! I'll be 40 in June and spent far too much time raising other people's kids or just being alone.
My younger brother has 3 girls and I'd love to give my folks a grandson (if it happens).
LOL.. the more I type the sillier I feel, but what the fuck ?..
Serious replies are very welcome, as well as the goofy ones! We can have fun with this too
Can I have a show of hands ?

Show of hands? Meaning whom else wants to be a daddy?

Parenthood can be a terrific journey with ups and downs. I applaud you for your interest in pro-creation.

Do I detect a double standard? You are interested in fathering a child but are not interested in helping to parent another man's child? Many of the women in your (our) age range will likely have children. Just wondering

 

[Badd Leroy]

Show of hands? Meaning whom else wants to be a daddy?

Parenthood can be a terrific journey with ups and downs. I applaud you for your interest in pro-creation.

Do I detect a double standard? You are interested in fathering a child but are not interested in helping to parent another man's child? Many of the women in your (our) age range will likely have children. Just wondering

First, Thank you Wyld

I suppose I should edit it to read more accurately. 'Show of hands' meaning I'm looking for interested women (seriously and otherwise) Not just to pro-create, although that is what is intended by this thread.
As to your second question, I'm WELL aware that most women I'm going to meet at my age are going to have other children. I have absolutely no problem helping to parent a child or children not my own, but my past two l/t relationships involved raising their kids with no chance of any of our own. I'd rather not be in that situation again.

Thanks for pointing this out to me NL ...

 

[WyldBreeze]

First, Thank you Wyld

I suppose I should edit it to read more accurately. 'Show of hands' meaning I'm looking for interested women (seriously and otherwise) Not just to pro-create, although that is what is intended by this thread.
As to your second question, I'm WELL aware that most women I'm going to meet at my age are going to have other children. I have absolutely no problem helping to parent a child or children not my own, but my past two l/t relationships involved raising their kids with no chance of any of our own. I'd rather not be in that situation again.

Thanks for pointing this out to me NL ...

I can understand the need to have children of your own. I found out when I was younger that I was unable to have children. Everyone says "well you can adopt"....and though I would love that child with everything in me....its still just a little bit different. But that's just the way I feel about it. I would certainly love any children that my s/o had. It's just in my nature.

 

[pink]

i would love to have another child. my first one turned out so good, she is wonderful although getting a little mouthy at 12.

 

[Badd Leroy]

i would love to have another child. my first one turned out so good, she is wonderful although getting a little mouthy at 12.

Awwwwww pink! .. Too bad you weren't closer .. I'd knock you up anytime !!

 

[pink]

Awwwwww pink! .. Too bad you weren't closer .. I'd knock you up anytime !!

*giggle* You have a way with words, sweetie.

 

[Badd Leroy]

*giggle* You have a way with words, sweetie.

hehe.. sorry.. I lost control for a second. .. Your AV threw me off

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

I started out wanting to have children and decided against that with my husband(soon to be ex).But I would consider it with the next person I am with.It would be something for us to talk about together.

 

[Badd Leroy]

I started out wanting to have children and decided against that with my husband(soon to be ex).But I would consider it with the next person I am with.It would be something for us to talk about together.

.. *holds up number tag* .. ME!.. That's me, I'm next!!

 

[Badd Leroy]

I started out wanting to have children and decided against that with my husband(soon to be ex).But I would consider it with the next person I am with.It would be something for us to talk about together.

More seriously though.. discussion is a must, hense, this thread. But I guess I'm looking to 'fast-track' things a little lol.
I'm almost at the point where I'll consider a surrogate type situation, but I'd much prefer a healthy rlationship. What that means for me though, is finding an extremely open minded, experimental, inteligent, family-oriented woman.
This site is LOADED with choices. What a shame most are too far away

 

[Sunnygrl]

You could be my daddy

 

[Badd Leroy]

You could be my daddy

now there's an option !!

 

[INeedLove]

As to your second question, I'm WELL aware that most women I'm going to meet at my age are going to have other children. I have absolutely no problem helping to parent a child or children not my own, but my past two l/t relationships involved raising their kids with no chance of any of our own. I'd rather not be in that situation again.

Thanks for pointing this out to me NL ...

Dating is tough BL. As a single mom, I feel like it is tougher. And I feel my clock ticking. At 37, I know I can have another child but I would want to bring that child up in a loving home-with two parents. It is really hard when you hear the tick-tick-tick. Based on your post-I think you hear it too. Good luck!!!! Hugs!

 

[pink]

hehe.. sorry.. I lost control for a second. .. Your AV threw me off

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

 

[Badd Leroy]

Dating is tough BL. As a single mom, I feel like it is tougher. And I feel my clock ticking. At 37, I know I can have another child but I would want to bring that child up in a loving home-with two parents. It is really hard when you hear the tick-tick-tick. Based on your post-I think you hear it too. Good luck!!!! Hugs!

I hear ya NL.. and yup you heard right .. thanks Sweety

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

Dating is tough BL. As a single mom, I feel like it is tougher. And I feel my clock ticking. At 37, I know I can have another child but I would want to bring that child up in a loving home-with two parents. It is really hard when you hear the tick-tick-tick. Based on your post-I think you hear it too. Good luck!!!! Hugs!

I have not even thought about that.I guess it is hard for those with kids already to enter the "wonderful world of dating".I would not be put off at all if I was seeing someone that already had children.If we were very serious about each other,I would try very hard to bond with his children and possibly even one day be as much of a mother as I could to them.My mom re-married and I am VERY close to my step-dad.

 

[Badd Leroy]

My mom re-married and I am VERY close to my step-dad.

That's nice to hear Alison. As a former 'Step-dad' I can tell you that it isn't easy. mixed families rarely work out. But I've learned a lot. Most importantly about myself and and the dynamics around it all. You're very lucky to have that kind of relationship with your Step father.

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

That's nice to hear Alison. As a former 'Step-dad' I can tell you that it isn't easy. mixed families rarely work out. But I've learned a lot. Most importantly about myself and and the dynamics around it all. You're very lucky to have that kind of relationship with your Step father.

sorry to hi-jack your thread.BUT yeah,he is a WONDERFUL man.They are a very good match.And he is TRULY kind to my sister and I.He is aware of the relaltionship i had with my father and I think he goes out of his way to be a "daddy" to us.I hate to sound sappy,but he is one of the best men on the face of this earth.Good luck with the baby search.For years we have known women have a "biological clock" Perhaps men do as well.

 

[INeedLove]

Maybe it's easier as a step mom, I don't know. But when I married my ex, his daughter was 12. I didn't love her immediately but it didn't take long. I helped raise her and support her through those awful teenage years. I still talk to her (she's 22) and consider her my other daughter.

On a different note, about that clock-I think it ticks loud enough for women and men to hear. I'd love to have another. Loved being pregnant!

 

[Badd Leroy]

about that clock-I think it ticks loud enough for women and men to hear. I'd love to have another. Loved being pregnant!

I've learned that there IS such a thing for men.
It seems that women are maternal and men are Paternal I haven't had a woman close enough in so long that it must be me I'm hearing

 

[INeedLove]

I've learned that there IS such a thing for men.
It seems that women are maternal and men are Paternal I haven't had a woman close enough in so long that it must be me I'm hearing

That is a shame! A cute guy like you! Stop looking in Canada-maybe the one is in the US??

You're ready for the midnight feedings, dirty diapers, hormonal mom and the whole bit...... You're sure??

 

[Badd Leroy]

That is a shame! A cute guy like you! Stop looking in Canada-maybe the one is in the US??

You're ready for the midnight feedings, dirty diapers, hormonal mom and the whole bit...... You're sure??

AWWWWWW thanks Sugar *blush*HAHA.. looking in US is good.. if she's willing to re-locate ... OH HELL yeah!!! I'm ready.. 'cept for maybe the hormonal Mom bit ... can be scary

 

[INeedLove]

The hormonal part isn't so bad. A bit of crying mostly. Good time for cuddling and hugging!