I lost another true friend....

[sufisaint]

but that is what works for you

perhaps it doesnt work for her.

Perhaps your right...without any daily help and encouragement, no alternatives, the ones who supposedly love you telling you your not right, maybe it was a last resort for her. But that beautiful person I knew was just gone..its a shame..I hope she comes back to life... This world needs more compassionate gentle souls..we have enough "normal" or average people.

 

[MissTaken]

Based on your brief reference to her husband, it sounds as though he is the catalyst and potentially the one who need therapy.

He "forced" her to do this?
If that is indeed the case....they gots big problems.

As for the medication issue, SSRI's are great tools when used properly. They should never stop one from crying as self expression. They should only stabilize the body's chemical make up so that the crying is well founded, not over every little thing.

When SSRI's are properly prescribed, they can make a vast difference in the quality of life of the person struggling with anxiety adn depression.

When any drug is misprescribed, the risks are many.

Yes, it is too bad she didn't try therapy first, or even marital counseling.

Again, Paxil should not change who she is or stop her from emoting. If it does, it is absolutely NOT the treatment of choice.

Frankly, you talk about the joyous person she was....that shouldn't have gone away at all. In fact, she should be finding more joy.

 

[va_angel2u]

. Well, talking to her last night was talking to like another person She was like a mindless feelingless robot who was obsesed with suburban life. I ask her, in a nice way, what has changed. Her answer, her now husband, who was tired of her "moodiness" urged her to go see a HMO psychologist/psychiatrist and of course was put on paxel ( I think) right away

I agree. Our society tells us that emotions are wrong. Our emotions arnt wrong, how we express them at times CAN BE. I also think our medical society OVER prescribes MOST drugs. Look at that diet pill that was out a few yrs ago (phin fin sp??). It was designed for the severly obese to help them lose weight. It was rushed through the fda and dr's were prescribing it for those only like 10-20 lbs over. They will do 1/2 way testing and jump to conclusions and rush on off.

 

[naudiz]

Based on your brief reference to her husband, it sounds as though he is the catalyst and potentially the one who need therapy.

He "forced" her to do this?
If that is indeed the case....they gots big problems.

As for the medication issue, SSRI's are great tools when used properly. They should never stop one from crying as self expression. They should only stabilize the body's chemical make up so that the crying is well founded, not over every little thing.

When SSRI's are properly prescribed, they can make a vast difference in the quality of life of the person struggling with anxiety adn depression.

When any drug is misprescribed, the risks are many.

Yes, it is too bad she didn't try therapy first, or even marital counseling.

Again, Paxil should not change who she is or stop her from emoting. If it does, it is absolutely NOT the treatment of choice.

Frankly, you talk about the joyous person she was....that shouldn't have gone away at all. In fact, she should be finding more joy.

Well said, all of this. Understanding how SSRI's work is important,. Same deal with mental illness -- it's so misunderstood, and people react without having all the facts. Going through a tough time, being sad -- these are NOT the same as being clinically depressed with a need for medication to stabilize an imbalance in brain chemistry.

This is why I read and research and get informed. It's my body. You'd better believe I want to know what's going in it and why.

 

[Susano]

I think some people are too unbalanced to make it without drugs. You and your friend obviously aren't among these.

Paxil, in my experience, has been one of the worst drugs in existence. It has, in the words of its victims and their friends, turned them into "zombies." Also made them gain weight rapidly, and sleep 16 hours a day. There are better drugs to take, with fewer side effects, if she wants to continue with chemical help, whether for her husband or herself.