i need help.....alot

[godspeedless]

ok I like this girl she knows it but she doesnt like me, she only sees me as a best freind, i do know her in person but ti only can get myself to talk to her online im to scared to talk to her on the phone or somthing. she has a boyfreind but he is always getting in fights with her and i end up making her feel better and it seems that she noly has to me to make her happy, the boyfreind will be leaving for college at the end of next month. what should i do? i care for her and dont want to break up thier relationship but i know it hurts her to ive been letting her do w hat makes her happy but she keeps going back to him. im really confused

 

[Shaq]

I only give relationship advice when a person has no one else to turn to since I'm not nearly qualified to advise others on matters of romantic rapture...if no one else responds I shall return with input...

 

[Black_Bird]

JESUS CHRIST MAN! Do I really have to spell it out for you?

Tell her your feelings and tell her that you would treat her better then he does. List all the bullshit that he has done to her and list all the great things you have done for her. Then, tell her that if she doesn't at least leave dick head for good, then the friendship is definitely over.

It's a wake up call for her and it's about time you got the recognition you deserve. You can't help someone if they won't help themselves, and going back to the same old guy again and again, isn't helping either of you.

 

[Allexus_TN]

JESUS CHRIST MAN! Do I really have to spell it out for you?

Tell her your feelings and tell her that you would treat her better then he does. List all the bullshit that he has done to her and list all the great things you have done for her. Then, tell her that if she doesn't at least leave dick head for good, then the friendship is definitely over.

It's a wake up call for her and it's about time you got the recognition you deserve. You can't help someone if they won't help themselves, and going back to the same old guy again and again, isn't helping either of you.

Preach on!!!

 

[godspeedless]

i dont want to threaten to end my freindship with her if she doesnt dump him, how does that make me better than him?

 

[Zamdrist]

i dont want to threaten to end my freindship with her if she doesnt dump him, how does that make me better than him?

Always remain her friend. The only thing more priceless than a lover is a true friend.

But, tell her in no uncertain terms how you feel.

What do you have to lose? What do you have with her now?

 

[godspeedless]

i understand, but then comes the other problem i want to talk to her but i cant, i cant even let the phone right more than once without getting scared and hjanging up
thats the worste part

 

[Black_Bird]

i dont want to threaten to end my freindship with her if she doesnt dump him, how does that make me better than him?

You are already better then him, but she won't realize that unless you stop letting yourself be treated like a door mat.

You aren't a tissue for her to whip her nose on and carelessly throw away. You aren't her guidance councelor. You aren't her diary, so why let yourself be treated like this? You are a human being, and you deserve better.

Besides, if you don't stand up to her, the cycle will only continue to repeat itself; she gets used, cries to you, makes up with boy friend. Can you really stand watching that happen again and again? If you stand up to her and it ends your friendship, at least you no longer have to suffer because of her bad decisions.

And you shouldn't have to suffer because of someone elses bad decisions, no matter how much you care for them.

 

[Zamdrist]

You are already better then him, but she won't realize that unless you stop letting yourself be treated like a door mat.

You aren't a tissue for her to whip her nose on and carelessly throw away. You aren't her guidance councelor. You aren't her diary, so why let yourself be treated like this? You are a human being, and you deserve better.

Besides, if you don't stand up to her, the cycle will only continue to repeat itself; she gets used, cries to you, makes up with boy friend. Can you really stand watching that happen again and again? If you stand up to her and it ends your friendship, at least you no longer have to suffer because of her bad decisions.

And you shouldn't have to suffer because of someone elses bad decisions, no matter how much you care for them.

That's more of an aggressive approach than I would take. Yet it's some damn good advice and makes a lot of sense.

 

[godspeedless]

well ill try telling her all that and see what happens ill post back

 

[godspeedless]

well i told her and well her and her bf havnt had a fight in a while so it came a slightly bad time , but oh well she said she would think about it (i told her in short once is love twice is stupid) and if she comes to cry to me again after a fight ima just remind her of that and hopfully shell do whats right

 

[Morwen]

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[godspeedless]

dont follow you

 

[Saint Peter]

Better pet him first.

 

[medjay]

Just read my current Sig Line below.

 

[Spinaroonie]

SHOW HER YOUR PENIS!!!! SHE WILL NOT RESIST!!!!!!1111

 

[godspeedless]

i just dont follow any one especially the sig, i never was good at poetry, and sd412 why dont you get a spoon and eat my ass

 

[medjay]

i just dont follow any one especially the sig, i never was good at poetry, and sd412 why dont you get a spoon and eat my ass

Here's the whole verse for you. I think it sums up your situation quite niclely.


Time for me to voice my opinion of not even pretendin she didn't have me
Strung like a chicken, chasing my tail like a doggie
She was kind of like a star, thinking I was like a fan
Dude, she looked good, down side: she had a man
He was a rooty-toot, a nincompoop
She told me soon your little birdie's gonna fly the coop
She was a flake like corn, and I was born not to understand
By lettin her pass I had proved to be a better man

She keeps on passin me by...



Haha! Any other Pharcyde fans out there?

 

[gcdjimmy]

20 years ago I was afraid to tell someone how I felt about them - I regret it to this day!
Get off of the pot and let her know how you feel! If she is a true friend, you won't lose that.
Whichever way you decide - Good Luck!

 

[Spinaroonie]

i just dont follow any one especially the sig, i never was good at poetry, and sd412 why dont you get a spoon and eat my ass

I have given you the secret! You choose to ignore it!

You lose!

 

[Dougy]

Don't ever be afraid to get hurt or lose a friendship. I spent years attempting to maintain friendships by 'not getting in the way'. Over the years a couple of these friends have gotten married, found a more permanent type of misery, and filed for divorce. Both of them stopped talking to me after the divorce, perhaps because I was inextricably linked to the bad relationship, by being their sounding board and spittle rag...

Don't fuck around. Just screw up the courage, tell her how you feel and see what the hell happens. I can tell you that the alternative is a lonely one.

Best of luck godspeedless. I'm pulling for you.