I just don't understand women.

[saxyman26]

Why do women flirt with a man, get him all interested, then walk away, ignore him completely and flirt with other men?

Are they trying to wind him all up? Are they just flirting for the attention and to make themselves feel good? Do they even care that a man might get his hopes up about actually having a chance with someone for a change, only to realize that these women who flirt with him are just stringing him along?

Ladies, what is up with that?

 

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[MR.GGG]

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Why do women flirt with a man?

Mystifying it is and just between the deux of us I don't think THEY know most of the time. When they look surprised and say, "I don't know what you're talking about." They are LYING but many women are like cats - you know - they roll on their backs and purr invite a tummy rub and after a sec of what they appear to be enjoying they're on that hand and arm like it was a rattler ... teeth - claws - battle to the death.

and an hour later they'll do it again.

Even more perplexing is that most of the time no matter how badly they've shredded and bitten us before we still fall for it and try and rub that tummy the next time.

 

[Miles Long]

Yeah, and why don't they lose some weight once in a while?

 

[saxyman26]

Not knowing the specific woman you are talking about, I would say that some women are just flirts. I have a good friend who is unbelievably flirtatious; she's in her late 30's and has only just come to realize that she's led men on. It ultimately cost her her marriage; her husband was always suspicious of her behavior. I think she really enjoyed the attention from all the men, that it made her feel important and desirable. She never really thought about how her behavior was making others feel.

I'm not talking about one woman in particular... I'm talking about many.

And to clarify - this is not a "dump on women" thread. I love women (although that love for women is being matched by an equally powerful hate for the games they play), and so I'd appreciate if people like Miles Long above don't use this thread to be assholes.

 

[Miles Long]

I'm not talking about one woman in particular... I'm talking about many.

And to clarify - this is not a "dump on women" thread. I love women (although that love for women is being matched by an equally powerful hate for the games they play), and so I'd appreciate if people like Miles Long above don't use this thread to be assholes.

If it makes you feel any better I'm an asshole on every thread I use.

Lighten up man, I was just trying to give you a laugh. Please accept this emoticon flower as a token of my apology.

 

[monkishgirl]

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[wanderinjoekidd]

I think death comes to a man at a certain pr-arranged time. And a full 30 seconds before that time, the key to understanding women is revealed.

 

[Rob1514]

Try not to take it so seriously, it's just flirting. Most men love it, because they understand that it is just someone being playful and fun. Some women (and some men) are so good, it's a sight to behold . Lit women are masters of it .

It's meant to be fun, so flirt back and if you want to see if it's anything more than just flirting, then push it a little. She likes you enough to flirt with you, but that doesn't always mean she'll get naked for ya. Good luck.

 

[kfoster1515]

I have to admit that I'm very friendly. My friends say I have yet to meet a stranger. I just like meeting people and hearing their stories. It doesn't always mean I'm flirting.

 

[RedButterflySlut]

Why do men want to sleep with nice girls and not date them?
Why are there so many men that have no interest in a girl unless they're going to have sex with them?
Why do so many men not view women as viable options for friendships, only dating or a hook-up?
Why do some men want to treat girls as disposable?
Why are men programmed to be more visual than ladies?
Why do men show intense interest in a girl and suddenly drop her?
The sexes really aren't that different.

The reason why girls flirt changes from girl to girl. I flirt a lot with my male friends, but it's normally harmless. With a few of my best friends, it's the only way I know how to communicate fluidly. I'm attracted so I show it, but that doesn't necessarily mean that the attraction has to be acted upon.

Sometimes I'll be genuinely interested in a man at first, but learn that we really aren't a good match so I back away. A lot of girls do that, and telling a guy why you're not interested NEVER turns out well. In my experience, guys have taken it as a great insult and react emotionally violently, they try to take it out on me or send me tons of obsessive emails asking what they could have done differently or try to 'bargain' that they can be the type of guy I want. So instead, I try to discreetly back down.
Maybe she gave the idea of dating you a chance, but chemistry didn't develop. Maybe it's the only way she knows how to talk. Girls are given a lot of pressure to act a certain way.

There was a study done a while ago about men's perception of flirty women, a high percentage of men thought that the woman was flirting by her body language while in reality the girl had no interest. To them, they where just being friendly but the man perceived her actions as sexual attraction. The girl's eyes would dilate at a funny joke or gesture of kindness, and the guy would perceive it as a sign of attraction instead of just a funny joke or response to kindness.

 

[sweet_secrets4u]

^^ Very well written RedButterflySlut ^^

Chasing your prey is a time honored tradition for predators be they male or female. The prey, be they male or female, uses their allure, charm, along with mode of dress, make up, etc as an allure to entice said predator.

For some it is in the thrill of the chase. For others it is the thrill of being chased.

You, the chaser spotted your prey, led in by what ever it was that attracted you to the chase. That person let you know that your one hot fuck they would really like to know better.

You let the chase know that ‘they still go it’ and enjoyed the chase as it unfolded.

For some this goes further (wink wink), for others, they back away when it becomes more serious because of other reasons unknown to the predator. They may be married, engaged, newly separated, yet uncertain to go that extra because she is still finding herself after living with the deadhead prick she was with before who sucked the life force out of her. She may even have children, and uncomfortable in having explain why Uncle Dick, who they never seen before, slept over that night, in her bed.

Keep a look out for that elusive prey, she is out there, and waiting to be caught.

Even the prey get a raw deal because the predator who was chasing them, has to be home by 10 or the cold hearted sexless bitch of a wife makes his life a living hell with her whining.

 

[fgarvb1]

It's a power all females have to some extent.

Some enjoy exercising it more than others.

 

[dollface007]

My first thought was: I can't even count the number of GUYS that have done this to me.

Try lightening up about it. It's flirting, it's not a marriage proposal, and you are not entitled to ANYTHING from a woman no matter who she is or how much she flirts with you. Nada. Zero. Zip. Maybe some women are picking up on your super intense energy and get spooked by it.

 

[Miles Long]

There was a study done a while ago about men's perception of flirty women, a high percentage of men thought that the woman was flirting by her body language while in reality the girl had no interest. To them, they where just being friendly but the man perceived her actions as sexual attraction. The girl's eyes would dilate at a funny joke or gesture of kindness, and the guy would perceive it as a sign of attraction instead of just a funny joke or response to kindness.

I think I saw a story about that same study, or one very similar. What they found was men thought a woman was flirting when she was just being friendly and thought she was just being friendly when she was actually interested. Women were better at telling which men were interested and which were just being friendly, but they weren't better by much. The study's authors concluded that both men and women were pretty bad at telling the difference.

 

[RedButterflySlut]

I think I saw a story about that same study, or one very similar. What they found was men thought a woman was flirting when she was just being friendly and thought she was just being friendly when she was actually interested. Women were better at telling which men were interested and which were just being friendly, but they weren't better by much. The study's authors concluded that both men and women were pretty bad at telling the difference.

I wish I could find the article, we're probably talking about the same one.
For both sexes, I think humans are wired to see what they want to rather than the reality of a situation. I'm no fan of romantic comedies or the like, but "He's Just Not That Into You" has a lot of valid points for everyone.

 

[sereneone4u]

I think I saw a story about that same study, or one very similar. What they found was men thought a woman was flirting when she was just being friendly and thought she was just being friendly when she was actually interested. Women were better at telling which men were interested and which were just being friendly, but they weren't better by much. The study's authors concluded that both men and women were pretty bad at telling the difference.

I agree....I had a guy on here think I was showing him interest because I put a flower--at the end of my nope in the Have You Talked Dirty To the Person Above you thread....I was just trying to add something because it has to be five letters so I picked a rose...but he thought it was a signal that I was in to him...

You may just be confusing friendliness with flirtiness, or mistake casual flirting for something more....

 

[Miles Long]

I wish I could find the article, we're probably talking about the same one.
For both sexes, I think humans are wired to see what they want to rather than the reality of a situation. I'm no fan of romantic comedies or the like, but "He's Just Not That Into You" has a lot of valid points for everyone.

But doesn't he turn out, in fact, to be into her by the end of the story? I never read it or watched it, so I'm going on hearsay. Couldn't they have called it He's Just Not That Into You... Or Wait Maybe He Is Eventually! It is true, though, that sometimes a man or a woman just isn't into the other person for whatever reason (or no reason at all). And trying to reason out the reason is an unreasonable proposition at best (within reason, obviously). I don't know where I was going with that, but I think you're right that often when it comes to flirting we see what we want to see. Thank God for alcohol.

 

[Miles Long]

I agree....I had a guy on here think I was showing him interest because I put a flower--at the end of my nope in the Have You Talked Dirty To the Person Above you thread....I was just trying to add something because it has to be five letters so I picked a rose...but he thought it was a signal that I was in to him...

You may just be confusing friendliness with flirtiness, or mistake casual flirting for something more....

This obviously means you want to have wild sex with me, but please respect my boundaries.

 

[Miles Long]

On the flip side of all this...

To the OP: there have probably been several women out there who thought you were flirting with them and couldn't understand why you didn't try to sleep with them. They went home to their cats and their complete seasons of Friends DVDs and wondered why you flirted with them all night and then moved on to another woman.

I get your frustration, but I think women are probably equally frustrated with us. We all just have to learn to relax and enjoy the interactions and know that sometimes we make a connection and sometimes we find out we thought we made one but ultimately did not.

 

[RedButterflySlut]

But doesn't he turn out, in fact, to be into her by the end of the story? I never read it or watched it, so I'm going on hearsay. Couldn't they have called it He's Just Not That Into You... Or Wait Maybe He Is Eventually! It is true, though, that sometimes a man or a woman just isn't into the other person for whatever reason (or no reason at all). And trying to reason out the reason is an unreasonable proposition at best (within reason, obviously). I don't know where I was going with that, but I think you're right that often when it comes to flirting we see what we want to see. Thank God for alcohol.

Haha. I suppose someone could misunderstand the movie and what it was saying, but I really REALLY hope that's not the message most people got.
The message was "He's not that into you, but that's okay. Some other dude will be. You'll find him."

 

[sereneone4u]

This obviously means you want to have wild sex with me, but please respect my boundaries.

I do want to have wild sex with you...but you have to talk in a faux British accent and bring cheese.

 

[Miles Long]

Haha. I suppose someone could misunderstand the movie and what it was saying, but I really REALLY hope that's not the message most people got.
The message was "He's not that into you, but that's okay. Some other dude will be. You'll find him."

My chances of understanding it are pretty slim seeing as how I've never watched it.

I do want to have wild sex with you...but you have to talk in a faux British accent and bring cheese.

That is one of the weirdest yet nicest things anyone has ever said to me.

 

[sereneone4u]

My chances of understanding it are pretty slim seeing as how I've never watched it.



That is one of the weirdest yet nicest things anyone has ever said to me.

I am GOOD like that.

 

[fgarvb1]

I've been teased so much in my life that I require a woman to either come right out and say what she wants or kiss me before I take her seriously.