I have a question, I need some good advice

[sarah100]

Hi all,
I just received some odd information from my boyfriend. Earlier tonight he informed me that he likes to wear women’s lingerie. Somehow that wasn’t a total surprise to me. He has always liked shopping with me when I am buying lingerie. He also told me tonight that he wants us to have a threesome with another man. Again we have talked about having one for a while, so basically I told him it was fine with me, I want to have a threesome, so I was ok with that. Then my boyfriend told me he had one condition for our threesome. He said for one night he wants to feel like a cuckold. I never gave him an answer to his condition. I was wondering if anybody had any thoughts or advice they could give me. If you do, please send me an email or a pm. Thanks.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

He said for one night he wants to feel like a cuckold.

Call me silly, but what is a 'cuckold' ??????

 

[Debbie]

Re: Re: I have a question, I need some good advice

Call me silly, but what is a 'cuckold' ??????

Definitions of cuckold:


noun: a man whose wife committed adultery
verb: be sexually unfaithful to one's partner in marriage

 

[Rubyfruit]

Word History: The allusion to the cuckoo on which the word cuckold is based may not be appreciated by those unfamiliar with the nesting habits of certain varieties of this bird. The female of some Old World cuckoos lays its eggs in the nests of other birds, leaving them to be cared for by the resident nesters. This parasitic tendency has given the female bird a figurative reputation for unfaithfulness as well. Hence in Old French we find the word cucuault, composed of cocu, “cuckoo, cuckold,” and the pejorative suffix -ald and used to designate a husband whose wife has wandered afield like the female cuckoo. An earlier assumed form of the Old French word was borrowed into Middle English by way of Anglo-Norman. Middle English cokewold, the ancestor of Modern English cuckold, is first recorded in a work written around 1250.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

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normally used in the context of a man finding sexual gratification at his wife cheating and making him knowledgeable of it or having him watch...

Ah, thanks

Sarah, only do it if you are comfortable doing it..... if he truely cares for you he will not 'make' you do it if you don't want to.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Should I tell her I copy and pasted that from Dictionary.com before or after I kiss her?

 

[fanzee1]

Hi all,
I just received some odd information from my boyfriend. Earlier tonight he informed me that he likes to wear women’s lingerie. Somehow that wasn’t a total surprise to me. He has always liked shopping with me when I am buying lingerie. He also told me tonight that he wants us to have a threesome with another man. Again we have talked about having one for a while, so basically I told him it was fine with me, I want to have a threesome, so I was ok with that. Then my boyfriend told me he had one condition for our threesome. He said for one night he wants to feel like a cuckold. I never gave him an answer to his condition. I was wondering if anybody had any thoughts or advice they could give me. If you do, please send me an email or a pm. Thanks.

If it turns you on and you are comfortable w/the whole thing and don't think it'll be a problem during or after, then do it.

It doesn't sound like that's the case though, does it? And if it's not, then (and this is the key part) tell your bf BEFORE YOU DO IT. Then you two can talk about it or whatever, get your concerns out in the open and maybe you'll decide you want to do it or maybe you won't. Either way, fine, you've worked it out together. Just don't do it despite your reservations and act like you're all cool with it and then wig out because it's actually a big issue for you. Talk about it FIRST. No, you can't predict everything you are going to feel during or after a new sexual experience, so a discussion ahead of time is no guarantee of anything but it's about the only way to get an idea about how you and your SO will react.

It seems obvious from your post that this is an important relationship to you and it is equally obvious that his request has raised some issues. Talk about it. You'll both be glad you did.

 

[Nora]

One other thing to keep in mind is that fetishes have a tendency to escalate.

 

[Rubyfruit]

*laughing*

Yeah, be careful. I've heard that three-ways are just a gateway sex act to orgies.

The things I would do to you, Kalli. Ummm.

 

[fanzee1]

Word History: The allusion to the cuckoo on which the word cuckold is based may not be appreciated by those unfamiliar with the nesting habits of certain varieties of this bird. The female of some Old World cuckoos lays its eggs in the nests of other birds, leaving them to be cared for by the resident nesters. This parasitic tendency has given the female bird a figurative reputation for unfaithfulness as well. Hence in Old French we find the word cucuault, composed of cocu, “cuckoo, cuckold,” and the pejorative suffix -ald and used to designate a husband whose wife has wandered afield like the female cuckoo. An earlier assumed form of the Old French word was borrowed into Middle English by way of Anglo-Norman. Middle English cokewold, the ancestor of Modern English cuckold, is first recorded in a work written around 1250.

...and James Joyce picked up on the words etymology, and the obvious similarity in the sound and look of the words cuckoo and cuckold, in his classic Ulysses. "Cuckoo, Cuckoo, Cuckoo" the birds sing, at the hour when Leopold Bloom knows his wife Molly will be cuckolding him with a rather verile gentleman named Blazes Boylan.

 

[Nora]

*laughing*

Yeah, be careful. I've heard that three-ways are just a gateway sex act to orgies.

The things I would do to you, Kalli. Ummm.

shaaaaaadup! lol I mean that he may want to progress his fetish in ways that make her more uncomfortable than she already is.

 

[fanzee1]

One other thing to keep in mind is that fetishes have a tendency to escalate.

yes but unpredictably so, meaning, he may just want more and more folks in bed, or his true fetish may be humiliation (thus the cuckolding) or some other aspect of the three-way, which could take him in all kinds of directions. Another reason to TALK!!!! first.

 

[Weird Harold]

Re: Re: I have a question, I need some good advice

If it turns you on and you are comfortable w/the whole thing and don't think it'll be a problem during or after, then do it.

It doesn't sound like that's the case though, does it? And if it's not, then (and this is the key part) tell your bf BEFORE YOU DO IT. ...

You've been digging around in my big box of answers again, haven't you? I do think you said it better than I could this time.

 

[fanzee1]

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You've been digging around in my big box of answers again, haven't you? I do think you said it better than I could this time.

damnit harold! how'd you know it was me? I wore the plastic gloves this time and everything.

 

[LordOfDarkness]

the man is sick. i would never share someone i love.

 

[lilminx]

the man is sick. i would never share someone i love.

Why does that make him sick? Just because you personally wouldn't want to do it does not mean that anyone else who does do it is sick.

Some people like sharing their partner because they love to watch thier partner fully enjoying themselves with someone. I should only be so lucky to find someone like that.

 

[patient1]

As a general rule, I don't think it's good to assume that just because you find somebody else's fantasy/fetish borring or disgusting, that there is something wrong with them as opposed to you, as opposed it being normal differences between people to like different things.

Just because I find golf borring/disgusting, & a waste of my time & money, doesn't mean that it doesn't do a lot of others a lot of good.

 

[tonyp]

I think it is really nice that he lets you know that he enjoys wearing soft things...this is really something that you could explore..the other side is quite interesting and in reality he is possibly bi or gay.... but hey it might fun to find out and if you don't do it with him then he is likely to do it without you..

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

Interesting stuff.

Not every man who wants or likes to see their wife or girlfriend with other men is a cuckold. I myself am a very sexual person, and I love the fact that my wife and I can be open enough to share each other with others. We both feel that life is too short, and we both admitted that we have sexual attraction to others, so we decided to open our marriage.

Cuckold's generally are men that not only "watch", but they are also degraded. They are made to fetch drinks, prepare the woman beforehand, clean up the woman afterwards etc... Basically an extreme submissive. From what I read on this hot wives forum http://www.adultcommunitiesonline.com/forums/hotwives/index.html the term "cuckold" was derived from two words, cock and hold...melded together, the extreme form of submission? Maybe they didn't have their facts straight, but it sounds interesting.

 

[tonyp]

does that include my fantacy of being a waiter with only an apron on..LOL