I need some help...

[Babyy_Ruth]

I am into a rougher syle of sex with my boyfriend, I don't know if it would be considered BDSM but I serve him and I am punished in certain ways for disobedience, but I recently found out I'm pregnant. My boyfriend and were hoping for some advice on more...I guess health conscious or 'safe" things in this style that we could still do while I'm pregnant (Punishments and such)...Now and in the future when I get farther along.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I am into a rougher syle of sex with my boyfriend, I don't know if it would be considered BDSM but I serve him and I am punished in certain ways for disobedience, but I recently found out I'm pregnant. My boyfriend and were hoping for some advice on more...I guess health conscious or 'safe" things in this style that we could still do while I'm pregnant (Punishments and such)...Now and in the future when I get farther along.

Punishments or consequences for undesireable/unacceptable behaviors need not be *physical,* you know... unless that's the only form your "rougher style of sex" takes. Some non-physical consequences could take the form of humiliation, tasks (presumably ones you don't like), etc. One non-physical consequence I've used in the past was to require my pyl to write, either a journal entry describing the unacceptable behavior/act and *why* she was incorrect in behaving in that way, or a letter of apology (to me) with the same information.

 

[Stella_Omega]

You'll be amazed at how many ways you can play whilst pregnant! Any sort of skin stimulation is just fine. Spanking ,flogging etc.

You want to take it easy on your joints-- your knees will be taking a lot more weight, and your hips will eventually begin to loosen up-- which can feel horrible sometimes. As the baby grows, you will lose lung capacity for a while, so watch it on breath play, and you might not be able to go head down. You can have rough vaginal penetration up until the cervix begins to loosen up preparatory to dilation. It is NOT, assuming your pregnancy is troublefree, going to hurt the baby in any way.

And after the second trimester... if the baby doesn't like something, it will kick.

 

[gemaussieslut]

furthermore (to add from what is above)
check with your doctor or ob/gyn. May be embarrasing?... depends on who you are and what relationship you have with your doctor/ob/gyn but worth asking at least about sex and any symptoms problems issues you should/could look out for

 

[Solaralyn]

Been there

With my last partner I ran into the same issue, sadly I lost the baby due to a car accident but thats neither here nor there. Anyway, I agree. Really you should talk to you OBGYN about it. I was totally uncomfortable with it (mainly because I used to babysit her daughter), but when I breached the subject she told me that as long as there is no direct sever trauma to the abdomen or pelvic area the baby should be fine. So he really shouldnt kick you or throw you down stairs, but spankings or other styles of less severe punishments are fine in the early stages, once you get closer to the due date you will need to be more careful but as long as there is no direct trauma to the fetus you should be okay. But ask your OBGYN, I promise they have seen and heard it all and nothing will phase them. It will be weird and it will be uncomfortable, but forewarned is forearmed. If you dont ask you will never ever know.

 

[FloggingMolly]

there is an excellent reply from a nurse (poss a midwife, dont rememer 100%) to a very similar question. I'd highly recommend searching the forum.

 

[Babyy_Ruth]

Thank you guys very much your advice and tips are greatly appreciated.

 

[BLoved]

I think the question is how much do you want to put your baby at risk.

The baby is hooked up to your body. Your blood pressure, heart rate, what you breath, it all affects your baby.

Putting yourself at risk is one thing, putting your baby at risk is another.

This is where you start making decisions as a parent, not as a child-less individual.

This is where you start defining your responsibilities to your child.

Are you willing to give up bdsm during the pregnancy to ensure your baby is not placed at risk?

on edit: Actually, why are you asking a bunch of people on a forum ... ask your doctor.