I need some advice...

[Silverluna]

I am trying to think of a nice way to ask my parents to let me go to NYC for spring break...I have an old highschool friend who lives up there and has invited me to visit her...

I plan on getting a job to raise the funds to get me there....either by train or plane...I am NOT driving....
But I need to convince my over protective parental units to let me go....I know there are a bunch of mommies and daddies here who have kids...or had them...What would be the best way to convince mine?

 

[freakygirl]

Wait

how old are you?

 

[bluntforcemama]

Wait

how old are you?

Freaky, stop reading my mind! How are you, gurl?

 

[penguindance]

 

[freakygirl]

Freaky, stop reading my mind! How are you, gurl?

I was just getting you back for reading my mind in Vixenshe's thread. (The camel toe comment, I had it first... but my computer decided to be slow and you posted first).

Anyway, I'm good. How are you and married life?

 

[freakygirl]

Well shit.. looking at a profile.. what a novice idea

OK.. my answer is.

"Hey mom and dad. I'm heading to New York for "however long". See ya when I get home. Do me a favor.. put my mail in my room. Thanks."

Don't ask.. you are old enough to do as you please. They may get angry.. but as my daddy always said, "They got the same clothing to get glad in.. that they got mad in".

Good Luck.

 

[kotori]

Tell them you've got good news: you've decided you're not interested in going to Daytona with all that sex and binge drinking and pot smoking. You're just going to visit a friend at her school: take in the museums and the theatre and the architectural wonders.

 

[Silverluna]

Look...I'm 21....I go to college....

I know I am a big girl....but....I've never done anything like this before....unless it was like a school event or something...even when I went abroad it was with a group....

joke...tease....whatever...this is the last time I will ask for advice here.

I guess I need to lead a more exotic life to get some sort of friendly advice or understanding....

 

[freakygirl]

Where was a joke made? Where were you teased?

You asked for advice.. I gave you what I would have done at your age.

21.. is an adult. You are free to do as you please. Yes, breaking away from parents is hard. But you have to start someplace and sometime.

 

[penguindance]

 

[Silverluna]

I'm sorry...*sigh* It is very hard to even think about doing something so dramatic...I am the eldest child....and due to my OCD and Manic Depression...they (my parents) are a bit reluctant to let me try anything "new"...so I want to try and let them know I can handle this...

and the comments about my age...well just rubbed me the wrong way ....like" why the fuck are you here little girl...?" I'm just in a messed up mood...sorry again...

 

[penguindance]

 

[seXieleXie]

trust me on this, your parents don't give you your freedom. you take it from them.

 

[QuickDuck]

it was more a case of "you are old enough to make your own choices".

Personally, I think tell them you are going to meet up with an old friend and you will be back when you are back.

Good luck

 

[Silverluna]

oh god...now i'm panicing..

maybe I can't do this....

 

[estevie]

Look...I'm 21....I go to college....

I know I am a big girl....but....I've never done anything like this before....unless it was like a school event or something...even when I went abroad it was with a group....

joke...tease....whatever...this is the last time I will ask for advice here.

I guess I need to lead a more exotic life to get some sort of friendly advice or understanding....

Relax, hun. No one is teasing you. Its just a tad hard for some of us to understand what the big deal is. You are 21yrs old. Its high time you made decisions on your own.

That said, I think I can understand. Let me ask a few questions. Do you need permission from your parents to go out with friends? Do you still have a curfew? I'm not picking on you, just trying to understand. Some parents think that while you are living under their roof, you follow their rules. Nothing wrong with that.

As to the problem, just talk to them like an adult. Tell them what your plans are. You know your parents better than us, you'll know what is going to give them problems with your trip. Be prepared for any questions they are goingto have. How are you getting there? What money do you plan on using, how will you get that money? Where are you staying? What are your plans for the trip? That sort of stuff. Be prepared!

Good Luck!

 

[Silverluna]

yeah they are that particular....that's why i mentioned about parents and what they might say...

It was my plan to explain everything...I mean...I would expect the same from my kid...

 

[seXieleXie]

i'm a few years younger than you silverluna, and i'm sort of at the tail end of the process you're just starting on. now i inform my parents of plans like that as a courtesy. i took a road trip this break and told them "i'm leaving this day at this time. i'll be back at this time on this day. this is where i'll be staying. this is how you can reach me."

if that won't fly and you're not willing to be bold, my suggestion is to wait until spring break is a little close. that way you'll have actually earned some of the money for your transportation. this shows responsability and forethought and all that good stuff. then present all the facts calmly. i would suggest not asking "can i do this?" but rather say "this is what i would like to do. what do you think?"

this transition is difficult but worth the trouble.