i give up on it

[270buck]

I have had a fantasy for a while of my wife donimating me and taking control. I have told her about it and she just says maybe one day. I would like to be her slave where I would take care of her every need for a night or even a weekend, and some humilation. I am masculine, but thought of being made to wear lacy panties under clothes while at work or while working out in gym. That way she has control if when not around her. Having to do things in public (not to be seen by others). I have told her these things, emailed her, and texted her ideas i have, but no luck in it happening. So i guess i'll stop cause i don't want her to do anything she doesn't want to do. I can still think of it while stroking.

 

[Dearelliot]

I wouldnt stop trying...I found life was hectic it wasnt always e to manage role play ..Our best times may have been when on vacation..

 

[MiaPassion]

Buy her handcuffs

 

[FurryFury]

I know how you feel. I don't want my husband to do anything he doesn't want to either.

*hug*

 

[Dearelliot]

FurryFury Funny thing...now my wife would say those exact words...but she might ask me to turn the garden, repair the toilet, plant a tree...etc and I darn sure dont like to do any of them...so I wonder...if she means I wouldnt want my husband to anything I wouldnt want him to do..because she doesnt seem to have any probllem asking me to do thinngs she knows Id rather not do....

 

[FurryFury]

Idk, those things are often expected in a marriage whereas kink often is not.

Personally I rarely ask my husband to do anything. He is a grown man. I am not his mother.

He can do or not do as he sees fit. We are both lazy people that like to have fun so, I won't blame him for not cutting the grass again if he doesn't blame me for not scrubbing the house again.

 

[CutieMouse]

Maybe her idea of being her slave and "taking care of her every need" means getting what she wants or needs done, instead of being a puppet to fulfill your fantasies?

Your initial post was a list of your fantasies, wants, desires... I didn't see much about her fantasies, wants or desires. Maybe she feels pressured. Or nagged. Or like this is all about you.

I do apologize for being so harsh here... I don't generally believe it's fair to ask a partner to change who they are or play a role, just because a submissive wants them to be dominant. What if she came to you asking you to be dominant for a weekend?

 

[Netzach]

My observation is that vanilla women expect men to be dominant or at least not-submissive every weekend.

OP, you may be totally screwed but have you tried making it a *fun* sexual quid pro quo instead of "you never do this thing I want?"

It sounds like you have some resentments banked. If you plan on not letting them get out of hand you may need to discuss this head on.