I need help.....

[Guest]

.....my husband an I have only been married since jan. and we have a one month old daughter. I've always been real passive in bed and he wants me to be more agressive. I dont really know how to be agressive, can any one help me?

 

[Weird Harold]

.....my husband an I have only been married since jan. and we have a one month old daughter. I've always been real passive in bed and he wants me to be more agressive. I dont really know how to be agressive, can any one help me?

The answer depends on just what he means by "agressive."

Does he just want you to show more passion, or does he want something involving restraints, blindfolds, feathers, and "condiments to taste?"

Going on a middle ground, I'd suggest that you start by initiating sex a few times -- wake him up with a blowjob; just climb on his morning wood and ride him; Do a strip tease in front of the television to distract him from the football game; Flash him at the mall; etc.

Just talking dirty during sex might be enough "agressive"for him.

You need to talk to HIM and find out what his idea of "agressive" is.

 

[MissTaken]

I agree with Weird Harold, completely.

It can be difficult when you have married such a brief bit of time, but just talking about what he wants and then, surprising him with some of it will go far.

Also, I empathize. A one month old is rather taxing and I imagine you are very tired. There is no exhaustion equal to that that takes over after the birth of a baby...in my experience.

So, do the talking and then, only do what you feel you can do and enjoy.

Give it a whirl.

It just might be fun

 

[Guest]

Does anyone have any advice, or some new tricks I can try on my husband?

 

[marksgirl]

Coming from someone in the know I think a few things will help.
#1. A place of your own where you can be free to experment.
#2. A trip to the toy store.
#3. Talk to each other, very important!
#4. Read. There are tons of books on this subject!
#5. Don't be afraid to take the lead and tell your husband what you want, you will never get it if you don't ask for it hon. And don't be afraid to ask him what he wants too, you may just like it too!
#6. Remember to have fun, playing together is the best, I know
and #7. Relax.

 

[marksgirl]

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