I Need Help!!!

[hotandspicy]

I have a problem that I'm hoping someone can help me out with. Ever since I had my daughter, I haven't been able to cum. I can orgasm, but no fluid comes out. It's a struggle for me to even get wet. While I was pregnant, I would gush, but now, not even a trickle comes out.


I guess my question is: is this a normal thing that happens after having a baby and is there anything that can be done to fix it?

 

[Tat2mom]

I had my second and last child 5 yrs ago. After I had her, and for about 4 yrs, I had absolutly NO interest in sex at all. (Of course that all changed last yr but that's another story. lol) I know pregnancy and child birth can change everything. I had no sensation at all in my breasts untill after I had my last child. It may come back or it may just be a change. I'm sorry I'm not much help.

 

[PoisonBeauty]

That sounds hormonal to me. I would see my gynecologist if I were you.

Poison

 

[Nicole]

IF it's a real concern, then see your Doctor about it.

You have to remember that just like every pregnancy is different so is every after birth situation, it may just be one of those things that'll take time.

How old is your daughter? Did you have any kind of infection after the birth? Are you breastfeeding?

People might be able to give you more information if you let them know the answer to those few questions.

Good Luck.

 

[hotandspicy]

My daughter is 2 now. I was 19 when I had her and I didn't breast feed. It's not a HUGE problem, but I am a little worried about what a man would think. I've never heard of a woman who couldn't cum before.

 

[GeorgeWBush]

My daughter is 2 now. I was 19 when I had her and I didn't breast feed. It's not a HUGE problem, but I am a little worried about what a man would think. I've never heard of a woman who couldn't cum before.

I'm not sure about the issue of not cummng.

Bu a mans thinking it would not bother me because sex is not number one on my list, friendship is and companionships is more important with me.

And a women with children does not bother me i love children.

Good luck with the rest and take care.

 

[wicked woman]

Not familiar with this happening...but two suggestions...see a doc and use lube in the mean time.

 

[ReadyOne]

Me thinks I hear two definitions...

She can cum in that she can orgasm. Fingers or vibe get the climax. Possibly a man too, if she had one at the moment.

She can't cum in that she can't get gushing wet, i.e. squirting.

Many can climax, few can squirt. A girl who can climax and have a boy climax inside her has the basics down fine.

Advanced topics like extended multiple orgasms, squirting, extreme arousal from nipple stimulation can be nice but are not essential as far as good sex is concerned.

If my understanding of "cum" is correct from her post, she's worried that a man will reject her because she's left the small percent of the population who are frequent squirters to join the majority who can't.

A guy who expects a girl to squirt, just like he expects a girl to lubricate enough for him to enter, is in fantasy land. The latter is expected of a girl even twice you age; the former is definitly not.

 

[wicked woman]

Ready One I understood her to say it was difficult for her to get wet at all...not an issue of squirting....but that she can 'cum' ...meaning orgasm...that's why I suggested lube. Any way, just my take on it.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

heya i guess the only thing that happened in result of me having my child is I could not orgasm through me being on top, but luckily i've found a great guy and its just started naturally happening again

 

[Meat Whistler]

I agree about the doctor - if I were you, I'd get it checked out, to be sure.

 

[hotandspicy]

Thank you all for your input. Friends have also told me to see my doctor, but it would seem really weird to me. Having a male doctor, I wouldn't know how to even bring it up. Not to mention he was my moms doctor for about 20 yrs. so in some way, I'd feel like I was talking to her about it. I guell I'll just have to suck it up and ask about it if I want some answers. Thanks again everyone.

 

[ReadyOne]

If you're uncomfortable with your current doctor and s/he is a gp, you might ask him/her for a referral to a gyn or endoctrinologist, explaining that you want to talk to a female...

 

[hotandspicy]

That's an option. Thanks ReadyOne.

 

[fnnyworld]

OK...

My daughter is 2 now. I was 19 when I had her and I didn't breast feed. It's not a HUGE problem, but I am a little worried about what a man would think. I've never heard of a woman who couldn't cum before.

I made it alot of years without ever truly enjoying sex, turns out all I needed was to get rid of my husband so I could relax.

Maybe it was tension?

Try long hot baths and then a very thorough massage .

If that doesn't work, ask your OB/GYN, but it may just be hormones. If so, it'll pass with time or meds.

I've never been as wet as I am now!

Hell I thought it was a gift from God.

Take it nice and easy though, you've been through more than you think, physically.

 

[hotandspicy]

I understand what you're saying, FW. I just figured that if it was a natural thing that happens after having a baby, everything would go back to normal after a couple years. I was wrong, I guess.