Eilan
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Do you find it easy or difficult to say these three little words? Why/why not?
Is it important for you to hear these words from your loved ones?
What's your time frame for using them when you're in a new relationship?
My husband and I say "I love you" to each other several times a day, usually when he's leaving for work or we're talking to each other on the phone. We tend to say it a lot, both to each other and the kids, but I wouldn't say we overuse it, if there is such a thing. (Though I suppose it's possible to say the words automatically when the actual feelings are long gone, but I've never had that experience.)
I was wondering if saying (or not) "I love you" to your SO and/or other family members depends on when you were raised. I don't know that some of my older family members have ever said this to each other, even if they do, in fact, love each other and show it in other ways.
For example, my grandfather was born in the early 20's. When he died a few years back, I started feeling really guilty about the fact that we never said "I love you" to each other. I whispered it to him at the funeral, but I never said it to him when he was alive.
Some time after his funeral, when my emotions were a little less raw, I was thinking about this, and I started feeling less guilty. We both knew that we loved each other, even if we didn't say it; it was evident in our actions. I don't know that he told my grandma that he loved her in all their 50+ years of marriage, but I could tell by the little things he did for her that he loved her very much.
I believe that, as the saying goes, actions speak louder than words. However, that doesn't mean that I don't want to hear the words once in a while.
Thoughts?
Is it important for you to hear these words from your loved ones?
What's your time frame for using them when you're in a new relationship?
My husband and I say "I love you" to each other several times a day, usually when he's leaving for work or we're talking to each other on the phone. We tend to say it a lot, both to each other and the kids, but I wouldn't say we overuse it, if there is such a thing. (Though I suppose it's possible to say the words automatically when the actual feelings are long gone, but I've never had that experience.)
I was wondering if saying (or not) "I love you" to your SO and/or other family members depends on when you were raised. I don't know that some of my older family members have ever said this to each other, even if they do, in fact, love each other and show it in other ways.
For example, my grandfather was born in the early 20's. When he died a few years back, I started feeling really guilty about the fact that we never said "I love you" to each other. I whispered it to him at the funeral, but I never said it to him when he was alive.
Some time after his funeral, when my emotions were a little less raw, I was thinking about this, and I started feeling less guilty. We both knew that we loved each other, even if we didn't say it; it was evident in our actions. I don't know that he told my grandma that he loved her in all their 50+ years of marriage, but I could tell by the little things he did for her that he loved her very much.
I believe that, as the saying goes, actions speak louder than words. However, that doesn't mean that I don't want to hear the words once in a while.
Thoughts?