I don't understand any of this
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Croctden
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I’ve really tried to avoid posting here
I think perhaps this is made to be more complex than it needs to be. In the end I just enjoy dominating women. The control thrills. We’re not rapists, our subs chose to be there bending over. If you can accept the arguments of the subs without ranting they are mentally ill, what exactly is it about the reverse you struggle with? Because we hit?
Thank you Bunny for doing my work (good sub, have a Scooby Snack). Some Doms just want a fuck toy (all the time I mean, hell everyone wants one sometimes right?). Plenty of other times Doms want relationships with vibrant women who like cuffs and taking it in the ass. I would never date a doormat, there’s no sport to it. And sometimes I want to do something with my sub than just spank her. Again while not every Dom wants love, plenty do. If two peope both like D/s, why should they deny themselves that?
BTK51 said:
I think perhaps this is made to be more complex than it needs to be. In the end I just enjoy dominating women. The control thrills. We’re not rapists, our subs chose to be there bending over. If you can accept the arguments of the subs without ranting they are mentally ill, what exactly is it about the reverse you struggle with? Because we hit?
bunny bondage said:
Thank you Bunny for doing my work (good sub, have a Scooby Snack). Some Doms just want a fuck toy (all the time I mean, hell everyone wants one sometimes right?). Plenty of other times Doms want relationships with vibrant women who like cuffs and taking it in the ass. I would never date a doormat, there’s no sport to it. And sometimes I want to do something with my sub than just spank her. Again while not every Dom wants love, plenty do. If two peope both like D/s, why should they deny themselves that?
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Re: Thanks - Eating_Scarlet
i'll even be nice and give you the link, and where to start reading. We’re not a BDSM chat room - we are not *in role* here
As to my answer, think how far out of the "norm" those who don't practice "think" we live. Now ask yourself a simple question. How many discussions do you think we might require before we start beating on each other? Think we just do the "Me Tarzan, you jane," thingy "bend over bitch?" That, inquisitive one, we would label abuse, and something you might find a lot more prevalent in the non-BDSM world, although i'm not going down the generalization path with THIS crowd.
i'll pass on the cult comment. Oh hell no, i won't. Pardon the analogy, but most organized religions started out as "cults" in the eyes of the status quo. Most of them ended up persecuted in some form or fashion by the "norm" of the day. Most of them, in turn, persecute(d) any other non-conformist group that came after them once established. Get off that high horse in this forest, or you'll get knocked out of the saddle rather quickly.
The next part gets tricky. Both sides of the relationship work hard at the relationship. To some degree, most of us continually evolve in what we like and don't like. Most of us continue to grow, and i'm pretty sure, bluster aside, most of us haven't said, "Ok, i know it all." Look at a few more of the posts. A dominant pays very close attention to their partner. How could they not if they're responsible for varying degrees of that partner's life? THAT would smack of abusive as well.
Let me make it simple. You get into a relationship and find out you have nothing in common. You lose a little dignity, a little money, and maybe come away with a broken heart. If one of us does it, they might come away with a broken mind, broken body, or not come away at all. If you think we don't pay attention and talk, think again. Read more of the posts. We share information rather freely including how to's.
If you define selfish as "my way, or the highway," so be it. Better that than two years later having one partner say, "EWWWW, you like THAT?" Most of us frankly discuss what we like and don't like up front. If the puzzle pieces don't fit, they don't get put together.
Might want to read the sticky at the top of the forum.BTK51 said:
i'll even be nice and give you the link, and where to start reading. We’re not a BDSM chat room - we are not *in role* here
BTK51 said:
Very nice Etoile.Etoile said:
As to my answer, think how far out of the "norm" those who don't practice "think" we live. Now ask yourself a simple question. How many discussions do you think we might require before we start beating on each other? Think we just do the "Me Tarzan, you jane," thingy "bend over bitch?" That, inquisitive one, we would label abuse, and something you might find a lot more prevalent in the non-BDSM world, although i'm not going down the generalization path with THIS crowd.
i'll pass on the cult comment. Oh hell no, i won't. Pardon the analogy, but most organized religions started out as "cults" in the eyes of the status quo. Most of them ended up persecuted in some form or fashion by the "norm" of the day. Most of them, in turn, persecute(d) any other non-conformist group that came after them once established. Get off that high horse in this forest, or you'll get knocked out of the saddle rather quickly.
The next part gets tricky. Both sides of the relationship work hard at the relationship. To some degree, most of us continually evolve in what we like and don't like. Most of us continue to grow, and i'm pretty sure, bluster aside, most of us haven't said, "Ok, i know it all." Look at a few more of the posts. A dominant pays very close attention to their partner. How could they not if they're responsible for varying degrees of that partner's life? THAT would smack of abusive as well.
Let me make it simple. You get into a relationship and find out you have nothing in common. You lose a little dignity, a little money, and maybe come away with a broken heart. If one of us does it, they might come away with a broken mind, broken body, or not come away at all. If you think we don't pay attention and talk, think again. Read more of the posts. We share information rather freely including how to's.
Ebonyfire has made this point clear time and again. Think of a pair of puzzle pieces. If the two pieces obviously don't fit, Eb, pardon the loose quote, "shows them the door immediately." i may be mistaken, but i don't think she, nor any of the rest of us dive right into anything with a prospective partner either. The level of intensity in this kind of relationship precludes stupidity although it still happens.BTK51 said:
If you define selfish as "my way, or the highway," so be it. Better that than two years later having one partner say, "EWWWW, you like THAT?" Most of us frankly discuss what we like and don't like up front. If the puzzle pieces don't fit, they don't get put together.
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Is this statement incorrect - Most submissives have had anal sex.
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Why would that matter?Eating_Scarlett said:
Arden
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I can't answer for others, but here are my thoughts.Eating_Scarlett said:
Submissives may not experience anal sex any more than the general population. Some of us have experienced it before and enjoy it. Some are introduced to it through BDSM relationships. Some love it, some do not. It is not a universal demand by all dominants that potential submissives have experience with anal sex. Sexual acts, alone, aren't the motivating factor for all dominant/submissive relationships. Sex is the icing on the cake.
Sex is sex, whether you consider yourself vanilla or part of an alternative lifestyle. Regardless of your orientation, you may or may not enjoy anal sex. I enjoy it, but there's a lot more to sex than just having anal. Having sex is a total experience, rather than a single act that defines us by our chosen lifestyle.
Do we want anal sex more than those not in this lifestyle? Probably not.
There's no right or wrong answer.
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Eating_Scarlett said:
the only backdoor i've been guarding is my own, so i can't speak for anyone else, but i've never had anal sex.
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Check your six ... often ... http://www.1st-vets.org/forum/images/smiles/icon_twisted.gifbunny bondage said:
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Eating_Scarlett said:
I have no clue. It really has nothing to do with being submissive.
I've had anal sex and can take it or leave it. Frankly, I had more anal sex before I went down this path than I have since embracing my submission.
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Eating_Scarlett said:
I would guess that more male submissives are open to taking large objects up the hershey highway than other straight guys. But that's just a guess.
As far as women go, I don't know. I read once that 50% or so have had anal. I have done my part in deflowering the puckered hole of both subs and nillas. But it is not a requirement. It would be a limit I would probably push over time. Especially if she has a nice ass.
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WriterDom said:I would guess that more male submissives are open to taking large objects up the hershey highway than other straight guys. But that's just a guess.
As far as women go, I don't know. I read once that 50% or so have had anal. I have done my part in deflowering the puckered hole of both subs and nillas. But it is not a requirement. It would be a limit I would probably push over time. Especially if she has a nice ass.
I did not feel compelled to give E_S an answer. I personally do not care if it or any other troll gets enlightened.
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Johnny Mayberry said:
Exactly. anal sex has nothing to do with D/s or BDSM it is a sexual preference that goes across all barriers. I think that the troll is just baiting everyone here. By it's own admission it said it would not justify it's lifestyle to anyone, yet everyone seems to ignore that fact, and as a result all they are doing is jumping through it's hoops.
Dance Marionettes, dance! E_S and that other person who was sent here by it or another troll is here to pull this forum strings.
I for one will do what I do best, insult the living hell out of them all, as long as it amuses Me to do so.
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Ebonyfire said:
If you don't want to answer - DON'T. Get a life! Don't you have anything better to do than to let the world know you're not going to answer? Who's the troll here anyway? I'm looking for information like it is described in the sticky information.
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Thank you. http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/daisy.gifAngelicAssassin said:
I really don't see the need to be consistently abusive. Why has BTK51 been pegged as a troll? I haven't seen any particularly trolling comments from him.
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Etoile said:
Sure he has, what he said about the doms for once. Of course I do not care if you agree Etoile, if I say he is a troll, then that is what I believe to be true. Do you have a problem with that?
Also, I suggest you do some research as to what constitutes abuse. You do not know what you are talking about.
And another thing:
Just because you do not see the need, should that dictate to Me what I should do? I think not. If you do not like it, then do not read it. I am not here for your benefit.
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Ebonyfire
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WriterDom said:
And Your point? If you think you can impact Me, then you are mistaken.
I have been very blunt about why I am posting here. If you have a problem with it, then too damn bad.
And BTW, I am flattered that you have counted MY posts, I would never waste the time to count yours!
Have a nice day.
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Ebonyfire said:
And 'he' said, "Also, I am more disdainful of the DOMS than I am of the Subs. " In case you are confused, that means that 'he' has distain for all of us.
Troll.
