I don't get it.

[JennyOmanHill]

but maybe I will if anyone responds and I read this when I get home.
Disclaimer: I'm single so this is why I don't get it.
It seems many of you are in relationships here, online, that are very intense and real. Also, many of those same people have spouses or SO's. Thirdly, many of the people who have the aforementioned, complain about their marriages and relationships.
Why stay?
Not judging, just asking. I can't imagine being in a loveless or unhappy relationship.....and be willing to stay there, especially if I had met and developed a relationship with someone whom I felt things could really work out and offer mutual love and happiness.
What gives?

Thanks, Alexandraaah, for this thread. I too have wondered about how people handle simultaneous off and online exclusive relationships.

I am a single woman and fell in love with my online 'Man (divorced), and now consider him my boyfriend and lover offline as well. Although we are not yet sharing the same time zone, we plan to. Oman knows more about me than any other man has in my entire life. When we met offline it was a magical experience, and we have become part of each other's daily life.

I am surprised at how many "exclusive" couplings are online here, especially those who have s.o.'s and children to begin with. (How do they find the time for online "connection"?)

I post on the board independently from Oman, yet LIT is always secondary to any time I can spend exclusively with him. I'm not sure how things will be in the future, but it might be interesting to see how much time LIT will have of both of us when we're finally together! I don't expect to completely cut LIT off since I feel there are "friends" here who I'd like to keep posting with.

I appreciate this chance to learn how others are affected by this online/offline involvement.

 

[alexandraaah]

You can't.


Alex...I am not condemning your choice of thread...but I think you have chosen a fairly flammable subject here. Until you are married or in a permanent relationship, you cannot truly understand what makes others do what they do. Everyone has a different coping skill to get through their lives...being online just happens to be one of them.

I don't get it.
but maybe I will if anyone responds and I read this when I get home.

Disclaimer: I'm single so this is why I don't get it.

It seems many of you are in relationships here, online, that are very intense and real. Also, many of those same people have spouses or SO's. Thirdly, many of the people who have the aforementioned, complain about their marriages and relationships.

Why stay?

Not judging, just asking. I can't imagine being in a loveless or unhappy relationship.....and be willing to stay there, especially if I had met and developed a relationship with someone whom I felt things could really work out and offer mutual love and happiness.

What gives?