I like to be used

[Wildfetishes]

I have a fetish for being stood over and having my husband sternly tell me to suck his dick several times. I refuse a few times and he grabs my hair and forcefully(not violently) shoves it into my mouth. He sternly stares me down and tells me what he wants. Occasionally he will force it into my throat. I also enjoy having my pants and panties pulled off w/o my consent and being fingered until i'm wet enough to have him stick it in. I like to be choked, and fucked from behind. When he is done using my body I want him to nut inside me and clean it out with his tongue. I also have a thing for purposely slapping him around (as it turns him on). After slapping him around I want him to spank me and tear my pants and panties off and finger my hole till he can stick it in again.. Trouble is my husband is very SHY. We have touched on these issues and he is apprehensive about hurting me and I can not get off properly. How can I convince him that it is okay to be forceful with me? Violent and rough aren't my fetish so how can I teach him the difference?

 

[amofiga]

I have a fetish for being stood over and having my husband sternly tell me to suck his dick several times. I refuse a few times and he grabs my hair and forcefully(not violently) shoves it into my mouth. He sternly stares me down and tells me what he wants. Occasionally he will force it into my throat. I also enjoy having my pants and panties pulled off w/o my consent and being fingered until i'm wet enough to have him stick it in. I like to be choked, and fucked from behind. When he is done using my body I want him to nut inside me and clean it out with his tongue. I also have a thing for purposely slapping him around (as it turns him on). After slapping him around I want him to spank me and tear my pants and panties off and finger my hole till he can stick it in again.. Trouble is my husband is very SHY. We have touched on these issues and he is apprehensive about hurting me and I can not get off properly. How can I convince him that it is okay to be forceful with me? Violent and rough aren't my fetish so how can I teach him the difference?

Perhaps, if you have a "safe" word with him that you can use if he really starts going beyond what you yourself want, maybe he'll feel more comfortable with pushing the limit. I once had a lady friend who was much more into rougher sex than I was and even told me I was too vanilla for her. Then we talked about safe words and I understood that I could keep going to give her what she really wanted and knew that she would call the shots. It was easier for me to go beyond what "I" thought was a limit and knew that "she" would let me know when it was too much. I was the one that had to learn to trust her and frankly, I found that playing the dom role let me learn more about my own sexuality as well as hers and other women's.

Maybe you can find some books or videos that touch on the sort of thing you want and after watching them, maybe he won't feel as shy about these sorts of things. Good luck.

 

[analgirl69]

I have a fetish for being stood over and having my husband sternly tell me to suck his dick several times. I refuse a few times and he grabs my hair and forcefully(not violently) shoves it into my mouth. He sternly stares me down and tells me what he wants. Occasionally he will force it into my throat. I also enjoy having my pants and panties pulled off w/o my consent and being fingered until i'm wet enough to have him stick it in. I like to be choked, and fucked from behind. When he is done using my body I want him to nut inside me and clean it out with his tongue. I also have a thing for purposely slapping him around (as it turns him on). After slapping him around I want him to spank me and tear my pants and panties off and finger my hole till he can stick it in again.. Trouble is my husband is very SHY. We have touched on these issues and he is apprehensive about hurting me and I can not get off properly. How can I convince him that it is okay to be forceful with me? Violent and rough aren't my fetish so how can I teach him the difference?

Same thing here... and he is shy too. So can't help. Sorry. Mine's done a bit but if he doesn't truly enjoy it, you probably won't enjoy it when he forces himself to do it for your sake. We just do the things my hubby likes. If you can get him horny enough by living out his fantasies( I searched his porn history..lol) then you might inspire him to be more aggressive and he might get horny enough that the animal inside takes over a bit and he gets a little more dominating. (Worked better than anything else for me. )

Good luck.

 

[RaynieJ]

I'm a little like you in that I like it rough. I've had guys be afraid to hurt me. I always tell them: "if I'm not saying OW, then it doesn't hurt me, so proceed as you wish until I say otherwise."

 

[hunter303073]

Aggressive

You might even go as far to show him how rough you want to be treated. It may be easier to demonstrate on him until he understands. Choke him with the same force you like and it will better help him. I am sure this will help him get over his fear of hurting you. He just respects you

 

[Ellafun]

Communicate, communicate, communicate. If you can find a porn video(s) that have the elements that you most want him to do with you, ask him to watch them with you. Talk about your limits and boundaries. If you can't seem to have a conversation with him, write it down and let him read it. Have him read this thread!

He needs to trust you, you need to trust him. But bottom line...communicate with each other!!! Good luck!

 

[Edensgarden]

I have a fetish for being stood over and having my husband sternly tell me to suck his dick several times. I refuse a few times and he grabs my hair and forcefully(not violently) shoves it into my mouth. He sternly stares me down and tells me what he wants. Occasionally he will force it into my throat. I also enjoy having my pants and panties pulled off w/o my consent and being fingered until i'm wet enough to have him stick it in. I like to be choked, and fucked from behind. When he is done using my body I want him to nut inside me and clean it out with his tongue. I also have a thing for purposely slapping him around (as it turns him on). After slapping him around I want him to spank me and tear my pants and panties off and finger my hole till he can stick it in again.. Trouble is my husband is very SHY. We have touched on these issues and he is apprehensive about hurting me and I can not get off properly. How can I convince him that it is okay to be forceful with me? Violent and rough aren't my fetish so how can I teach him the difference?

I may be way off base here, but you sound like a dude to me. I have never heard a woman refer to having an orgasm as "nut". I have only heard it out of the mouths of men. Your other post sounds very masculine also and you refer to "nutting" once again.

Hope I don't offend.....just making an observation.

 

[JustaSCOUNDREL]

You might try the traffic light safe words. He asks how you are doing. If you say green that means no problems. If you need to slow down or have him lighten up a bit, you say yellow. Red means stop now!

You can say red or yellow any time you need. He may be more willing to play your way once he is sure he is not really hurting you.

Mike

 

[Wildfetishes]

Lol. I am indeed a female. I need not to shy if i was a homosexual male here. We all seem to be pretty open. I just like the term "nut" I am also sexually attracted to women, which explains a little about my other post. I would love to please a woman that wasn't allowed to touch me back.

 

[Quantified]

Just for the record, my wife uses the word "nut" to describe her orgasms at times.

 

[Quantified]

Also, on topic, my wife has some of the same desires. She loves getting face-fucked. The harder the better. It took me a while to feel comfortable doing that at all. Even now, maybe four years after her initial request, I'm lukewarm at best.

It's not so much that I'm worried about hurting her. I just hate the sensation of teeth on my cock. And, you know, that position will lead to abrasions if performed with appropriate aggression. Maybe not today or tomorrow. But that day is coming.

Meanwhile, I am not. (At least not from that position.)