I can't relax, I can't watch porn, I can't do anything.

[human_male]

I had a heated altercation at work that nearly ended in fisticuffs. We reconciled and a day later the guy acts like it never happened. I'm not used to things like this though and I'm still unsettled. I can't stop thinking about it and going over it in my head. I can't relax and do anything I enjoy, in particular I can't imagine ever being able to get in the mood for some porn and a wank.

I tell myself it's all over and there's nothing to worry about, but I'm having trouble putting it behind me. Has anything like this happened to anyone else recently?

 

[only_more_so]

I had a heated altercation at work that nearly ended in fisticuffs. We reconciled and a day later the guy acts like it never happened. I'm not used to things like this though and I'm still unsettled. I can't stop thinking about it and going over it in my head. I can't relax and do anything I enjoy, in particular I can't imagine ever being able to get in the mood for some porn and a wank.

I tell myself it's all over and there's nothing to worry about, but I'm having trouble putting it behind me. Has anything like this happened to anyone else recently?

I hold on to such feelings for a long time. Much longer than other people even seem to remember the incident. As corny as it sounds, the only thing that seems to help me is a good night's sleep. It's like warm-booting my brain or something. Sometimes the first night's sleep doesn't take because I'm too worked up and I don't get much shut-eye. But the second night, I'm generally so tired that I drop right to sleep.

Oh, there is also the workout until you pass out school of thought. I don't really do it myself, but a couple of times I have ended up hitting the gym after a bad incident and I find that between the exhaustion from working out, the single-mindedness of sticking through the workout and the endorphines surging through my skull, that I don't mind so much any more.

 

[NippleMuncher]

I do the same thing HM. Reliving, remembering, and not letting go of an event is your minds way of working through the trauma of the event. Hell, I'm still reliving events that happened when I was a young boy and teenager, let alone some of the crap that's happened as an adult. I personally think that it's more the way that sensitive people work through things, partly because the events are so opposite of their personality, partly to reassure themselves that they "did the right thing", partly to absolve themselves of "wrong doings", and partly to remember how they felt so that they don't make others feel the same way. While I've worked my way beyond most of my life's transgressions and "weird" moments, they still crop up every once in a while, reminding me how I felt during those situations, and helping to guide me through similar circumstances today.

You don't have to like the person or the event that occurred to let it go. Just recognize the lesson to be learned, acknowledge it, and move on.

 

[human_male]

Thanks. It helps to know it bothers others as much as it does me. It's still bothering me and it's been three days. I doubt I'll ever forget it, but I hope it won't be much longer before I can stop thinking about it all the time. I can't get the guy out of my head. I'm not so much upset anymore as I am angry. We've reconciled, and I really want to put it behind me, but I just keep seeing his face when he first got into my face, and I keep thinking how I flinched slightly when that happened.

I also realise I ignited the whole thing by overreacting to something, but that doesn't give him the right to abuse and threaten me. That's what I'm so angry about. A little part of me wants to actually have it out but that's stupid, I'd just get my ass kicked and be in a worse state than I am now. I just wish little things didn't effect me so much. Some people just seem to be able to shrug this kind of thing off.

I guess I'll just have to ride it out and hope it fades sooner rather than later.

Thanks again.

 

[Carnevil9]

I hope you are feeling better by now. If not, well, that's why God invented martinis. I recommend four or five of them, stat......Carney

 

[human_male]

I hope you are feeling better by now. If not, well, that's why God invented martinis. I recommend four or five of them, stat......Carney

Thanks, I'm more or less over it, but I can't get the prick out of my head. I'm uncomfortable at work too. He seems alright now but I'm anxious at the thought of running into him. There's no way to know if he'll go funny again. If I could just get him out of my head it'd be fine. Who knows... maybe something really good will happen to me and I'll be able to obsess about that instead.

I don't drink, but I've been thinking of taking it up.