I spanked a girl, and I liked it!

[Kim_Burly]

Actually a 50 year old woman, but you know the song title. I am reluctant and excited, at the same time, to post about this. Let me start by saying I suspect this was set up by Sir, since I have been fantasizing about spanking and making my friend Linda service me. Let me say that is just a fantasy and will never, never, never be acted upon!!! I've haven't had any lesbian fantasies since my early days as an idealistic, naïve feminist. I'll give you the cliff notes version since I'm leaving soon.

We had a dinner with two other D/s couples. The woman in one couple made a derogatory comment about my boobs. Her husband/Master made her apologize and she did. Later she made another rude comment directed at me. Her husband/Master seemed to be legitimately made at her, he again made her apologize, but it was really a non-apology. So after some commotion and drama, she ended up across my lap with her skirt up (no panties). I spanked her a few times and she essentially laughed at my feeble attempts to hurt her with my little hand. Her Master then provided me a hairbrush, which I went to town with. After quite a while she was kicking and screaming, I was totally lost in the moment, I pulled her hair and left some nails marks in one of her boobs trying to control her thrashing. I was yelling "stop fighting" while hitting her as hard as I could. She finally went limp and was sobbing when Sir grabbed my hand and told me to stop. Her Master sent her to a corner where she sobbed for a while, she later rejoined us. I watched her bottom go from red, to dark red and then black and purple. I had indeed given the woman a sound spanking. I didn't feel remorse, quite the opposite, I wanted to further punish, humiliate her and make her service me, but that wasn't an option.

The room smelled of female arousal, hers which left my right the rather wet and my own, which had soaked my thong and the back of my dress. My feeling of euphoria was right up there with what it is when Sir takes me after a spirited caning. There was an unbelievable sexual tension for the remainder of the night, but nothing else happened. I really hit it off with the other lady, but the one I spanked was clearly miffed at me, and perhaps her Master. I've never done anything at all like that, but I want to some more. Sir says I may be able to, but neither of us wants to involve another in our relationship, or sex life, so I have no idea what he has in mind.

 

[DVS]

Welcome to the dom side of the tracks.

 

[box13]

Always very interesting....

 

[Kim_Burly]

Welcome to the dom side of the tracks.

Thanks DVS. Well, that was last weekend and I still haven't fully absorbed all of the feelings and emotions that I experienced. I guess I have a better understanding of what it feels like to be a Dom/Domme. I was so aroused and engrossed in punishing her that I completely forgot the other people were watching us. I truly enjoyed causing her pain . I really wanted to humiliate her, make her grovel and service me, even though I have zero interest in returning the favor . I only think about dominating other women, I also have no interest in doing that to a man.

I am scared to death that this could lead us down a path of bringing a second woman into our relationship. Sir and I are both adamant about a 100% monogamous relationship. Like I said, I don't know what Sir has in my, fortunately for us, he is much more disciplined and pragmatic than I am. I feel like someone who just did their first hit of crack and now I have to have more. Once we had left, Sir told me that the man had offered to let us take her home with us overnight, with no expectation of us/me returning that favor. I had mixed emotions that he had turned down the offer. I really wanted to using a riding crop on her boobs that she is so proud of.

By the way, for anyone who cares. Sir and I are now officially engaged, as of yesterday. we have the wedding date set for November .

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Thanks DVS. Well, that was last weekend and I still haven't fully absorbed all of the feelings and emotions that I experienced. I guess I have a better understanding of what it feels like to be a Dom/Domme. I was so aroused and engrossed in punishing her that I completely forgot the other people were watching us. I truly enjoyed causing her pain . I really wanted to humiliate her, make her grovel and service me, even though I have zero interest in returning the favor . I only think about dominating other women, I also have no interest in doing that to a man.

I am scared to death that this could lead us down a path of bringing a second woman into our relationship. Sir and I are both adamant about a 100% monogamous relationship. Like I said, I don't know what Sir has in my, fortunately for us, he is much more disciplined and pragmatic than I am. I feel like someone who just did their first hit of crack and now I have to have more. Once we had left, Sir told me that the man had offered to let us take her home with us overnight, with no expectation of us/me returning that favor. I had mixed emotions that he had turned down the offer. I really wanted to using a riding crop on her boobs that she is so proud of.

By the way, for anyone who cares. Sir and I are now officially engaged, as of yesterday. we have the wedding date set for November .

Congratulations on the forthcoming wedding!

Human sexuality is a very multifaceted thing, looks like you just took a peep through a never before viewed lens and found that you liked the view! enjoy your Doninant side!

 

[sweepthefloor]

Thanks for sharing this story. I can imagine the feelings and fear. I have been hurt by women in my life. I would be afraid that I would enjoy slapping and hurting a woman for reasons that have nothing to do with sexuality. It wouldn't be right. I can't be trusted.

 

[DVS]

Thanks DVS. Well, that was last weekend and I still haven't fully absorbed all of the feelings and emotions that I experienced. I guess I have a better understanding of what it feels like to be a Dom/Domme. I was so aroused and engrossed in punishing her that I completely forgot the other people were watching us. I truly enjoyed causing her pain . I really wanted to humiliate her, make her grovel and service me, even though I have zero interest in returning the favor . I only think about dominating other women, I also have no interest in doing that to a man.

I am scared to death that this could lead us down a path of bringing a second woman into our relationship. Sir and I are both adamant about a 100% monogamous relationship. Like I said, I don't know what Sir has in my, fortunately for us, he is much more disciplined and pragmatic than I am. I feel like someone who just did their first hit of crack and now I have to have more. Once we had left, Sir told me that the man had offered to let us take her home with us overnight, with no expectation of us/me returning that favor. I had mixed emotions that he had turned down the offer. I really wanted to using a riding crop on her boobs that she is so proud of.

By the way, for anyone who cares. Sir and I are now officially engaged, as of yesterday. we have the wedding date set for November .

It looks like you were in the heat of the moment, which can sometimes be great, but it can sometimes be terrible, too. Any kind of punishment, like revenge, should be served cold. Revenge is served cold to catch the victim off guard.

Punishment should be served cold, because if served in the heat of the moment, you can feel exactly like you did...nobody else exists...you wanted to cause her pain, humiliate her and pretty much anything else you could think of. You can sometimes feel that way, no matter when you serve the punishment, but the idea behind waiting is to calm down, so you are more rational, sensible and less likely to go too far and hurt someone.

Sure, you still will feel the same way, but you will also have your temper in check. Some of it might not be quite as fun as when in the heat of the moment, but I personally think it can be more fun, when you calm down. You can plan the punishment, plan the attack and dish it out at your leisure. OK, it is kind of like revenge, in other ways, too.

Congratulations on your wedding plans. Maybe you could take a nameless female with you on the honeymoon, just as a play thing for practice, and to relieve stress. I know...just kidding.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I cannot recall a time that I spanked a girl/woman and didn't like it...

 

[Kim_Burly]

Well, we met with the same couple again this weekend, "just to talk". It was quickly apparent that like many couples, they are mismatched. They are like us in that they are both divorced. Unlike us, they are both in the neighborhood of 50 years old. Even though he has her well trained and seems like a good Dom, he wants to be a sub as well. Whether we wants to admit it or not, he is bi, or at the very least bi-curious. Since Sir is very straight, this made for some interesting/awkward conversation. She has a beautiful face and skin, has huge, but nice boobs and is full figured. He is an unremarkable fit and trim 50 year old man.

Even though it was supposed to be strictly an opportunity to meet, we did wind up playing some. DVS, I need to pat myself on the back and say I was not too harsh with her that first time . I know that not all sub women are like me and want it really hard, but I sensed that she did, and I was right . The first time she was resentful that she was forced to submit to a woman she had never met. For some strange reason she thinks her huge boobs somehow made her superior to me . I did get a chance to punish her boobs, and I was relentless :caning:. She's like me that she thrives on humiliation so I knew exactly what buttons to push . The fucking filthy slut .

The funny thing is that after all this, I need Sir to take me in hand I remind me that I am his. Long term, I don't think that it will work with this couple, Sir has no interest in being "fluffed" or sodomizing another man, even if there is no expectation of reciprocity. My fantasy is that we get a maid that is submissive to me, but since we will be living as a family in less than 6 months, with my two children, that will never work . Sir wants me to "take" my "friend" Linda (that "abused" me), but as a victim of multiple sexual assaults myself by a woman in college, I think that is a bad idea.

I now feel better that Sir has this under control. For a while, I felt like I was back out on my own with no guard rails and I was going to crash. I now feel like he has a good handle on where we are going without endangering our relationship .

Thanks for listening.

 

[DVS]

Well, we met with the same couple again this weekend, "just to talk". It was quickly apparent that like many couples, they are mismatched. They are like us in that they are both divorced. Unlike us, they are both in the neighborhood of 50 years old. Even though he has her well trained and seems like a good Dom, he wants to be a sub as well. Whether we wants to admit it or not, he is bi, or at the very least bi-curious. Since Sir is very straight, this made for some interesting/awkward conversation. She has a beautiful face and skin, has huge, but nice boobs and is full figured. He is an unremarkable fit and trim 50 year old man.

Even though it was supposed to be strictly an opportunity to meet, we did wind up playing some. DVS, I need to pat myself on the back and say I was not too harsh with her that first time . I know that not all sub women are like me and want it really hard, but I sensed that she did, and I was right . The first time she was resentful that she was forced to submit to a woman she had never met. For some strange reason she thinks her huge boobs somehow made her superior to me . I did get a chance to punish her boobs, and I was relentless :caning:. She's like me that she thrives on humiliation so I knew exactly what buttons to push . The fucking filthy slut .

The funny thing is that after all this, I need Sir to take me in hand I remind me that I am his. Long term, I don't think that it will work with this couple, Sir has no interest in being "fluffed" or sodomizing another man, even if there is no expectation of reciprocity. My fantasy is that we get a maid that is submissive to me, but since we will be living as a family in less than 6 months, with my two children, that will never work . Sir wants me to "take" my "friend" Linda (that "abused" me), but as a victim of multiple sexual assaults myself by a woman in college, I think that is a bad idea.

I now feel better that Sir has this under control. For a while, I felt like I was back out on my own with no guard rails and I was going to crash. I now feel like he has a good handle on where we are going without endangering our relationship .

Thanks for listening.

I'm glad you got a chance to have your way with her, again. I wonder if her attitude before had been a bit staged, to heighten the experience for her...and maybe even for you. And in the heat of the moment like that, you really don't know if anyone is acting or not.

But it sounds like you and she had more fun. I thought it was interesting that you say she thought she was superior to you, because of her big boobs. Is that a woman thing? Do you all assume power comes with big boobs? Not being a boob man (total ass man and very proud of it) I think big boobs just creates back trouble holding those suckers up. Down, boys! OK, maybe suckers wasn't the best word to use?

But, did you feel better this time around, or do you think you enjoyed it more the first time? I know there is usually something special in every first time, so that could be a loaded question. What I mean is once you were in control of the moment this second time, did you better experience that control, or do you feel there was something missing that the first time had?

I'm more of a "be in control" kind of person. I enjoy the thought process, the planning and then the execution and watching it all happen just how I planned. But, I know there is something to be said for those "in the heat of the moment" sessions, too.

 

[Kim_Burly]

I'm glad you got a chance to have your way with her, again. I wonder if her attitude before had been a bit staged, to heighten the experience for her...and maybe even for you. And in the heat of the moment like that, you really don't know if anyone is acting or not.

But it sounds like you and she had more fun. I thought it was interesting that you say she thought she was superior to you, because of her big boobs. Is that a woman thing? Do you all assume power comes with big boobs? Not being a boob man (total ass man and very proud of it) I think big boobs just creates back trouble holding those suckers up. Down, boys! OK, maybe suckers wasn't the best word to use?

But, did you feel better this time around, or do you think you enjoyed it more the first time? I know there is usually something special in every first time, so that could be a loaded question. What I mean is once you were in control of the moment this second time, did you better experience that control, or do you feel there was something missing that the first time had?

I'm more of a "be in control" kind of person. I enjoy the thought process, the planning and then the execution and watching it all happen just how I planned. But, I know there is something to be said for those "in the heat of the moment" sessions, too.

Well, her umbrage may have been part act, part legit, I'll never know. We both definitely had more fun the second time around. The boobs part is a thing for me, since when I was heavier I had really nice boobs. Far from perfect, but I was proud of them. When I lost weight, they really sagged. At Sir's request, I put some weight back on and I have been lifting weights to strengthen my chest, so they are "looking up" somewhat. So I was upset when she made a snide remark about my girls (I was wearing a see-through top). I can't speak for all women, but I did have a certain feeling of confidence when I had my bigger boobs, even if I kept them under wraps. I hope that makes sense. In any case, she paid dearly for her insolence .

The second time was much better. I was totally taken by surprise the first time and it was very awkward, fun, but awkward. Believe it or not, up until that point in my life, I had never had a woman across my lap with her skirt pulled up, so I was ill-prepared and nervous. The second time I was more mentally prepared and I had at least an inkling of her limits.

I don't know what is going to happen with this couple long term, it's very complicated. I sooooo wanted to make her service me, and she would have done it gladly, but I'm not prepared to cross over into the sexual contact arena. That would be opening Pandora's box.

 

[bibcat]

. That would be opening Pandora's box.

I don't know if this was a purposeful pun, but it definitely made me chuckle

 

[welkin]

I don't think one can say whether bigger boobs = more power. If the person I'm interested in likes big boobs, then yes I can feel more confident with bigger boobs. But if he likes smaller boobs, then I'd feel better with smaller boobs. So in other words, it all depends on the other person's preference.

But in the absence of such a person (i.e. I'm not trying to impress anyone or get anyone's sexual attention), then I don't really think about the size of my boobs or anyone else's.

 

[Kim_Burly]

Just to post a brief update, I am using Lit as a journal of sorts. Sir says I should start a private, paper journal, but I get good feedback here. So, please forgive me for going on and on about this, but I don't have anyone other than Sir I can share this with.

We went out to dinner with our news friends/subs, I'll call them Lynn and Steve. Everyone, except yours truly indulged in the fruit of the grape and spirits . We went back to our (Sir's) house. Things started rolling as soon as we got there. There were some firsts for me and Lynn (so she says). It is complicated in that both of them want to be submissive to both of us. But neither of us are interested in having sex with him, he's distinguished looking, well equipped man, but Sir won't let him touch me in any intimate way, and Sir has no interest in having Steve blow him, let alone sodomizing him. Steve did get to eat a creampie though .

I never understood the whole cuckold thing. I always thought that guys fantasizing about it pictured themselves in the dominant role, taking another man's wife. But looking around Lit, it's pretty clear I'm completely wrong about that.

I did, however, cane Steve and I used a crop of his package, I still don't feel right doing that to a man, but he enjoyed it. I threw him another bone of sorts that we both enjoyed. I'll stop before get carried away even more. Thanks, Kim

 

[theGM26]

I cannot recall a time that I spanked a girl/woman and didn't like it...

This. Well said Sir_Winston