I think I am gonna cry!

[Gilly Bean]

Orgasm Rant Ahead!



I started on zoloft almost a week ago. As of posting this, I have only taken 6 pills. My sex drive is there. Hasn't diminished even slightly. The first time, it took me a rather long time for me to orgasm. Like around 30 minutes longer. A few days later (friday) I tried on my own, and I can usually make it happen rather quickly if I want, or not, if I want. Well, I wanted quick. REALLY wanted quick. It took around 45 minutes. Last night, I was in the mood, started going at it with hubby, and about an hour later... nothing. Nothing at all, all night long. No orgasm. That got me depressed, and out of the mood, and generally just pissed me off. Damn it, I happen to like the few orgasms I can attain. I don't want to lose them!

 

[Andreina]

call me ignorant but what is "Zoloft" ?



(((((hugs))))) eat some chocolate... if you cant cum with the taste of smooth milk chocolate in your mouth then you arent a woman anymore


Halo

 

[Gilly Bean]

Zoloft is an anti-depressant (kind of like Prozac, but not as strong as I understand it). Anyway, it can sometimes mess with your sex drive, and a few people have told me they either had a really hard time orgasming, or couldn't at all while they were on it.

 

[alexandraaah]

Gilly....stop reading those side effects warnings, girl!
Most anti-depressants won't have any effect for at least two weeks....usually up to 4-6 weeks.

You're cool.

Relax.

Have many orgasms.

 

[Gilly Bean]

Tell that to my body! I also get shaky and jittery when I am tired, and get dizzy sometimes now too. All since I started the Zoloft. One person mentioned that it might just be because I am so unused to putting any kind of meds into my system...

 

[alexandraaah]

If you're sure that these symptoms aren't from what you're expecting, then by all means you should call your doc and discontinue.

I tend to find myself practically waiting for side effects that I fear.

Reasses...you shouldn't be on any med that makes you feel badly.

If you're looking for an antidepressant with the least side effects, and NONE sexually---talk to your doc about Wellbutrin.

Good luck hon.

Alex

 

[T.H. Oughts]

A friend of mine has been on Cipramil which is similar, she has not had an orgasm for 3 months !!!! Yep, she says she gets horny still but can't get the big O. Her doctor said that happens to a lot of woman on these types of medications.

 

[Gilly Bean]

I plan to call my doc on tuesday (he's out of office on monday's) if the shakes and jitteriness continue. The sexual side effects can hold off if the shakes stop, but I will definatly mention all of them when I go back in 2 weeks for a follow-up.

 

[dangergirl]

Effexor-XR works on a different level, it is a SNRI as opposed to a SSRI - ask your doctor about it. The XR (extended release) works way better than the regular absorption.


http://www.effexorxr.com/

 

[on_the_verge]

Zoloft is an anti-depressant (kind of like Prozac, but not as strong as I understand it). Anyway, it can sometimes mess with your sex drive, and a few people have told me they either had a really hard time orgasming, or couldn't at all while they were on it.

Gilly, I am looking at all these suggestions and one or some of them might be better for you. This is from the best of my knowledge and is not solely factual:

Zoloft is a like Prozac, but pared down as we know, but there are factors like your age, alcohol consumption and so many other factors no one can assist you online like you doctor can. I am not trying to negate anyone's help, but your doctor and a consultation will far outweigh what you can find on the web. Anyway, I had three ex's on SSRI medication and each one of them handled the medication differently depending on their age, body, consumption, etc.

Gilly, you are a tough cat and I am sure you will be fine. You body and mind has to adjust to changes and I am not sure if the medication is suppressing parts of your neural system that effects you sex drive, which can also effect your appetite.

I hope Tuesday or so will shed some light and I hope things will work out. I am elated to see that other's have experience in this and they are giving support. Drive on little trooper!

Best,
O_T_V

 

[celiaKitten]

Effexor-XR works on a different level, it is a SNRI as opposed to a SSRI - ask your doctor about it. The XR (extended release) works way better than the regular absorption.


http://www.effexorxr.com/

I've taken zoloft, prozac and now take Effexor-XR.

zoloft and prozac kill orgasms. How soon it happens depends on how sensitive you are to medications. It can happen after merely a week.

But, if you do move to Effexor-XR, be careful. You have to be weaned on it and off of it. There are NASTY side effects if you miss a dose or even take one late.

But, on the bright side, I feel happy as a clam and have orgasms again, although it still takes a little longer than normal.

 

[Marxist]

In the pharm. business they call Zoloft, NOloft for it's lovely sexual side-effect profile.

Don't worry about the orgasm thing, your libido will diminish soon anyway and you won't notice.

EFFEXOR XR, as others have mentioned is an excellent anti-depressant. It works fast, 3-5 days in most cases, and can actually trigger erections in men.

The downside of EFFEXOR XR is that you'll have to take it forever. And when you come off you'll have to be weened or you'll crash like a Cessna in a windstorm.

Yes, I do sell drugs but none of those mentioned.

Good luck Gilly and go see a female doctor. The men won't get what you're going through. I promise.


P.S.--That stuff about Zoloft being "lighter" than Prozac is not true in the least. Total misinformation.

 

[Gilly Bean]

That's lovely... no libido... no orgasms... now THAT is enough to make me think being depressed all the time isn't so bad. At least then, I could enjoy sex. I have gone through the loss of sex drive once before, and it lasted nearly a year and a half. It was miserable for me, and hubby. I don't ever want to do that again. -sighs-

 

[celiaKitten]

That's lovely... no libido... no orgasms... now THAT is enough to make me think being depressed all the time isn't so bad. At least then, I could enjoy sex. I have gone through the loss of sex drive once before, and it lasted nearly a year and a half. It was miserable for me, and hubby. I don't ever want to do that again. -sighs-

Gilly - talk to your doctor about Effexor-XR. As long as you take it according to the program, all is well. Just make sure you're weaned on it, and if you decide to ever stop taking it, tell your doctor so he/she can help you wean off of it.

I went through several different anti-depressant meds and programs, and have really been happy with Effexor-XR overall.

Take a look into it, it might work for you too.

 

[on_the_verge]

That's lovely... no libido... no orgasms... now THAT is enough to make me think being depressed all the time isn't so bad. At least then, I could enjoy sex. I have gone through the loss of sex drive once before, and it lasted nearly a year and a half. It was miserable for me, and hubby. I don't ever want to do that again. -sighs-

Here is an article Gilly that I came accross. Hang in there Gilly!

http://www.estronaut.com/a/orgasm_anorgasmia.htm

* I know I going to hear about what you read in the media and what ever about writers and doctors wanting some edge. But, it's about gathering experiences and information from many sources. Hopefully too much won't be taxing.

 

[nasty]

Welcome to my world, Gilly. I have no lobido, or anything. I think I'm gonna try that medication.

 

[Guest]

Gilly,
I am, by no means, telling you not to listen to your body. But, as alexandraaah said, it, usually, takes a few weeks to get into your system. You just had a baby. Your hormones are in a wreck, regardless of meds. It sounds like you're putting an extreme amount of pressure upon yourself. I'm a person that listens to her body and totally trusts my gut. But, I am also aware of psycosomatic symptoms that I create when I don't understand what's happening. And, what happens to one person's body may not happen to yours. I've been on all sorts of antidepressants and never had any problems with zoloft. Talk to your doctor. If you don't feel comfortable, find a female doctor that specializes in sexual issues.
I feel so bad that I can't do anything to help. Just know if you ever wanna talk, I'm here.
Be well, hon.

 

[ksmybuttons]

What did you do before you tried Zoloft?

If your insurance doesn't cover it, it is worth the money to go see a naturopath. I would think that your body is still pretty messed up from having Gilly.

The phyto-progesterone creams really help with many of the post partum and perimenopausal symptoms. AND they don't mess with you libido...just a possible alternative.

 

[Guest]

What did you do before you tried Zoloft?

If your insurance doesn't cover it, it is worth the money to go see a naturopath. I would think that your body is still pretty messed up from having Gilly.

The phyto-progesterone creams really help with many of the post partum and perimenopausal symptoms. AND they don't mess with you libido...just a possible alternative.

Yes! You can buy 2% progesterone from most health food/nutritional/homeopathy stores. Your doctor could prescribe it, as well.

 

[Gilly Bean]

How is that used? The cream?


And before zoloft, I suffered through being depressed on and off for a while.

 

[dangergirl]

Be very careful of taking ANY kind of hormone replacement therapy as they are closely linked to breast cancer.

The Effexor-XR has actually INCREASED my desire for sex - and the orgasms are mahvelous!

 

[LadyDarkFire]

Gilly, since this is your first time on an antidepressant, don't be discouraged. There are alot of different meds out there for depression, and if you talk with your doctor, you can generally find a therapy that is right for your body. Generally a doctor will tell you to wait for 2-4 weeks to assess how the meds will affect you once your system learns to tolerate them. If you still feel jittery, or are having other side effects then, you should talk to your doc. If anything makes you feel light headed, or otherwise dizzy, TELL YOUR DOCTOR reguardless of how long you've been on it. Zoloft isn't a milder antidepressant, but it is different from Prozac, and will affect you differently. Talk to your doctor about a plan of trying out different meds as well. Make sure you plan out which meds you try one after another CAREFULLY, to avoid harmful side effects. Prozac, Wellbutrin (which is also marketed under another name as a pill to help people stop smoking), Serzone, Paxil, Effexor-XR, and many other meds can help, but should be approached with caution. Also, don't take a friend's story of what happened on a medication. Everone is different, and different meds work for different people.

 

[SinfulOne]

I am also on Effexor XR, I take three 75 mg. pills a day. My sex drive was way up there before starting, but now it is tenfold! It does take me a little longer to reach orgasam now, but when I do it is well worth it, I feel it everywhere, even in places I have never felt it before.
But I do have a friend who is taking it also and she says hers is lower, so I guess it is different for everyone.

 

[SilverVeil]

Gilly, I suffer from severe depression. I started taking zoloft first and I am one of the people zoloft does not work well for. My doc switched me to Prozac and it worked wonders for awhile, then I had to increase the dosage. When I lost my insurance I could not afford the medication.

I still suffer from the depression issues, but I take St. Johns Wort when it gets really terrible.

Both zoloft and prozac killed off my desire for sex. And I was horribly thirsty all of the time and my job would not let me keep anything to drink at my work station and a spvsr actually wrote me up for going to the water fountain too often.

After taking the meds and not taking the meds, I have to say that my outlook has changed. I was able to think clear headed about how things are and what I was going to have to go through without the medication. By doing this while I was on the meds, I got a clear picture of how my life was going to be. I may have to make myself get out of bed somedays, but once I get up and start going, things don't look so bad. And I can enjoy sex again and even chase my hunny around the apartment to ravish him over and over.

Talk to your doctor. Discuss with him/her all your options. Have you talked to them about St Johns Wort ? It is a herbal remedy and works quite well on minor depressions. Good luck.

 

[ksmybuttons]

Be very careful of taking ANY kind of hormone replacement therapy as they are closely linked to breast cancer.

Oral agents are synthetic so I would avoid any and all pills related to hormones. Phyto-progesterone is from a yam. Phyto meaning plant. You apply it to your skin daily. No big deal. Check out some of the web site info, but I have seen no documentation on any breast cancer links or other nasty side effects from progesterone cream. You can't eat it for the same effect because it is then digested and ineffective.

I was found to be progesterone deficient and had multiple miscarriages until I took progesterone suppositories. I felt great and now have a beautiful son.

I stopped using it for a year and, boy, was I hell on wheels. foot and plane. Much better with my little yam cream.