I Define Myself by Those who Call Me Friend.

[zipman]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: I Define Myself by Those who Call Me Friend.

I do have a couple different thought trains running along the same track. I hope to be able to put them together sometime.

My friends really are the defining factor of my worth. It's their quality that shows me what value my life holds. I think that may make sense only in my own head, though. I'm having a tough time spelling this concept out.

Okay, let me try this. The quality of a human life can only be measured in how they touch the lives around them and the character they build inside themsevles enables them to interact with those people honorably, decently, and truly. If I have people of quality who choose to spend time with me, that shows me that my character is in the right place - that I'm making the sort of impact I feel a person ought to make. Their reactions to me help me modify my behavior which more often than not requires a modification of how I think or react or some other part of my character.

Did that make sense?

Jim,

I do understand what you are trying to say. I guess I just disagree with you. I remember reading once that one of the signs of true generosity and character was when a person does a good deed but never lets anyone else know about it. The reason is that some people do deeds for the recognition, and not because they feel it is the right thing to do. Also, the impact you make in the world can extend beyond your circle of friends.

However, I do agree with a lot of what you are saying, just not that it is the only or main criteria for determining self worth.

 

[ridddder]

I first I thought this was just another inane thread about how you like to defile yourself by those you know. However, upon closer inspection it is something wholly different. It has a good point, but it is long winded and drawn out. For the sake of brevity, please now break up your posts into multiple parts so those who have ADD will feel able to peruse your comments in the manner in which they should be read.

Thank you-

 

[Guest]

Oh those --er-- that eye!

 

[Guest]

Sorry, JMJ, I got distracted. I was going to say that, from the side lines - and purely as an observer, you seem to be a thoughtful, sane and gentle person. In other words you are a nice man, don't be so hard on yourself......

 

[Guest]

Merry Christmas from a friend.

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Ditto!

It's been a treat to see you post on this board, JMJ. Stick around ... amongst friends.

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

"Some people see things as they are, and say why? I dream things that never were, and say why not?".

--George Bernard Shaw


Your friends aren't judging you or looking for flaws. They accept you for who you are, that's why they're friends.

 

[CatEyes]

I think people are too hard on themselves. No one is perfect. Everyone has their good points and bad points. It's who you are deep inside that really matters. It's how you treat people that comes across. You'll have people that love you and people that hate you. Your self worth has to come from yourself. You have to be happy with who you are, it doesn't matter what other people think.