I really don't want to bother any of y'all...

[bhndblueyes88]

but I've been drinking and have to ask anyway.

So I have this thing for my roommate (we're both female). I know I do, and that is not under debate. I...really can't argue this at this point (nothing has occurred, but it's just silly to continue to deny this to myself)

However, I still don't particularly find myself attracted to women. I mean, sure, I have an appreciation for beauty in general. And there are individuals I feel I would be attracted to on a mental level if the had the equipment, so to speak, that I am more attracted to. But seriously (no offense intended to those who prefer it) vaginas are gross. GROSS. I have one and keep it clean as I can manage and ew. gross. skin folds are always gross. GROSS. sorry to those of you who like them this is a personal feeling and I in no way judge you for appreciating a good vagina (god knows I'm thankful my fiance loves 'em) but ew GROSS.

So I guess I was wrong in that I'm not really asking a question I'm just....confused.

I'm very confused. and irritated at my brain for giving me this annoyance. And...I guess I don't really know why I'm posting in the first place so I should probably delete this.


blah. Why can't my boy just be here so I don't have to worry about it anyway..***** is simpler that way.

 

[photobuff56]

So what kind of thing do you have for her, are you attracted to her sexually? Sometime guys think about sucking a cock or maybe get fucked by another guy but not really attracted to them and don't want to kiss them. Maybe your just hiding those feelings but im no expert. Do you only feel that way when your drinking or all the time.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

So what kind of thing do you have for her, are you attracted to her sexually? Sometime guys think about sucking a cock or maybe get fucked by another guy but not really attracted to them and don't want to kiss them. Maybe your just hiding those feelings but im no expert. Do you only feel that way when your drinking or all the time.

*wry* what I feel right now is regret for making a post. -_- I struggle to articulate exactly what it is I feel, partially because I just don't bloody want to think about it. In a way, I am attracted to her in a sexual manner, BUT, I firmly believe that all the alcohol in the world would not make me have sex with her. That being said, there is plenty of alcohol in the world for more clothed activity to occur if I did not have a rather firm belief against cheating.

Unfortunately it is not just an alcohol thing. If it was, I just wouldn't drink at home!! That'd be such a lovely solution... It is QUITE possible that I just generally like her as a person and that is combining with my general loneliness.

And yah. now that my inebriation is passed I don't feel quite so chatty about it any more xD sorry for a wasted post

 

[itsallgood2000]

A clam is unattractive till you eat it and it becomes a thing of beauty.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

A clam is unattractive till you eat it and it becomes a thing of beauty.

Might I point out that I'm allergic to shellfish.

 

[Killjoy24]

How does she feel about you?
Maybe it's mutual and that is beauty

 

[Stella_Omega]

As you note, a touch of sexual attraction doesn't necessarily mean enough sexual attraction to do anything about it. You like her a lot; you feel pleasure in her company; you're a wee bit horny-- in a way that is entirely unrelated to her, but- there she is. On the other hand, you are not interested in women, and a woman is what she is. So, that attraction is not nearly enough to tip the scales for you.

That's common and perfectly okay. There is no need to beat yourself up for not being bisexual. Your sexuality is not in competition with anyone else's.

 

[Killjoy24]

I fully agree with Stella.
I didn't even relize I was Bi until my first and only 3-some a few weeks ago and I'am a 34 year old woman. Don't beat yourself up. It's not worth it. Just go with what your heart feals.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

As you note, a touch of sexual attraction doesn't necessarily mean enough sexual attraction to do anything about it. You like her a lot; you feel pleasure in her company; you're a wee bit horny-- in a way that is entirely unrelated to her, but- there she is. On the other hand, you are not interested in women, and a woman is what she is. So, that attraction is not nearly enough to tip the scales for you.

That's common and perfectly okay. There is no need to beat yourself up for not being bisexual. Your sexuality is not in competition with anyone else's.

lol, I wouldn't really care too much either way about my sexuality. It's just annoying and I can't make it go away and THAT super irritates me I may be a tish anal about my self control. Which is probably the bigger issue but regardless.

Thanks to both you and others who have commented. I feel a little bit more sedate at this point and I appreciate it when my drunken ramblings are not cast into the Flames of The Internet

 

[photobuff56]

Feel free to ramble here 95%and of us do. We may not hit on the correct answers but maybe open some doors. Im not allergic and love clams. don't feel bad about asking someone something.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Feel free to ramble here 95%and of us do. We may not hit on the correct answers but maybe open some doors. Im not allergic and love clams. don't feel bad about asking someone something.

If we're speaking on a culinary level, I adore oysters and clams but they DETEST me. I usually vomit them right back out later.

 

[photobuff56]

If we're speaking on a culinary level, I adore oysters and clams but they DETEST me. I usually vomit them right back out later.

That's not good as for me I can eat everything and usually go try it all.

 

[Noira]

In a way, I am attracted to her in a sexual manner, BUT, I firmly believe that all the alcohol in the world would not make me have sex with her.

Nothing wrong with falling in love without wanting to have sex. I'm quite fond of pale romance as a concept because it gives me a way of explaining the relationship in my life.

If pale romance was more mainstream it'd explain a lot of relationships that shouldn't be sexual, I think. Maybe you're hetrosexual and biromantic? That's a thing.

Of course I ID as pansexual, so I don't have that extra bonus layer of confusion. If I feel sexually attracted to someone I just go "woo they're hot I'd totally screw them" and move on with life. It's more the nuances of romance that get to me.

 

[Stella_Omega]

"Pale romance" Noira? As in Homestuck? I love the quadrant system, it makes such good sense-- for some people, anyway.