I hate breaking someones heart

[Devilish1]

I just broke up with my boyfriend of almost 8 months.
Ive been wanting this for so long.So tonight he decided to stay at the firestation so we could talk online. Over the weekend he wrote me a long letter telling me after 8 months he was worried that he was never going to hear thoses 3 lil words.
He brought the letter up tonight. Thinking this was my chance to talk to him about how i was feeling. I told him i loved him..... but not in the same way that he loves me and after 8 months i dont think i ever would.
He started telling me how he would never love again, asking me why he cant find someone to love him just as he is.

I hate breaking his heart. But the realtionship was killing me, slowly.

Im feeling a little of mix emotions right now. Happy and sad at the same time.

Now i have to pack the things hes left here at my house and have them ready for him to pick up one night.
This is going to kill my 6 yr old son who tells him everytime he see or talks to him on the phone that he loves him.

I hate how im feeling right now..... I just want to cry.

 

[Guest]

 

[bored1]

As the old song says,Breaking up is hard to do. It is not easy on either person. The guilt one feels knowing that they have hurt someone who cares deeply for them can be just as devastating as the pain the other person is feeling knowing they have been rejected. Go ahead and cry, It will make you feel better. Hope all goes well.

 

[mistressastra]

You have to do what your heart tells you. In most cases, it will be right.

 

[Devilish1]

As the old song says,Breaking up is hard to do. It is not easy on either person. The guilt one feels knowing that they have hurt someone who cares deeply for them can be just as devastating as the pain the other person is feeling knowing they have been rejected. Go ahead and cry, It will make you feel better. Hope all goes well.

But this is something ive been wanting for months now... and it finally happened. It wasnt this hard on me when i told my ex-husband i wanted a divorce.


Now how do i tell my son that his best buddie wont be around anymore????????? God i just want to cry my heart out.
WHY do i want to cry? This is driving me nuts.
I know he will call me later in the night and be crying. i cant handle it if hes crying.

 

[Guest]

you deserve every bit of pain you feel for what you did. how can people give up someone who loves them is something i will never understand. i hope the next guy you get does exactly what you did to your boyfriend. i hope you love him deeply but he doesn't love you and leaves you curled up in the corner sobbing. maybe then you will see someone loving you deeply isn't something you toss away.

 

[Devilish1]

you deserve every bit of pain you feel for what you did. how can people give up someone who loves them is something i will never understand. i hope the next guy you get does exactly what you did to your boyfriend. i hope you love him deeply but he doesn't love you and leaves you curled up in the corner sobbing. maybe then you will see someone loving you deeply isn't something you toss away.

Now wait a DAMN minute. I didnt say i was giving him up because he loved me.... There is ALOT of things that was going on in the realtionsip that i couldnt handle.

I deserve every bit of pain im feeling? Well For your infomation, I am feeling pain. I did try for 8 months to feel the same that he does for me.
Dont TALK to me about pain..... cause im feeling it too!
You sure are brave to come here and not show a Id and run someone down that you have no EARTHLY idea what i have gone through.

Damn jerk!

 

[Guest]

Now wait a DAMN minute. I didnt say i was giving him up because he loved me.... There is ALOT of things that was going on in the realtionsip that i couldnt handle.

I deserve every bit of pain im feeling? Well For your infomation, I am feeling pain. I did try for 8 months to feel the same that he does for me.
Dont TALK to me about pain..... cause im feeling it too!
You sure are brave to come here and not show a Id and run someone down that you have no EARTHLY idea what i have gone through.

Damn jerk!

you don't deserve anyone until you get rid of your me me me attitude. you let your kid get close to some guy you know you are going to dump, what kind of mother are you? what number was this guy that you let your kid get close with before dumping him? number 10? give your kid to your ex, he will probaly treat him better than you do.

 

[Leathered]

You did the right thing, I think that it's better to have let him down now than to carry on living a lie.

The pain that you're feeling will go eventually.

I found that it was a mixture of what I had done to her and self pity because I knew I was alone again.

But she's now happily married with a georgeous little boy.

And me well I'm still single.

 

[freakygirl]

 

[Laurel]

Unreg, quit projecting your own past problems on someone you don't even know.

Devilish1, be as kind as you can while still doing what is healthiest and best for you. Don't stay in a relationship for someone else. That's no good for either of you. If he's mature, he'll understand this and won't want to be in a relationship with you if you;re not happy. If he's immature and selfish and wants to keep you where you don't want to be, he doesn't have you best interests at heart.

 

[Devilish1]

you don't deserve anyone until you get rid of your me me me attitude. you let your kid get close to some guy you know you are going to dump, what kind of mother are you? what number was this guy that you let your kid get close with before dumping him? number 10? give your kid to your ex, he will probaly treat him better than you do.

Oh i know i should just leave this alone but i need to tell this jerk off!!!!!

Me attitude? HA! I have been dating this man for 8 months. Most people when they are in a realtionship after 8 months of dating they let their children around the one they are dating.
What kind of mother am i? A damn good one! My son is right where he needs to be. with me and not with his father.

What rights do you have to give advise to something you have no idea what was going on in the 8 month realtionship?


Your still a Damn Jerk!

 

[freakygirl]

Is it possible that "unregistered" is the ex boyfriend?

 

[Up Too Late]

[QUOTE
I hate breaking his heart. But the realtionship was killing me, slowly.

Im feeling a little of mix emotions right now. Happy and sad at the same time.

I hate how im feeling right now..... I just want to cry.
[/B][/QUOTE]


I'm so sorry to hear that, but sometimes you have to do what's best for you. Yeah you've heard it before, and so have I. Just something we have to keep reminding ourselves I guess.
If you run out of shoulders I've got some...

Best wishes.

 

[Devilish1]

Unreg, quit projecting your own past problems on someone you don't even know.

Devilish1, be as kind as you can while still doing what is healthiest and best for you. Don't stay in a relationship for someone else. That's no good for either of you. If he's mature, he'll understand this and won't want to be in a relationship with you if you;re not happy. If he's immature and selfish and wants to keep you where you don't want to be, he doesn't have you best interests at heart.

Thank you Laurel.

I think i did what was best.. for ALL of us. I think the longer i stay with him knowing im never going to fall in love with him was doing more damage to all of us. US being me and my son and the BF.

I have even thought about staying with him, lieing and telling him what he wants to hear, for the sake of my son.
My son would have a father figure in his life.( his dad is... not a good father figure, hes still learning to be a father) BF already told me i wouldnt have to work. I could keep my best friend who happens to be a man. He said he would give me and my son the world. But i cant be with a man just because my son likes him.
What if i married him and somewhere down the road i couldnt handle being with him. Wanting more? There my son and i would be. Alone again and not happy.
I can do alot of things for my sons sake. but staying with a man that i dont love is something i cant do.
Thats not fair to either of us.

 

[Devilish1]

Is it possible that "unregistered" is the ex boyfriend?

could be... he knows i come here. but i dont know if he ever knew what the name of this place was called.
If its him.... he needs to grow up and stop CRYING!

 

[Guest]

Oh i know i should just leave this alone but i need to tell this jerk off!!!!!

Me attitude? HA! I have been dating this man for 8 months. Most people when they are in a realtionship after 8 months of dating they let their children around the one they are dating.
What kind of mother am i? A damn good one! My son is right where he needs to be. with me and not with his father.

What rights do you have to give advise to something you have no idea what was going on in the 8 month realtionship?


Your still a Damn Jerk!

you still dont seem to get it. you're the jerk here because you already admitted you knew it wasnt going to work out between the 2 of you months before today but you still let your kid develop feelings for the guy. think about your fucking kid before you think about yourself. you knew you didnt love the guy but you strung him and you son along because you "couldnt find the right time to tell him i didnt feel the same as he did". that is what makes you selfish, a bitch and the real jerk off. and i still think he should be with his father instead of an uncaring mother who only thinks of the itch in her cunt.

 

[Laurel]

you still dont seem to get it. you're the jerk here because you already admitted you knew it wasnt going to work out between the 2 of you months before today but you still let your kid develop feelings for the guy. think about your fucking kid before you think about yourself. you knew you didnt love the guy but you strung him and you son along because you "couldnt find the right time to tell him i didnt feel the same as he did". that is what makes you selfish, a bitch and the real jerk off. and i still think he should be with his father instead of an uncaring mother who only thinks of the itch in her cunt.

You know, counseling would probably help you work out all that deep-seated misplaced anger you're feeling.

 

[Devilish1]

you still dont seem to get it. you're the jerk here because you already admitted you knew it wasnt going to work out between the 2 of you months before today but you still let your kid develop feelings for the guy. think about your fucking kid before you think about yourself. you knew you didnt love the guy but you strung him and you son along because you "couldnt find the right time to tell him i didnt feel the same as he did". that is what makes you selfish, a bitch and the real jerk off. and i still think he should be with his father instead of an uncaring mother who only thinks of the itch in her cunt.

Maybe you didnt read all of what i said, i said in the 8 months i DID try to feel the same as he did me.

Who said i couldnt find the right time to tell him????? I dont remember saying that.

I agree with Laurel, you need counseling. Dont they have free counseling where your from?

 

[Wrong Element]

Unregistered, you're a miserable human being.

Devilish1, as someone who has been on the receiving end of what might be termed cowardly breakups, my opinion is that since there's no way to unilaterally end a relationship without causing short-run pain, you might as well be honest with the guy. It sounds like you did the hard but necessary thing for yourself--and if you aren't in love, you did the best thing for him too. He may appreciate that in time.

 

[Devilish1]

Re: Re: I hate breaking someones heart

[QUOTE
I hate breaking his heart. But the realtionship was killing me, slowly.

Im feeling a little of mix emotions right now. Happy and sad at the same time.

I hate how im feeling right now..... I just want to cry.

I'm so sorry to hear that, but sometimes you have to do what's best for you. Yeah you've heard it before, and so have I. Just something we have to keep reminding ourselves I guess.
If you run out of shoulders I've got some...

Best wishes.
[/B][/QUOTE]

Thanks Up Too Late.

 

[Guest]

I just broke up with my boyfriend of almost 8 months.
Ive been wanting this for so long.

Thinking this was my chance to talk to him about how i was feeling. I told him i loved him..... but not in the same way that he loves me and after 8 months i dont think i ever would.

But this is something ive been wanting for months now...

so wrong element was wrong. you are the miserable human being for putting your child through growing attacted to a man you knew wouldnt be there for long.

 

[scylis]

have i ever mentioned my "Pathetic, Immature, Vile, Little Sod" fee? basically, it's an incredably dirt cheap rate for hiring me to off somebody i'd like to kill anyway. normally, it's dinner at a good chinese resturaunt (i go out and eat and you refund me the bill), but for Lit people, i'll accept something else... oral sex.

 

[Devilish1]

have i ever mentioned my "Pathetic, Immature, Vile, Little Sod" fee? basically, it's an incredably dirt cheap rate for hiring me to off somebody i'd like to kill anyway. normally, it's dinner at a good chinese resturaunt (i go out and eat and you refund me the bill), but for Lit people, i'll accept something else... oral sex.

Your hired. You know who to hit right? LMAO

 

[scylis]

i have a fair idea, yeah.